Relationship love at times can be confusing when you get to a certain stage of your love life, you will begin to wonder if the relationship you’re into really worth it. You will come to think of it that does this guy really mean this love and question like this will want to help you to know where exactly you’re standing in his life.
There are signs that show if your boyfriends truly love you and these signs are all you need to know to really access the kind of love he’s showing you.
When you first get into a relationship, issues like this, don’t even come to your mind really but as time goes on, even if it is an infatuation kind of love, it gets faded away before true love can set in.
But you need to be sure of your position in his life, you wouldn’t want to waste your life and time with someone who doesn’t have a future with you. The earlier you know these sure signs that show if your boyfriend truly loves you the better it can be for you.
Feeling insecure sometimes is a part of experiencing love, it’s normal and at times all of us feel it now and then. But what matters is what your lover does to reassure you, and make you feel more loved which will build your confidence level in your relationship.
Signs that show if your boyfriend truly loves you
Take a look at these signs that show if your boyfriend truly loves you and make your decision on where exactly is your position in his life and this will help you to get more focus as to concentrate on the love or move on to secure a better relationship that has something positive to offer you.
1. Communication
If your guy really loves you, he will want to communicate with you at every point in time no matter what. He will talk more often to you than any other person in his life, even his friends will receive much less communication than he talks to you.
You will become his number one priority and if he tells lie in his communication, you can easily find out through Eye detect and discreetly made it known to him without getting him offended.
2. He gets captivated by you
Have you ever caught him in the act staring at you when you’re busy doing something else? It’s a sure sign that he really loves you and he wants to get more of you and can’t wait till you’re free.
3. He can go all the way for you
if a man truly loves you, he can do all things for you to make you happy at all time even if it’s something he does not enjoy doing ordinarily. He can even go all the way with you to the market and help you in your shopping.
4. Together time matters to him
A guy will go all the way to look for how he can spend more time with you than any other person in his life, spending time with his best friends or family will surely take a back seat and the time he’ll be spending with you will take the front seat.
5. The impression Continue
The impression he gave you that won you over will not stop after you’ve become his girlfriend, he will continue to make it happen again and again and even extend it to your family members as well.
6. He Loves hugging you
He will hug you for no reason at all and hold you for more than a few seconds thanking you for being part of his life though he may not open his mouth to say this but right there in his mind is making the statement.
8. Your thoughts are always on his mind
He can’t stop thinking of you always because he has you as a top priority in his life. For you to know this, call on his attention at times when you know he will be busy doing something elsewhere to come to assist you in sorting something out, he will go all the way to come around and help you out.
9. He flaunts you
Because he loves you, he can talk about it in front of any damsel that he knew before and make you proud because he is sure of his love for you, something guys who don’t really love you cannot do.
10. He let out his secrets
He will share with you the secret he has never shared with anyone before, the secret that he’s afraid of telling his friends so that he will not be mocked. He will be open to letting you know those secrets because he trusts and loves you.
11. He’s not judgmental
He will not scold you even if you’ve done something wrong, he will just let you understand in a friendly manner what you have done and at times he may even try to pull your leg but is just to make fun of it.
12. He’s changed his world
If a guy truly loves you, he won’t mind changing his lifestyle all because of you, he can miss a crucial game of football that even you yourself know very well that he loves. He can as well miss a movie he wants to watch and put you first to attend to your need before his.
Now I believe, you have no further doubt about the love he has for you when you see these signs that show if your boyfriend truly loves you.
Should you have any questions or comments, use the form below to let us hear from you and we’ll do our best to respond appropriately.
My boyfriend do care for me and even talk to other girls in my present, but he does not pick some girls calls in my present, I want to know if he’s. Real to me.
Hey Sandra, because your boyfriend do not pick calls from certain girls does not make him unreal, if he cares for you enough and you love each other, you don’t need to worry too much except if there is another thing you’re not saying here. guys will always be guys and the same things with ladies, the opposite sex will keep in contact with you whether you like it or not.
If you trust him enough, you can ask him why he does not pick some girls phone call, let him tell you the reason if you care to know, but I don’t think you have much to worry about it.
My boyfriend and I started dateing two days ago and im afraid that my boyfriend does not love me and that it really is my exboyfriend wanting to date me again and is
my boyfriend loves me alot…he’s much than u mentioned above
Yap,al d 12 things u write,is exactly wt my bf is.i even try settin up wit a galfrnd of mine,bt he didnt even pay an attention ear 2 her,but wil kip telin her dt he luv his galfrnd so much nd cnt cheat on her.But d problem ryt now,is dt he ask me 4 sex nd i am scared,bcos if he rely do,he wnt ask me 4 dt.nw my ques is,does he rely luv me by askin 4 sex?pls i nid reply.
Am dating with a guy for about 3 months and some days but we hav already known each other for 3 yrs now but now i don’t think he still love me becos he donot have the above mentioned signs but another guy is asking me for a relationship and he hav almost the 12 signs so what should i do now am comfused
If you’re sure he doesn’t have those signs, you can just walk away from the relationship and look for someone else who has what it take to be in a good relationship with you.
I can tell you, you don’t really the new guy, so, you can’t just conclude he has all the 12 signs, please look well before you leap into another relationship.
My dear you don’t have to give him the sex because he wants it, give
it to him when you are ready and when you feel it’s worth it, yeah it’s possible he loves you, but still you have to give him some reasonable reasons why you haven’t even loosed it before meeting him….. don’t just be fooled by his words because guys changes
how to knw if ma g.f truly luvs mi
Ebukaaaa! You can know that by how she treat you, your friend and your family. If your girlfriend truly loves you, she will love because of who you are and not because of what you have.
Well I don’t have a bf but my best friends show all dis 12signs ..he is so lovely and caring
There is a guy i love, but i don’t know how to express it.. I need help please
There is nothing wrong to love a guy and even expressing it but where the problem might be is that, most guys will want to take such expression for granted.
What you need do is that, get closer to him and let him sense it but don’t offer any words that suggest you’re dying for him, it is the responsibility of the guy to ask you out. If the guy has another person, during your conversation you should be able to know and that will mean, you have to move on and forget about him.
It will be totally wrong to continue expressing love to him thinking that he will notice you and ask you out, even if he notice you, his thought about you might not be clean because he knows you’re aware that he has someone else in his life.
Pls what is the best and matured gift you can give to a guy,tha he may value so much?
Individual guy has different taste, if he’s your guy, take a look at some of the thing he value in his life that you can buy for him. But generally, a good wristwatch will be ideal and again that depends on if he’s a guy that love to wear wristwatch. A T – Shirt also will make some sense, but it has to be quality one and not just anyhow T-Shirt.
Hey, well done. But there is an issue that we need to look at from your writing. The part that says he would continue his impression. When a guy is dating a lady he is well to do anything to get her to love him more, but when his efforts or the little things his doing is not appreciated he begins to slack. And this can also lead to the death of what you two have together. It’s also natural for a guy to naturally withdraw from a lady he loves. When he does this give him space. He would come loving you more.
My guy and me have dated getting to two months now… He does all this that you mentioned above and he also have proposed to marry me and he is God fearing but d issue is that by august he will b going for a nine months training and thre wnt be any communication cos they will sieze their phones and its anly when he comes back we will do the neccessary thing…and i trust him…. Pls i need advice cox now he is planning to follow me to d house and he is not yet ready financially bc d training raquires money
Hello Ifeoma,
Let me approach your issue this way, two month seems to be too early to actually know much about anyone in relationship, whether it is a guy or a girl.
Although your gut or your mind might be leading you in the right direction but you need to take sometimes and access the situation with different probing questions.
If he propose to marry you within two months, how serious is the proposal, what happen to other guys you’ve had relationship with in the past as per their promises that were not fulfilled today, can you really wait for nine months for him to get back after that training and still hold on to yourself without having any secret love affair with another person, is the training involves only guys or ladies are included too?
There are many more questions you need to ask yourself.
If he wants to follow you to the house without financial commitment and you’re satisfy with it and you know your family will not reject him. I will say there will be no problem as far as he can keeps to his promise.
My real concern is the 9 months without communication, it is a long period dear, if both of you believe it is workable, then go ahead but if your mind is telling you otherwise, please think twice.
I pray everything should work out for you guys.
I wish you good luck Ifeoma.
