First of all, this is not going to be a rant about how nasty ladies are or even a piece about the nonsense women get up to. It is just a guide on the sort of ladies to avoid dating from talking to so many men. This is all about the frustrations men have with certain women.
As a man who is into dating, you would have to put up with many crap from the ladies. Sometimes, you just have to find a way to make the relationship work plus the crap . And sometimes, the best option is to cut your losses and walk away.
Walking away is not as easy as it sounds though. After investing time, energy, emotions and money into an affair, you might rather just suck it up and stay in the affair. Besides, it is not that easy to start a new relationship.
To avoid the unhappiness and and constant frustration of being with the wrong girl, you might want to give a serious thought to the types of ladies to avoid dating.
This is what this piece is all about. How to make sure you avoid avoid future frustrations and unhappiness in your relationship.
She is addicted to social media
This is a big red flag for me. A lady who needs her life to be validated by virtual and real friends on Facebook or other social media must have real problems.
For a girl like this, you are not enough to satisfy her love needs. She needs random people to come online to tell her the things she needs to hear.
How can you take a girl serious that rushes to social media at the drop of a hat? She has headache? A new post goes up about how she is suffering. She buys a new shoe? Another post on that. Social media is a diary of her offline life.
With a girl like that, the danger is rife that she’d consider you secondary to her activities on Facebook and other social forum. Or worst, she’d think you don’t care for her enough if you don’t give her the sort of compliments she gets online.
If you notice you intended is seriously hooked on social media, do something to curb it or just run away as fast as you can. You would never be happy with her in the long run.
She is addicted to selfies
This should be at the top of the list of ladies to avoid dating. A girl who loves taking pictures of herself is as bad or even worse than those addicted to social media.
A selfie-lover screams one thing to the whole world: self-centered and attention-seeker!
Don’t you get angry with ladies taking selfies anywhere they are? In the bathroom, in a car, at the mall, etc. And just posting it online so her friends can tell her how awesome her life is.
There is a limit to what is acceptable or not. Selfie addicts should be avoided if you want happiness in your relationship.
I call this type ‘frail sally‘ because they are always complaining about being sick or unwell or something is not right about something and you should do something about it.
They remind me about the story of the boy who cried wolf once too often. By the time frail Sally is really in serious trouble, you won’t know. And in this case, doing nothing would have serious consequences.
However, it’s not your fault because you are basically tired of listening to her complains. So your default mode is listen and do nothing.
Again, if your ambition is to have a fulfilling relationship, frail Sally is one of the ladies to avoid dating.
Addicted to her phone
Some women are so glued to their phones you would think they were born with it.
Either they are talking with somebody or they are chatting with someone. With women like that, it is either you accept you position as second fiddle or take a walk.
My advice is, take a walk. Your position as second fiddle is not even a sort of compensation for the stress you’d have to put with.
Simply put, you can never compete with her phone.
Treats your home with disrespect
It is common decency that when you go to other people’s home, you show respect and follow the rules.
Some girls don’t just care about that. The minute they get into your house, they treat the house as if they are owed a big favor or the house should be privileged to have them there.
They mess up your home. Leave thrash and stuff just about anywhere. When you tell them, they become rude and tell you not to be so uptight.
You want to avoid girls like that. If it’s not in their nature to be respectful, there is little you can do to make them change. A lot of grief is what you would get from them in the long run.
Insecure women are ladies to avoid dating
Insecurity in women can show up in many ways. One way is that she could be very jealous. This is the sort of girl that would question every single thing you do.
She’d want to know who you talk with on the phone. She’d come to your office to check out your colleagues to make make you are not close to that pretty receptionist.
Every woman you talk with is subject to intense interrogation. With girls like these, don’t be surprised if she fights publicly with a perceived rival.
The only thing an insecure women can bring into your life is unhappiness.
She knows too many guys
It can be really annoying if you can’t take a romantic stroll with your girl without some guy stopping her for a chat every hundred yards. How do you react to that situation?
Keeping quiet is not an option. You’d only die of pent-up frustration. On the other hand, telling her you hate it might look like you are the jealous type. It is a no win-situation for you.
If you are looking for a serious relationship, a lady like this is to be avoided by all means
This list of ladies to avoid dating is not complete yet. Watch out for the second part of next week. Meanwhile, share with us your experiences about different kinds of girls you dated and what you went through in the comment section.