Let me start off by saying that never to fall in love too quickly is just a simple advice on how to weigh your options carefully before making an important decision in your life.
You got to admit that to fall in love too fast or too quickly smacks of rushing headlong into the unknown. Because that is what love is most of the time: a journey into the unknown with the destiny of another person as companion.
You might meet a girl or a guy who is unbelievable in ways that seem perfect for you. That is the first impression that normally gets us to think we are in love almost immediately.
But with time, we begin to notice the chinks in that so called perfect persona. These flaws might be big enough to leave a lasting psychological damage on us.
And all these happened because we fell in love too quickly or too fast.
There are many sad stories out there of people who fell in love too fast. They never had the benefit of reading or knowing about the pitfalls of a move like that.
However, life being what it is, even with hindsight, you might still make the mistake of falling in love too quickly over and over again.
But at least, you’d know what is happening, and if things end badly, it would be a bit easy for you to handle the trauma after the affair.
So, let’s take a look at the major reasons never to fall in love too quickly.
To fall in love too quickly might make you unstable
Because nature has wired us to always seek a soul mate, there is the tendency to feel incomplete if we are single for too long. We might became desperate to get a partner at this point.
Invariably, when we find a partner, the desire to keep them at all cost could lead to a situation where falling in love is the only option.
The thing about falling in love too quickly is that the emotions involved has a way of taking over our whole life. You stop functioning on so may levels just to satisfy your emotions.
Many tasks are left undone as you tend to your new love. Basically, you become unstable as you are increasingly fixated with the idea of your new love.
I am sure people that have gone through this understand what I am talking about.
To fall in love too quickly is pointer to your low standards
People with high standards never fall in love too quickly. They are meticulous in making sure the person they finally choose to love ticks most of the required boxes. These kind of people fall in the ENFP personality type according to Meyers-Briggs
On the other hand, falling in love too quickly might be an indication of how low your standards are. That is, if you have any standards in the first place.
You just fall in love because the person gave you a warm smile and a hello. Or because you liked the way the person walked. The bottom line is, your reason for falling in love is most time, just mundane and spurious.
That is a sign of how desperate you are to have a partner at all cost.
It is a sign of low self-esteem
If you find yourself in the category of people who fall in love quickly, it is high time you took a break and consider working on your self-esteem.
Falling in love too quickly is a pointer that you need other people to give you a confident boost. That is, on your own, you are very weak and insecure.
Again, it is wrong to link the health of your ego to another flawed personality. Because whether you like it or not, everybody is flawed one way or the other.
To fall in love too quickly is a sign of being too clingy
For every 10 people who fall in love too quickly, it is almost certain that all 10 of them are the clingy type in relationships.
These are people who can’t be happy unless they have somebody to call a lover. Their happiness therefore depends on others.
Alone they are almost always sad and depressed.
This is wrong on so many levels.
One of the most recurrent fallout of clingy and dependent people is that they tend to end up chasing their partners away. Nobody likes to be with a clingy and dependent person.
They suck the energy out of our lives.
It is a sign of immaturity
I remember when I was a kid. I fell in love with almost every pretty female I met. The list was endless.
I was in love with my teacher, I fell in love with the cute girl sitting beside me. I fell in love with a cousin 20 years older than me. I was in love with the girl next door and the girl living a block away from us.
It was a pattern fueled by simple immaturity and childishness. At that point, it was harmless because I was just a kid.
But a matured person falling in love too quickly is a sign the person is yet to outgrow that kiddish behaviour.
People like that don’t understand one simple thing: growing up means you have to dump all childish behavior from your life. Or nobody would take you seriously.
These are the major reasons never to fall in love too quickly or too fast. Can you think of other reasons why this is a bad idea? Please do tell us about them or even the experiences you had because you fell in love too quickly in the comment section below.