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hi.my boyfriend and i ave been datin over a month but he refuses to pick my calls..this as been going on for a week how will i know if he truely love me
I lv my b.f nd he lvs me to but for smtym nw we are nt moving well cus he saw me wit a guy which i’ve told hm about. I need ur advice pls. dis a yr we’ve dated.
Hello Tonia,
What did you tell him? Have been able to convince your boyfriend that there’s nothing between you and the guy. Go to him and plead with him, not every guy can understand that, there is no way their girlfriend will not be found in the company of other guys which are just friends.
By the way, how did your boyfriend meet you and the guy that resulted into things not moving well again?
Please in plain words, I don’t like reading short hand words, I most time ignore them.
Thanks
Hi, my boy friend and i have been dating for about one year now but yesterday he told me it was over between the both of us and he doesnt want to tell me why he quit the relationship and the funniest thing is that he was happy with me in the morning did he truly love me
Something is wrong somewhere, he can’t just take such decision without seeing something he can’t cope with.
You may have to find your way around it and ask him to please tell you what went wrong and promise him that you’ve wont take it personal with him.
I have a b.f,he has a girlfriend,but she is far from him,he walk up to me,he told me hewant me to be has friend were he is stilling nw,I said ok,but each time he talks with her I will get angry,which if I ask him he will say,that love me more,idont knw what to do,if I should still or not.
You got let him go, his mind is still with the other girl, no need not waste your time with him and wait on empty promises he made to you.
It is your life and not his’s, take a walk and you’ll find other guys who are interested in you. Until you set yourself free, you may not be able to listen well to other guys with genuine intention.
Wishing you best of luck Emelda.
my guy loves me and promise to marry me. but he is living wt other girl
Living with other girl can mean different thing, why not find out from him, the reason he lives with other girls and not you that he promises love. If he can’t defend himself well to your conviction, you’ve got to leave me and look for someone else that’ll love you live with you.
I have just one question to ask. My boyfriend is not romantic and anytime I try to let him know about this…he always say that he can’t change..cos he was brought upt hat way..please what can I do?
Your boyfriend has to change, if he was born into a family leaving a poverty life, would him not desire leaving in a more comfortable life?
He is carrying a wrong mentality and he MUST CHANGE HIS MINDSET about not being romantic. No woman will stay with un-romantic guy, even if he has all the money in this world, at a certain stage the woman will leave him to go after men that know how to be romantic.
This maybe hard on you but the truth is that, if he’s not going to change, you need to look for another boyfriend who’s romantic plus every other good qualities you want to see in a guy.
You can’t stay with someone with wrong mindset, you’ll be dissatisfied every time and you will only feel being used even having having sex with him.
Tell him and teach him how to be romantic, tell him to start with little things you are sure of and that turn you on, I’m sure with time he’ll understand why good romance is part of a healthy relationship.
But if he’s not ready to change, I warn you now, leave him before you start to feel lonely and depressed even if you said to have been in relationship with him
Thanks for the advice..i so much appreciate..but then I think I need to make some things clear here..i don’t know maybe because we’v not had sex that’s why he is acting this way.I don’t know to to teach him on how to be romantic..and him acting this way does that mean he does not love me?
I’m 22 years old now. I still believe in my mother’s adage which says (until a man learn how to love like a mother,then there can be true love.)..I’m still a virgin.and have promised to live a virgin till I found a man that will love me like my mother. Pls I don’t know if I’m getting it confuse. Please I need your advice.
I don’t think the one you’ve found is the man and so, hold on to your virginity until you’re convinced beyond every reasonable doubt. If you’re ready to live for the rest of your life with a man that is not romantic, you can go ahead with him and if otherwise, shine your eyessss
I think I need to make something clear here..it is not upto 6month that me and my boyfriend started dating..nd we haven’t had sex since then..could it be the reasons for his actions?
What action are you talking about, do a guy need to wait for six or above six month before being romantic?
He doesn’t and he need to learn, tell him what turn you on and your own definition of being romantic so that he can learn how to please a woman, you don’t need to have sex with him before you discover if he’s romantic or not.
There are lots of romantic text messages on this website that your boyfriend can learn alot from, tell him to come read them or give them to him to read and learn how to be romantic and what it takes to be romantic.
I’m a lady of 33.. I have this guy who I love most, we have been dating for the past 4 months but known each other since 2009 as friends…
The issue is, I want a kid but him since not interested.. I think I am ready to settle with him, is he ready to commit or is he still searching… Help
He’s not ready to commit for now, it is possible he still want to really know you more than the casual knowing of each other since 2009. Although 4 months is not too small for both of you to struck a deal about long-term commitment, but he might be thinking you’re too desperate because age is not much on your side.
You both need to sit and really have a kind of heart to heart talk about it, if he’s not going to be committed for a long time, he shouldn’t waste your time.
Just pet him a little and let him calm down before you introduce the matter and don’t tell him in advance you have to talk heart to heart, doing that may make him be preparing all kind of defensive way to avoid the talk or prepare to hide something from you.
Take him unaware for the serious talk and from his response you can know where you stand in his life.
I hope this help.
my boyfriend and i started dating 3month ago, the first month was like waking up me in the morning with chats everyday at a point he now stopped, why because he jokingly said something to me that i don’t like, when he left my house i thought about it grew angry with him, but i didn’t let him know about until two days after he text me and i refused to reply him because of what he said to me which himself did not know the word he said hurts me until i told him about it and now is behaving as if he doesn’t love again, but if i call him he wil answer me (yes dear) my confusion is did he still love me? please help me out cause i love him so much.
It’s normal, he still love you but he need to realize that at some point, he’s going to get you hurt and you too. Now the issue depend on his level of maturity, any guys that is really mature enough should be able to appreciate your telling him about what he said that hurt you and be able to correct it so that next time he won’t say such words to you again.
He still love you but both of you just have to understand how relationship really works as you’re just starting to learn it.
My boyfriend always scold me,tho he is older buh i dnt fnk dat is right.he collects money from me and has neva given me a dime b4.my friends said he will be giving out to other girls.i met his parents circumstantly cos i guess he didn’t want me to meet them buh i met them somhow.he tells me he loves me buh av neva showed it.he didn’t want me to meet his parents again.but anytime i wanna leave, he will do somthing to bring me back.he said he wants to marry me buh he has no plan for me i think. I don’t know what to do ,pls advice me.
Run as far as your leg can carry you. Why are you still there wasting your time?
Do you think he loves you?
Guys can date for many years and still still good even at their early fourties but ladies can’t do that and the better you understand this now, the better it will help you save your time and stop wasting that your precious time with a time waster guys claiming to love you.
Let no one deceive you, he does not LOVE YOU.
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Hi,i hav a boyfrd,we hav been dating for 5yrs nw.he promise he wiil marry me and he hav tak me to their family member and all his frnds,all of them knws me as his girlfrnd.i luv d guy so much and he luvs me bt he usually get veri angry when he notice that i get contant with any guy bt he hav 2much frnds in girls ,he told me dat.my parents knws him bt them dnt wat me to marry him becos he is frm ebony state and My parent dnt wat to see me with him again and told him dat he started crying and said he will neva let me go dis way and me too i dnt wat to loose him.the problem is dat i get another boyfrnd and we having been dating for 4months nw and he is madly inlove with me nw and he said he wil marry me bt is nt ready to marriage nw until 4years and am 20yrs nw and i luv d guy becos he is doing everytin for me.am veri confuse i dnt knw which one to follow,plz help me out.
Follow your heart but since your parent don’t want you to marry the first guy and you’re already dating another guy, then leave the first one and go with the your new found love.
You actually not love the first guy or maybe as a result of what’s happening between both of you, and that account for why you agree to date another guys. To double date often times is not always good for anyone, not just for ladies but also guys too.
Just follow your heart anyway and don’t be deceived by the few good treatment you’ve received from him in the past 4 months.
Hi, I have a friend in school that helps me in almost everything I wanted financially, he is very nice, gentle and caring. But he says he is only helping me as a friend and nothing more, and there was also a time he told me that he fell in love with me but withdrew the feeling cos he doesn’t want to love while he is in school. We had set several times, and that made me love him. He says he will discuss love with me when we are done with school. I don’t know what he is up to. Is it that he is hiding his feelings for me or he doesn’t want me and want to maintain a good friendship with me? He could have helped me too even without having sex with me. Please I need u to advice me on what to do. Tnx
Your friend is not emotionally ready to be in love with you and he’s not in a hurry to do that right now if according to your statement.
It might also be possible that he has another girl in his life that he’s not done with and he want to finish business with her and by the time you both finish your school, he can now come to you.
Sit him down and ask him serious questions why he want both of you to finish your school before he’s going to really show his feeling for you, let him know that there is someone else asking you out and you might consider that person but just waiting to confirm his desire about you. If he’s not going to be emotionally committed to you but just want to remain your friend, he’s hiding something from you.
Make your decision about what he says when you ask him these serious questions.
i am very much confused about my boyfriend.. earlier he used to talk to me a lot.. i dont know whats happening now.. since last 2 weeks he does not talk to me by messages even though he is online still do not reply.. i never found his mobile busy.. but we are talking over the phone.. still somewhere i am feeling ignorance.. please suggest me what to do..
My guy always ask me about sex, he always wants me to b romromantic but if I say that I don’t like to talk about sex then he says that if I don’t want to share my personal things with him then he asks me that now what he have to do?? Whom he go to share this thinGS if I don’t??? and also says that he will go to other girl who likes him n will have sex with her one night but also says that he really loves me and without me he will die. Now I want to know does he really loves me??? And m I have to get ready to sex with him??? Coz I really love him n he also loves me care for me.. Plz tell me is he really loves me???
I’m sure he loves you, any guy that loves you should not threaten you with having sex with other girls ans till claim to love you. Don’t because of his promise that he’ll die without you and fall for his tricks, death is not an easy thing for anyone. Take your time and ensure you’re convince before giving in else, you may be disappointed.
I will advice you for now, to not have sex with him, test his ability to endure with you and without having sex with you to determine how long can he take it and still remain committed to you and the one he really loves.
Hi Av been dating a guy for 5months now he love and really cares for me I fought with one of his friends last week it really got him angry that he told me neva to call his number again immediately I started texting and calling him to apologise but he was not picking my calls or replying my message then I called one of his friend to beg him for me and also apologised to the one I fought with, the fourth day I called him he picked it and told me he is not interested in the relationship again pls help me on what I can do to have him back quickly cos I love him and am not ready to lose him have not seen him since last week dat i fought with his friend cos our school is on Xmas break now and we resume by january 5
Hi Bimbola,
I know how it feel like, when the one you love try to ignore the fact that you love him.
But the truth is that, some guys use things like this to tell you that, they are not really in love with you in the first place, they are just pretending. They still believe their friend than the one they love and when anything happen between you and their friends, instead of trying understand the situation and end the contending issues, they go ahead to support their friend knowing full well that, that have no real love for the one they claim to love.
Let me tell you the reality of thing here Bimbola, that your guy do not really love because if he does, will not use things like this to end your relationship with him.
If his friends don’t like you, you will find it hard to enjoy his relationship with you, he won’t want to be separated from his clique and those friends too can influence his decision about continuing the relationship with you or not.
But I think, fighting with one of his friend is enough for him to be disinterested in the relationship, after all, you’ve settled your disagreement with the friend in question.
You can still try your best but in my opinion, you better let him go rather than wasting your time with him that value his friends thinking than yours.
You may feel the pain for now, but it is better for you because you will save yourself from further and bigger pain ahead. Just let him go and put yourself up for another guy who will support you even before his family not to talk of his friend.
I have a guy,we have been dating for 2years now,I don’t go to his place often because of my program in school but he do comes to my place almost all weekend, he introduce me to his family and friends,during this time I noticed he lied to me with a lots of things,e.g his position at work,academic life,when I discover I asked him he always say people are just saying trash abt him only d time someone mistakenly say it to my front in his presence that was when I asked him and he plead for forgiveness and I do,hoping he will change but still d same thing ,so when I finish my program I visit him often,later I travelled out of d country I told him when am coming back that am coming to his place he refuse until I went there without telling him ,I found a lady stuffs in his room,when he came back from work I ask him he said his one of his married man friend girlfriend that owns it and kept it his place cos of his wife,normally I don’t tell him I was coming back that day I just decide to come without his knowledge,now have bin there for about 6month ago but he keep doing many thing that is strange like ,after his working hour he will come back home instead of him to stay home with me he will come back home lates at night,even most time that his not a working hours period he prefer to hang out with friend or irrelevant person than to stay home,when his home that I even try to show him so love or a lovely moment he snub me and look me with some eyes like am doing what is bad or even concentrate more on TV program or chatting,moreso,when we have issues I realize he doesn’t care to settle with me until I go to him and begged him myself all most every time instead that time I always noticed his having a new girlfriend,anytime I shared my past or present with him he used it against me anytime we had fight, even at time he leaves me inside and go out to wait for a lady probably d one his trying to get her attention or new one,when he find out that am not happy he doesn’t even care to make me happy ,he shout at me most time even beats me when we had fight,he can go out for d whole day without even calling me to know how am feeling he prefferd to waste his call card with his friends on irrelevant talks rather than me ,I try to tell him what I don’t like abt his attitude and he kip promising he will change but to no avail ,and if I ask him what he don’t like about my attitudes he kip saying only that I don’t give him respect,I don’t know d kind of respect one as to give a man ooo am this type that I don’t club,I don’t disturb him of money or even social tins so I don’t know what to do …..d point now is I met a guy through a friend we have been chatting for 4month ago but have not seen him but I noticed anytime am down or not happy this new guy make me happy and even promise to marry me that if he finds out I truly love him like I said,I will b seeing d guy soon but am really scared and don’t know if I should leave this guy and go to the new guy ,the guy am with now really stood by me financially that the more reason y am confused,moreso he do show people outside especially my family side he do show to them like a gentle and cool person,that attimes even if I tell some of them they hardly believe me ,plz I need your advise…
Hello Folake,
If I want to give you my words as a form of advice here, it is to terminate the relationship with your present guy if all you said here is nothing but the truth. These are signs that, you’re being deceived by the guy, he cannot eat his cake and still have it. The truth is that, he’s not sincere with you and I think he does not love as much as you thought.
His eyes is still outside running after other ladies and that account for the reason why he doesn’t reason about you because, he believe he can get anything he want from other ladies outside. He’s just showing you what will happen if you go ahead to marry him, he’s going to cheat on you big time. Don’t be deceive with the money he has spent on you or because he has made you known to his family and believing all is well, my dear all is not well in this kind of situation.
You need to save yourself from future occurrences, heartache and hear-broken. Made it known to him that, you’re tire of the relationship because of the way he’s treating you and you can’t take it anymore, that you’re going to quit the relationship anytime from now.
It’s insanity to keep doing the same thing and expecting new result, if he doesn’t change now, he’s not going to ever change, just ignore his empty promise that he will change.
Take your time to ponder on how you will live your life with such guy that treat you like this when you’re in a relationship, how much more are you going to endure when you get into marriage with him. A word is enough for the wise.
As per your new found guys, please take your time before agreeing to enter into relationship with him, for the fact that he promise to marry you does not quarantee that he’ll marry you or you’re going to enjoy the relationship. Don’t just get out of one relationship and enter into another one immediately, take your time to evaluate what went wrong in the first relationship and promise to do your best not to repeat the fault coming from your own end in the new relationship.
Above all, please follow your heart but don’t allow anyone’s promise of I love you to becloud your sense of reasoning. Think well and observe well before venturing into any relationship, and any relationship that doesn’t recognized or appreciate the kind of person you are does not worth taking lots of your time before you move on. There are better option out there that will suit your life style, though no one is perfect but you can meet someone both of you can grow together in relationship and marriage.
Thanks so much for d advice…I really appreciate, I pray God will help me and direct me because am so confused ,he keeps treating me like that inside and act like a good person with perfect behaviors outside, seem to b like am d bad person in front of people,he never appreciated me,Romantic his zero and if I try to correct him and tell him what I want he always said if am not okay with him I should look for another person,There was a time he saw d guy txt message on my phone,he beats d hell out of me,later i begged him and made him realize i wasnt doing what he think,i made him realuze his pushing me out with his attitude.but still he dont care,since then he has bin using it against me,,mostly when we had little fight he mostly says d highest thing I will tell him is am not instrested in d relationship, I mostly got weak with such statement…
my fear is am leaving his place soon and we gonna see after a year cos of my program, am going to d country d new guy is ,but I have d fear that d person am with now face to face that is treating me this way what if I leave him for d whole year…and I know him for one thing he can wait for me for d whole year just to convinced people am d bad person ,maybe when I leave him for another…..Am d only one that knows how his treating me.,but am scared what people will say or qualify me with ,Even if I want to take any decision I just want to be sure if such man can still b okay after marriage or am d one making me mistake or if all guys are d same ,just want to be sure before I go into another relationship
Honestly I love this blog highly educating ,I learn so many lessons ,I pray God will increase your knowledge and bless your home too @Anthony
Folake just save yourself from all of these heartache and end the relationship with him, he has nothing to offer you. Don’t look at whatever anybody outside want to say, their say or thought can NEVER determine how you’ll live your life. Marrying someone who’s treating you this way is more like getting into battle you already know deep down in your heart that you CANNOT WIN.
Any man that raise up his hand to beat his girlfriend when you’re still in relationship shows you that, you will even be beaten mercilessly then you get into marriage with such man. Run for your dear life my dear. There’s always a better person out there waiting to meet you and treat you well enough for you to marry him.
It is your life and it shouldn’t be determine by what people say. Remember that whether you do good or bad, people will still talk against you while some other will still talk in support of you. Don’t live your life according to people’s opinion, whatever that happens to you, you’re going to carry your cross alone and no one will help you.
Just quit that relationship now and some years later, you’ll be glad you did.
I have a bf he loves me and he keeps saying it al the time but m scared hs with me cus of pity and the little favour hv dne 4 him we hv issues we settle hv bn with hm for 2years weneva m worid about us and he askes me i tel hm m scard he always says he loves me and his nt leaving me that his prayer is fr God to bles him so he cn treat me more rightly and i wil knw he cares m stil scrd i love hm so much it affects me to the extent i cry myself to bd wheneva we have issues
from all the points shown above, I can tel that my boyfriend really loves,sometimes he goes the extra mile just to prove his love for me.Now that I know that he really loves me I will forever treasure him
I’m happy for you Franziska Browney, hold on to him, don’t let other babes snatch him away from you.
my bf usualy cal m b4 very wel,nw he hd stp cal,wen i ask,he wl say dat he z out of cash,an card,am fed up
I really don’t understand my bf.he has introduced me to his family.. but yet he acts somehow sometimes and I don’t understand that. Especially when he is with his friends sometimes (not all the time)he will talk to me in a funny tone.. Then we had a little misunderstanding and he stopped picking my calls or calling me.. Its difficult for me not to communicate with him. What is it that men really want.cos I never make demands from him in anyway. And I know I have been good n faithful to him..
this guy work up to me and said he want me to be his girl friend mean while i have known him with his girl friend and when i ask him about his girl friend he will ask me to forget about her,we started dating and each time we are together he do ask things about marriage and also always putting me in his feature ,sometime i plan to live the relationship he will plead and ask me to stay .am confused i want to know if he truly loves me or just want to play and go
Demand you want to know what happen with his ex and ensure he’s telling the truth. From what you’re saying here, he might mean it but just to be sure because guys something can go any length just to get you committed into what they know is never going to last.
When a guy is seeing you in his future and talking about marriage when you’ve know each other for sometimes, he’s probably ready to go all the way with you. But don’t close your heart and instinct about every details you can gather about him, you can smell if there’s anything fishing in the way he’s leaving his life.
Most time our mind see beyond what we can think see clearly with our eye. Follow you mind, if your mind is telling you not to go with him.
I met dis handsum luking man on chrismas day he ask me out an i made a little shakara 4 him an agree 2 his peposal, we so much luv oursalves dat a day if we dont talk 2 oursalves we cnt stay, i guest it was all bcuz we never new oursalves den bt cauld belive dat da guy fell in luv has reveal his original self 2 me? His nt romatic , nt carin, cnt treat a lady dnt no hw 2 dress properly say tinz dat re very annoying an senceles, atimes listen 2 his frdz advice. So am confuse wheathe to stay or live i realy nid yr advice
Nobody should force into a relationship you never want, please leave the relationship if you think the man is not good enough for your kind of person. It’s your life, do what that pleases you and save yourself from the stress if you don’t love him anymore.
but always remember that, there’s no perfect human being here on earth, but just look for someone you believe you can actually leave together even with his imperfections.
Hi tony luv yr advice keep it up. Am in a relationship wit a guy hve nt met 4 four years, he loves m so much,he care 4m n he promise to marry m. Each time he asked 4us to meet n I gve him excuses, he lives in Benin n I live in awka. just yesterday I told him its ova bcos guys hve dated mde m cry. he said I can’t leave him afta hve put him in bondage nt to date any gal,he also told m dat he has no gal friend except m n I told him I dnt luv him mxh, pls wat should I do?
My boyfriend cheaT me ,, but he dont know regarding this,, what can i do now ,, i cant live without him,, but i dont know he loves me or not ,, or he loves her ?
Ask for him for time together where both of you can really talk important matters, if he gives you the time where you can sit and discuss it, let him know that he cheated on you and tell him how you get to know about and let him tell you why he cheated on you. I’m sure the reason will not be good enough to justify why he cheated on you but you can either give him second chance provided he has not been doing it before to tell him whatever is on your mind (to quit or not).
i av bn wit a guyfrnd for a 1yr nd five months nw,wen we met,he was rly a brokn man due hs past relationship wia he loved d gurl dearly.tru out d whole yr,he nva sd he loved me nd he always mde sure he tld me dt we re nt datn,so i dnt gt ahead of myslf…but ds man,never for ones treated me badly,he always shows he cares abt me but always says he’s scard of loving and wen i try to leave him,he wldnt let me,vry persistent.jes recently he tld me he loved me and he dsnt love the fln cos he’s scard…we stl not datin and im not in a hurry,im willing to stay nd show him dt it’s alryt to love again…i jes wna knw if im doin the ryt tn by stayin bk wit him
There’s nothing wrong in staying back, if you feel save with him, so be it and enjoy your relationship with him
i also wnt u to knw dt hs overly sensitive nd a vry emotional pesn…all you mentioned above he does all nd evn more but neva says a word…unless hs complimentn me or teln me hw scard he is of al dt hs fln,we spnd quality tym togeda,he’s just a man any woman wld love to b wit,cos hes dia emotionally,physically nd financially.smetyms i forgt dt wt we re dsnt av a name attached to it.
i got my boyfriend on facebook he is far away from me ,from last 4 months we are in relationship we have fouught many time ,then he doesnt txt me or call me but aftr somedays he cum amd say dat i did tympass with him and started luvng me agn but m confused weather he loves me truely or not
You’ve got to give him some time and let him prove his love for you. Don’t be quick about it, if he has disappeared before, he might still do it again. But if after some time, you see the seriousness in him, you can consider his love as geniune love for you but you have to be careful assuming he really love at least for now.
av dated my bf for 8months and he has shown me to his parents and siblings. but the problem is that he hardly calls me, a times he wont call for a whole day though we chat on watsap.Arnd feb period we had quarrels for 4days, on d day we reconciled I noticed a love text he sent to his ex, he kept apologizing saying that he was tempted after out quarrels. I accepted him back. but my problem ryt now is that he hardly calls.he only calls well after quarrels and thereafter d calls begin to diminish and this is my only problem wt him and it really makes me feel unloved and disturbed
Av complained about it to him countless times. he shows care after d complaint afterwhich it diminishes
Something is wrong somewhere, though he supposed to get in touch with you every time, but it is not compulsory he does that if he’s not financially capable to call you morning, afternoon and night. I’m just guessing about this, but you still need more work to do because, you might not be the only one in his life. Just as you have said that, he still contact his ex whenever you guys have little quarrel. He is still having a devided attention presently and until he focuses on you before you can get the best of his attention just as you want it.
You still need to continue talking to him about how you feel, if it is only when you express your dissatisfaction to him that he seems to pay more attention to you, then you’ll need to get him this way.
If trully he loves you, it shouldn’t be long before he let you understand why he has not been able to meet up with your attention.
You still need to learn more about him and understand why he does behave like that, the truth is that, there’re people like that and until someone let them understand that, they can’t help their relationship like that, they will hardly changed.
I met a guy on my bus stop we board a a bike together he said he was my guardian angel then after that year we started dating we had a lovely beginning but he seems too attached to his ex girlfriend when I asked him he will say that nothing will separate their closeness, then I said to him to continue with her if he so much loves her why is he using me to cheat on her then he will say the girl is yoraba that the father said she most marry a yoraba guy and he is from delta that he wants to marry me but each time I see the both of them am a very jealous type and my love started depreciating. In his phones he has a lot of her pictures and not even one of mine if I complain he will tell me that I don’t send him my pictures, he gave me an old laptop which I told him I don’t like because is always hot, when he got a new one I even helped him to access it to see if it was ok later I found out that he no longer have it. I asked him said he gave it out when I asked him who he then mention his ex girlfriend’s name I changed my mood he now said he doesn’t regret anything he gives to her after a few days we had an argument I reminded him of how he gives what belongs to me to another person he then said that I didn’t appreciate the one he gave to me that is why he didn’t give it to me. If I ask him for money he will rise one excuse even saying that if a man wants to marry u he test u to see if u are the type of girl that will quarry because of money I have to bear it but am really tied
Hi anthony my boy friend is romantic but i dont know if he truely loves me,he as never opened is mouth to say he loves me sometimes he look at me in the eyes and i cant jus tell wat is running in his mind.he holds my hands wen we walk in public he even kiss me ones in public.but we started to date last month and b4 i agreed to date him he told me alot about is ex girl friends and that the one he wanted to date b4 he got her cheating.they seperated febraury he said is plan is settle down this year.but he went to some people to find out about my kind of person.but b4 we started he do call often but now i even do d calling more but he still chart wit is ex girl friend on wat sup.and he always tell me to b a good girl and that he dont like lies and ladies that cheat.pls how will i knw how serious is he.and wat do i do
Maybe you still need to give him sometimes to make up his mind about you, it seems he’s still attach to his ex, it is even easy for people these days to tell you that they love you but deep down in their hearts, they don’t love. He might just be one of the guy that don’t joke with “I Love You” and when he says it, it really mean it.
Meanwhile, if you’re not getting what you want from him, please I’ll advice you end the relationship and wait for someone else that will not just show you love but also tell you he loves you and coming from his heart.
I have a boi frnd, we have been dating for 5 years now and he has been cheating on me and still tells me he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me.
Buh am not sure if he really mean those words, bcus most times am with him he received calls from different types of numbers and they are all ladies. what should i do please!!!
If you’re not satisfy with what he’s doing, please just leave him and look for someone else that will really love you and have your time without cheating on you.
I have a boy friend, we have been dating for two years now, I aborted over five pregnancies becus of him… and spend so much money on him, he is now dating another girl and I am pregnant for him and he was telling am the source of all the atrocities happening to him. Now am confused becus i love him so much, how can i be the source of his problems, is it bcus of the pregnancy. Please tell me, what can i do?
You’ve taken it too far, how can you abort for a single guy five times and he’s till treating you this way. To make the mater worse, you’re now pregnant for him again and he’s dating another girl right now. That’s barbaric from him and you too has let yourself down for too long. I hope he won’t ask you to abort the pregnancy again?
I don’t know what to just say about this because I’m annoy with you. Your present position now does not show that he really loves you but whatever may be the case, just know that,he has no love for you.
sometimes i feel my boyfriend interested to me but more than not.
is it the sign that he not truly loves me?
please i have been dating my boyfriend fr a year plus now. We had the best time ever together like we wre meant for each other. He left out of the country February and i hv not been able to cope. I always miss him so mch. I miss wat it feels to be loved to the extent i always have the urge to cheat which i dnt want to do. I cant cope wit distance relationships. Please what do I do?
What did he travel out for?
For greener pasture?
For Educational purpose or just for visiting relatives.
You need to understand the duration of time he’ll be returning and if the time is too much for you, discuss it with him and let him understand how you feel. Now, it still depend on your age, there’s no crime in waiting for the person you really love and if the love is reciprocal even after he has left for some period of 6 months, you can still wait for him, you just need to control yourself. But if not, then tell him you can’t cope with the relationship and you’re ready to move on in your life.
Pls I want an advice
Have been in a relationship for close to a year, my boy friend loves me to the extend that he cries with me whenever am crying. he console me whenever am troubled, we are so deeply in love. but what i dont like about him is that he smokes weed. i have caution him to stop so many time. he will heed to my plea for one week. but go back to it the other week. and he does that through the inflence of the friends he keeps. sometimes i put him on condition that if he does not leave smoking i would leave him (i even tell him that he have to choose between me and weed ) which his response is to plead and cry that he cant leave me. but i hate smoking and i cant do without him also am confuse. should i continue with him or break up with him. because i cant afford to have a smoking husband(bad influence to my children in the future) but i rily love him. all i want is if there is any advice on how to stop him. and i want to know if hw would be able to stop………………………….. i am a student and he is also a student he does not smoke when ever we are on vacation. there was a time i wanted to call his mum attention to that but he beg me that i should not kill his mum. right now as i type he is in his smoking joint ‘smoking’ please help me out
You have a touch decision to make in this situation you found yourself. The truth is bitter and if I want to tell you the truth, you will have to face the reality. How can a young guy who’s a student be smoking weed?
I’m happy for one things, which is you get to know that he’s actually smoking it. With this evidence alone, the truth is if it I’m the one in such relationship, I will quit.
I personally detest people that smoke ordinary cigarette, let alone smoking weed, that’s too bad for a young man. It’s not even good health wise and if you continue to stay with him, it will affect you too, and I’m afraid, he may not be able to control his temper one day and start beating you after he might have taken his weed.
See, if you know what is good for you, please just leave the relationship, it may pain you and give you lots of emotional dissatisfaction, but you will be better off in the long run.
Let me tell something shocking, your guy is most likely belong to a cult, I can bet you this, 90% he’s a possible member of a fraternity in your school.
You need to do something fast about it before he traps you into where you can’t leave him again.
Since you have worn him to chose between you and his weed, and he has decided to chose his weed, I don’t think you still need to remain in that relationship. Forget the love, you can always fall in love many times over when you meet the right guy. Stop giving yourself emotional trauma at this stage of your life.
Just start quietly giving him distance from now and don’t fall into his false crying to persuade you to stay in the relationship, he’s possibly never going to stop smoking weed now especially when he still keeps those friends. I don’t think he loves you, because if he does, he would have left smoking and not just ordinary smoking but jaja-weed. Even if you tell his mother, he will denied it and he might bounce on you to either harm you or send his friend to frame you up.
My dear, run for your dear life and go through the emotional pain now that enduring if forever.
Am in a relationship with this guy bt he dont call me to know hw am doing he normally do that once in a while bt i do call him all the time to know how he is doing?and if i dont call for days he will not call?PLS DID THIS GUY HAVE ANY LOVE FOR ME
It is possible he’s not into you as you might have thought. Please give him some space, if he needs you, he come to you. If he didn’t have you at heart, he will continue to ignore you and not calling you.
Or, is it that, you’re pushing it to much?
Some guy are really slow starter especially if they perceive the female is adding more pressure to the love stuff
Hi my .bf use to call me bt for past 3 years now he has not give me money or buy me any thing does he truly love me? We are now 4years of relationship. I don’t know if he still loves me or not.
Learn to be independent. When a woman always collect from her man and depend on always getting something from him, such woman don’t always have much value before the men. The men will think, without them, such women cannot do anything.
Just learn to be independent, nobody want to carry burden anymore.
I really dnt kw wha to say. My boyfriend loves me buh wnt show it. He hates committment. He doesn’t communicate with me. I really don’t understand his own type of introvert. I really don’t kw wha to do. He isn’t caring. Should i leave him? Just advice me
I don’t think he really loves you if he can’t show commitment. He’s probably not the kind of guy for you. Just leave him and stop giving yourself headache over him anymore.
I..met my bf last yr june n we started dating, he was so.carin n we lov each oda. buh am.gettin.jealous cos.he removed his relationship.status on facebook.n put single.i asked.him abt it. N he told mi nt to.wori or get jealoud dah he loves mi. he introduces mi to all of his friends, n am vry close wif his friends he knws my friends 2. I.asked him.1 day dat wat if i get pregnant 4 him n he told mi i..must get.married b4 i get pregnant
Does he truly lov.mi
He’s telling you the fact now or did you want to get pregnant out of wedlock?
The onus lies on you now, you need to know how to keep yourself from sexual activities that can lead to pregnancy.
What’s really telling is that, if you get pregnant, he will ask you to abort it if he still wants to continue with you or he run away from you and disown you, that he knows nothing about your pregnancy.
You can always use his words to hold him, if he wants to have canal knowledge of you, since he does not want pregnancy, he should learn to stay out of sex.
So, let that sink into you right now and know the kind of guy you’re dating.
He does not want pregnancy, whether he likes to have sex with you or not, I don’t know about that, but the truth is, without having sex with you, you can’t get pregnant, especially for him.
Sir, i have a bf. Our parents knw da relationship. He says me get ready to marry him next year. Nw he is working abroad nd wil come in next year. My problem is dat he is always chating with his x girlfriend who is a close reltive of him. When he is in leave he usually visits her home. She knws our relationship. Bt he doesnt like to show her chat messages to me. When i check his phone he deletes all her messages. I told him i am leaving him bcz of his privacy. Bt he would nt allow me to leave. He continues his chat wit her. I cant understand him. Wat should i do? I feel lonely
You guy has issues, I don’t think he really loves you. Please take your time to confirm all necessary details you need and put it to his face. If he can’t stop whatever is going on with his ex, you should just walk out of the relationship. Don’t allow him to use you in the name of promising you marriage next year.
i have a boyfrend and we have been dateing 4 4 month nd i dnt know any of his secret nd b4 i agreed 2 date him he call mi lyk 6 times a day but now am d 1 doing all d calling and i think i made a mistake by telling him how much i love nd cant do without him…if i say we should break up he will be pleading nd telling me he cant do without me he do cry atym begging mi d fact is i dnt know if e truly love me am cirously comfuse and i love him with all my life but we usually quarrel over little thing
hi, i badly need ur advice pls am so confued ad very sad am 27yrs I use to date dis guy for four yrs but I left d relationship on my own ending of last year cox I find out I luved him more cox he happen to b my frist love but he love me too but he hv dis promble of womanlizing but we r so close dat many gals envy n my area but nor of them kn wat am passin tur cox am d jealious type. it all started 2014 month of oct. we had little promble he visit two gals to house dey spent like two weeks later he came beggin I forgive him cox of d luv we share but I was really hurt after very tin one of d gals call to apologise which I told her was nothin but she advise me not to marry him I sholud just date him i kept dat to myself so since then I d luv I hv for started dropin after some months I traveled to see my family which I spent a long time dere he kept calling cox he is good @ doing dat so he bcum afriad dat I may not come back single so he came to my house to tell me perent he wat to marry me but I refused cox I was scare he will nt change, after like a month I came back so he gave me a ring which I refuse to aspect was hopin to watch him more during all dis period he wat me to go pack my things ad start living wif him which I refused too so he started thinking I don’t luv him anymore cox I was really showin him but deep inside me I luv him so we had another promble again b4 than dere dis name bukyy dat always call or he call her one day I came to his house I found yoruba moive n d bed room which he don’t like or even understand dat it. so all dis make me unhappy he gv a fallow gal my number dat she wats to advise me I was pissed off I left his house dat day promisin myself never to go back cox he promise to change which he never did
during xmas period I tot he will show up n my villiage he never did cox we use to travel together to his place ad my place his family members all kn me, ad dat time I was heart broken I need peace ad joy n my heart so an old frd 4rm my village but we never dated but was kind to me ad my family so he ask me to marry him which I aspect but nothin was done so I came back earliy dis yrs he ask me to come over to his place which I did hmmm am months pergnant for him but I don’t feel anytin for him cox I was finkin I was use him to forget my ex, his kind, God fearing, gud hearted but hot tempered just like me. ad now my ex is ready to even take care of d baby. d day he saw me n my new look we shead tears together he was promising to make tins right now dat i should allow him to return everytin d other guy did as tradition requries if I will say yes but I kn I still hv feelings for him, am still pergnant ad am so confused cox dis makes me sad every day pls help me wif ur advice as a brother
My advice, if the first guy could not change even after all you’ve tried to do, then you should not that, he’s never going to change. If the man that impregnate you is ideal for you, please go with him.
Don’t because you think you love the first guy and made all the sacrifices for him get serious about being committed to the relationship, will make it all well at the end.
YOu’ve made the mistake getting pregnant for him, believing that, you just want to use him to ease the emotional pressure caused by the guy you love.
Just think about it. Now that’s telling you, he’s ready to take care of you and even the baby you’re carrying, I can’t be sure of his behavior as per something you don’t like in the past.
And if you believe, it’s your hot temper that’s causing your being impatience with him, you can go ahead with him and learn to be patience.
we have been dating since 210 I give him my pried and I love him so much he just called me telling me if I see someone I should marry DAT he is not ready for dat but I told him dat I will wet for him and I ask him if he will like to marry me but he said he can’t tell for now. pls help me I don’t understanding him anymore what do I do 08140901546
i’av been dating my guy for four years now at first everything was smooth and sweet but with time we started having some mis understanding but we always make sure we settle our differences and I know he loves me because he told his family about me and I know them.but my question here is can my guy be too busy with work that he can’t call me to know how I am evening when he knows that am sick.please I need your advice cause am so confused here
I don’t think so, it is possible to be busy at work but not calling even when sick is not proper. It is possible you have don something to him before you fell sick, that keeps him away from you and not knowing you’re sick.
Please amend any confusion between both of you and try find out what might warrant him failing to call on you when you’re sick. I guess is that, something is wrong along the line but that does not mean he doesn’t loves you, except if he continue doing that to you.
hi AV been dating a guy for 5month now he love nd really care for me nd I also love him but the problem is that is a corper nd by October he will be leaving nd am nt sure may be we can see each other till next 2year but that is nt the issue the issue is that we re both the same genotype AS nd AS nd I am confuse I don’t no wat to do nd I have promises my self nd always pray dat whom ever dat disvirgin will be the one to get marry with wat can I do
Hey Laide, you better let him go and not return to you. Don’t play with your genotype AS should not marry AS, it maybe sweet for both of you now, but the bitter pills is surely coming when you begin to have children.
I bed you in the name of God, please let the guy go and look for someone who is AA, forget about your promise to yourself now, if you had taken that promise seriously, you’d have demand knowing his genotype before you start dating him.
Thanks
Hi Anthony what you did was good, she asked for an advice and you gave her, buh that was a wrong one. We’ve seen many cases like this and yield positive result, and the children will never be SS. Even the worst of it which is HIV/AIDS, people get through them, forget it,they can get married and have more healthy kids. You are not God remember and this girl here is talking about true love, if you know what it means you wont advise her to let her love go. Thanks
That is in your own myopic opinion.
You don’t know what you’re talking about.
If you have even gotten closer to anyone experiencing such situation, you won’t be here talking your point.
You think love is all about the feeling you’re presently having now, when the real test of love comes around, you’ll understand what it takes to not channel your love to where you will curse the day, you actually fall in such love, that brings you pain and discomfort.
I pray you’ll never experience such thing in your life.
Hi, I have bin dating a guy for the past 4 yrs. We luv each oda so well, he is all u wrote above and more. We are staying together but our parents does not know. He says he wants to marry me bh he has to start working first. The problem is we are not practicing the same religion. I am scared my parents will not accept him, bh he said my religion does not matter. We luv each oda so well, pls advice me on what to do
hw can i know my bf stil loves me?he doesn’t cal n if am to complain al he say is dat he doesn’t fancy al dis callin tins.am tired of complaining al d time .he doesn’t even like to my complain wat shld i do n again am a year older dan him but he doesn’t show it
Probably he’s not mature enough or he has not enough money to make the call and as a result of that, he frisk out.
In all honesty, I don’t think your boyfriend is ready for the relationship. It is not possible to be in love with someone and said, you don’t fancy calling your partner. How then will he build the desire rapport in the relationship.
I will advice you, if you can’t take it anymore, please find your root, hoping that he will change is a long thing. If you complain about it, he picks quarrels, then what are doing in the relationship with him in the first place.
I beg, find someone who will have your time. Every woman in relationship always want to hear from their lover and it give them joy in such relationship. I can feel your frustration, just leave him and be happy with yourself and stop being lonely even when you think you’re in relationship.
He is finishing his degree program by march nxt yr,i knw his parents and siblings and dy knw me he knws some of my family membas.he was blaming me dat its bcus i dont com often 2 c hm dat he has bn missn m so he cud nt contrl it n me i dnt want 2 be hving sex wit him i dnt knw if it wil end d relationship.n dis wan he is demanding me 2 help him wit #2000 nt dat i dnt hv it but i dnt knw wot 2 do(4rm wot he sed dat afta his youth service as soon as he gets smting doin dat if its 4 marriage right his parent can )am scared plz advice me nw i beg u wit GOD t
Don’t be deceive, be on the guard. Lots of guys use marriage after service to deceive lots of ladies and after the service, it is one excuses or another. Follow your heart and not because of what he’s promising you.
I and my ex have been dating for two yrs now but i left him last month bcos he always demand for sex,he’s also d one that disvirgin me. whenever i ask him for money or anything he will be giving me an excuses i bear all d excuses with him coz i love him with all my heart,i usually say “money is not love” but i think he is mistaken dat statement and he dnt like double dating i think am his only gf. He never remember my birthday since we av been dating ,i celebrated my birthday june i waz at skul den xo i expect him to call or message me but i didn’t receive any cal frm him dis made me angry xo i called him and i told him am nt interested in him again he also didnt cal me back.last month i met one of my senior at sec skul and we started dating and am in love with him,suddenly my ex bf cum to my place last week to beg me and i told him am datin anoda guy but he insisted i shud accept him back.right now am very confused dnt no which one to chose mayb my ex or i shud continue datin my senior
Can you still accept what your former boyfriend had done in the past, that you’re not comfortable with?
If he repeat such act again, will you not call the relationship with him off again?
These are some of the question you need to ask yourself and also know that, nobody is perfect, we all have one thing or the other that’s not too good about us.
Weigh his goodness compare to what you don’t like about him and make your decision.
Your senior in school has not been known like your formal guy, but if you feel with the little time you’ve spent with him, you’re satisfy with who he’s, then you can let go your formal guy and hold on to the new guy you’ve found.
Thanks
I accepted my bf afta skul after 5yrs of serious proposal bck den in skul. W’ve bin datin 4 ova 4mnths bt b4 i gav in he’s already avin a gf. He luvs me xo much nd has introduced me 2 his mom n brodas I often visit him during d wikend nd we make out. He often talk abt d future wit me… Bt i’m stil nt convinced dt d luv is true… Anytym i ask abt d oda girl, he wil tel me dt he loves her bt he luvs me more bt dix same guy tld me dt d luv he as 4 her is meant 4 me b4 i acepted him nd i av tld him 2 tel d girl, bt he sed he doesnt av d mind 2 do dt… We used 2 call each oda vry well as well as chat bt lately, his callin rate reduced, if i chat him up on watapp he wont reply promptly if @ al he wil reply nd he wud b online. Dia ws even a tym i cald him n he sed he ws nt in d ryt mood 2 pik ma cal ; i tried persuadin him on watap 2 tel me wat spoilt his mood nd he ws lyk he doesnt want 2 talk abt it… I tried settlin issues wit him bt he wont hear me out nd kip tellin me its 4rm him nd dt he wont repeat it again nd apologised. I dnt ask him 4 anytin nd he hasnt given me anytin except transport fare bck hom 4rm his house. I love dix guy xo much bt i want 2 knw if he stil luvs me nd if i shud continue in the relatnship. 10x
Hi I’m 19yrs nd my guy is 26yrs of age, we started dating like 3months ago and during this 3months he never showed me emotions-he keep saying he’s been through heart breaks before so he don’t love any girl again, though he always said he wish he had meet me before then so he can show me emotions but hence I’m late he can’t. Honestly, I tried everything I could to prove my love for him but he always use his past experiences to take my feelings for granted. Unfortunately I got pregnant nd when I told him, he said I shouldn’t abort the baby-that he was going to see my parents and ask for my hand in marriage but having gone through on how he’s been treating me and the worst thing is that he is running a per time program in one or the University and I’m just a SSCE holder so I told him I was going to get rid of the baby. He precisely begged me not to get rid of his baby but because of the depression, anxiety I felt thinking of what will happen in future if he happens to be a graduate then who knows maybe he might end up choosing an literate girl over me and that we’ll hurt me more. So upon all those explanations which I gave to him, he end up accepting my decision but he always said he wasn’t happy with it. Eventually when I aborted the baby he told me that he don’t love me anymore because of what I did to him and his baby so he can’t pretend to be dating me when he know very well that he is just keeping me-that he’s gonna date whomever he feels like. I pleaded with him not to live me to be frank but he refused and told me not to worry that he believe that if only we are meant to be then definitely nothing can change and that even I can’t change. He also told me that we were gonna to be just friends but later on when I tried begging more and more because I couldn’t control my feelings, he end up blocking me and even get upset with his own sister who was against his decision. Well to cut everything short, he’s now in a relationship and still he hasn’t unblock me, so I called him when last and told him how we both have move on so I suggest he should unblock me but he said he’s gonna unblock me but at the right time. But to be honest ever since I left him I haven’t been on myself even though I try to ignore the memories we had… Though I’m also in a relationship as well in oder to get over him but the feelings ain’t just the same and every time I’m with my present guy he’s always noticing me even though I tried to control. At times I wonder if only he is experiencing the same thing but I guess he is not, so why can’t I do same?? These are the questions I always ask myself but before I know I’m already there thinking about him and I can’t even forgive myself for aborting my baby-don’t even know if my baby will ever forgive me for being a heartless and careless mother. Actually, I wish I can turn back the hands of time but when we’ve done we can’t take it back. Though most of the people around me always advice me to forget about him-that he don’t love me and that he just used that as an excuse to quit, but I’m still finding it difficult to move on because I still love him so much and my feelings for him can’t just change no matter how hard I trying every now and then. Please help me with your advice on what to do because I’m confused right now…
Confuse no more.
It is too early for you to be going through something like this, you should be talking about going further with your education and not trying to die loving someone who doesn’t love you as much as you’re trying to show how much love you have for him.
Please move on with your life, forget about him, you still have greater things to do in life and stop being confused.
I know you may feel hurt with the past experience, but you don’t have to let that forever hurt you and deny you of your happiness.
A lesson for you about guy, don’t open your leg for them just because he promise to love, the mistake you made in the past can still repeat itself.
Get into the relationship and let the person you’re going into relationship with understand your point at the onset of the relationship. But I think you should even be talking about relationship when you have gotten something doing with your life (schooling or learning something).
Hi, Mr Anthony. It happens that I had a friend inwhich we went to school together for like past four years ago she do tell me her past very well and I does too even her boyfriend who breakup with her a year ago she told me about that too, but as times goes on I started having feelings for her but i didn’t tell her directly I only told her friend then but her friend said she dont think that can happen between both of us due to her familly. But since then i started calling and texting her time to time. But suddenly she just keep on asking me to visit her in the school but am not chanced to do so, so i dont call her for like two weeks. and few days ago i saw her missed call on my phone and i called her back so i was now telling her that i saw her call so she now said yes that she has heard from me since that’s why she’s flashing me. But what i noticed was that anytime i call her now she keeps on asking my mum, sister including my sister’s children, which she dont ask before. Please advise me on what to do…. I dont care if you send it to my E-mail @[email protected] thanks
I don’t know what advice you want me to provide for you here.
If you want to go for her, go for her and if you don’t want to, tell her your mind.
It’s simple.
hi, plz I need your advice. I am dating a guy for over a year & some months now. he works but the funniest part is anytime I visit he wouldn’t give me t.fare back home. I noticed after d first 2 months. I called him & asked him y? he said I am a big girl..I kept him quiet. but later on I kept on visiting because I believe in change. but I realized I have not been fair to him by not buying him a gift as a lover. I started buying him gift that are not much expensive because I don’t want him to know my worth because guys of these days are funny likewise ladies too. but even at d lil gift I give to him he hasn’t for once given me just a flower or a pen as a gift. one day I asked him if he’s seeing someone else that he should tell me..everly he said no….but of a truth I sense he’s seeing someone else because he hardly call me unlike wen we started . but I love him so much I don’t know how to go about it again. plz I need help ooo
Since he has not open up that, he has another woman, I think you should continue to show him love. You might be right about him seeing another woman but you should understand that so many guys does this, though not right.
Some do it just for testing which of the ladies is good for marriage or something similar (I never support the idea, just stating the obvious).
But please don’t because of love and give him everything including sex, that might just be another way of enslaving you into the relationship even though, he knows he may not end up with you.
Sometimes guys are very good in the beginning of the chasing and the starting of the relationship but once they are able to get you, the amount of energy applied get reduce before it pick up again. But if it’s going down for too long, then something has gone amiss.
Don’t be too attache to him anyway, you might even ignore him for some times and see how he react about it.
If he loves you, he will come calling you but if otherwise, he won’t bother himself about you.
This will give a guide about your relationship him if there has never been sexual intimacy between you both.
Em 20 n hv a bf hv bin dating fr close to 2yrs I luv him n he luv MI too, all of a sudden tinx change, he no longer calls MI he travel cus of sch n nw he z on brk he z refusing to kum c MI, he doesn’t show luv anymore n nw em getting tired buh still luv him I wanna brkup buh he’s Makin MI feel guilty n nw I call him cus hv bin calling him fr 8months all alone buh nw I call he told MI to end d call dt he’s cousin sis has kum……. Wah kinda tin z dt I feel he has Sumone else I gt angry n told him to Jex gt out n he end my call…… N he didn’t flash MI as he promise xo after a week I call him n he z actin strange n end my call again…… Wah do u think I shld do nw em confuse I wanna brkup buh it’s seem em d one dt gonna gt hurt
i truly love my bf lot.. he too do the same .. we are together for 4 years he share everything with me, cancel his cricket match to spend time with me .. but when i ask him of future he says nothing and tells me to see other guy.. i am confused whether i truly love me and some day marry me?
He may just love you for the fun of it and not ready to get married to you.
He just enjoy your company and not for marriage.
Please look elsewhere for your love, he has already told you, to go see other guys.
So, let him go, you can only feel lonely for awhile but when you find your love, you’ll look back to the day you left this present guy and give thanks to your God.
Evening Mr TONY, i wrote on dis blog on June 16 of dis year asking u for ur advice which u did, and to My surprise like u knew what is going to happen.
Sir TONY am short of words, juz want To thanks a million times and more grace to elbow, pls permit me to say in mother language:: e se gan ni o, ile ati ona yin o ni baje ooo…. amin
K,i’ve been dating this fuy for like 4months now,i realy like him a lot but I dnt think he loves me that much.i like calls a lot nd he’s nt realy a call perso nd wen I talked to him about that he would always have an excuse for not calling.when we are not together,he wont call or chat me up but if I go to see him,he would act as if he is madly in love,then we would have sex nd he would go back to his normal self.am so confused because whenever I complain about his attitude towads me he will always reassure me that he loves me…but he is not showing it
I think he has an issue confronting him that you know nothing about.
Until you find out what’s the thing that’s taking his attention when you’re not with him (it might be he’s seeing another women or he’s not just really into the relationship but love the sex part of it).
So find out and take your decision base on your finding.
Thanks
Hi mr tony,am martha by name,i hv a b.f of which i loved him xo much nd he luvs me 2,nd we have been datin 4 over 3yrs,nd he is a student nd me am just a ssce holder.i do ask him 4 marriage nd wenever i do ask he will tell me he is nt ready 4 mariage dat he is still skulin,xo as tym goes on i told him i was pregnant 4 him nd he said i shuld keep d pregnancy ,nd i replied 4 wot hw i cn i keep d pregnancy wen u said u re nt yet ready 4 marriage,nd d home which i came 4rm u cannot be pregnant wen u re nt yet married,wot i meant by married is fully married xo i told him abt it nd he still insist dat i shuld keep d pregnancy,i was so scared,becos i dnt wnt 2 loose him, nd d next yr i was planin 2 traveld out of d state,xo i took d pregnancy dwn 2 d state hopin 2 terminate d pregnancy of which i did,xo we get in torch on facebook nd he was askin me were am i ,i neverd told i was travelin xo lete i told him dat i traveld dat hv left d country nd he was angry den wot abt his baby den i lied 2 him dat our baby is fyn ,xo i met a guy dere in d state who proposed 2 me dat he want 2 marry me,nd i replied we just met nd u re askin me 2 marry u.den he said dat he is tired of dating ,he needs a wife nt a gurlfrnd nd dat i worth it,nd he so much luvd me,den i was confused i ask him 2 give me tym 2 think ,he said dere is no need 4 me thinkin dat i shuld just tell him if i will marry him or nt den i said yes, dat my was let me be watchin him den afta sum tym i realised he is a kind of man any woman will wnt be wit.den i started luvin dix man ,everytin was goin well nd he was promisin me tins of which he did all,xo i told my former guy abt d new guy nd he was very angry wit me,bt i explained my self 2 him tellin him dat he dnt hv 2 be angry wit me becos he caused it,since he said he is nt ready 4 marriage xo nw dat hv found sum1 who is ready,xo last yr i and my new found lover came back 2 nig nd he did everytin he has promised,b4 d introduction of him meetin my parents nd his own parents,i went 2 my ex 2 tell him dat am gettin married o,he started begin me nt 2 get married nd beside we neverd broke up,i was d 1 who ran away wit his child nd nw am tellin him dat i wnt 2 get married,dat i should stop d weddin den i refused nd left his presence,den afta d introduction my husband 2 be traveld back on a business trip,he said wen cums back dat our weddin will take place ,since den we hv been chatin on phone every day ,he has been sendin me romatic texts,me 2 hv been sendin mine just 2 make sure i keep my relationship save wit him.2 curt d stroy short we luv each oda,and am very sure he luvs me,he left dis year january nd since den hv nt been cheatin on him hv been sincere 2 him.bt nw i hv a problem my ex do call me on phone ,tellin me he luvs me nd he want me 2 cum back 2 him dat he cnt do witout me.nd i told him am engaged he said he dnt fuckin care,rite nw am confused dnt knw wot 2 do.
You said, you’ve done introduction and you’re now confuse over what to do. I beg o, please make up your mind and stop putting yourself into unnessary confusion.
Let the first guy knows, you don’t have a baby for him less he will accuse you of taking his child to another man. If you love the new man and you still want to continue with the marriage, let him know what is on ground and stop seeing the first guy again, even when he calls don’t pick it any more, otherwise, you will getting into confusion as per who to actually follow.
hi i meet a guy last year and he want having a crush on me we started dating.i love him and he loves me too he did all of the above and we was staying together but in Febuary this year i went to school and he started ignoring my calls and texts and in june he started texting me claiming that he loves me.we dont yet meet he often tell me his screat and send me money for my school need,i dont ask him anything,but i still douting if he loves me still
I guess you both don’t take time to understand each others need. The relationship is till young and as both of you seemingly still young and still have a long way to go about love and relationship.
Just take your time to learn along the line and the relationsip grows. He may have realise his mistake for ignoring you for the few months but ready to continue with the relationsip with you.
Still continue with him as far as both of you have not agree to go separate ways in the relationship.
Relationship is full of ups and downs. Just ensure you make use of the time spent in the relationship.
Hy everyone, pls i nid ur help, Am between the devil and the deep sea. Presently am in a relationship wid two guys ‘1st and 2nd date’ combine together wid reason bt nw i wana settle dwn wid one bt i dnt no wch to go.
(My story) I fell in luv wid my 1st date at the age of 18yrs afta my waec in 2011 gettin to 5yrs nw. Bt my problem wid him is dat he is nt financially balance bt he has possess all the above expression wch convince me dat he really luv me, although he tried his best to make me happy by sharing d little he has wid me, i ws nt still ok due to my condition xo i had to get an helper wch i later fell in luv xo deeply dat i couldn’t discontinue til nw bt my problem wid him is dat i dnt knw hw much he luvs me although he keep on tellin me dat he so much luv me. D main problem is dat he hardly call me lyk my 1st date does.
Now, what am trying to say is dat I WNT TO SETTLE DWN WID ONE
bt d questn is, wch should i settle wid? Is it my first date dat i knw he really luv me only dat ders no money bcos he’s still a student and he won’t even plan of marriage in d next 2yrs although he keep on pleading me to wait for him to finishd skul, get job dem cum for to marry me. OR should i drop him n move forward wid d second guy dat is already balance now waiting for me to accept his engagement ring so dat he can come n marry.
Pls i nid advise
Let me start by asking you this question.
What skill have you gotten for now?
Education wise, or technical or artisans.
It is easy to want to settle down but consider the implication if you don’t have anything doing at hand.
You said you fall in love with someone helping you, I guess helping with money which the first guy has not been able to provide enough for your upkeeps.
Hmmnn!
Getting into marriage without anything in this generation will give you more headache than you can ever imagine.
I guess you fell in love with the second guy because of his pocket.
And if I’m right, you’re going to have serious problem in the marriage if you go for that marriage.
What stop you from waiting for the first guy, if truly as you claim he loves you.
My dear, two to three years or even five years is not too late for you if you’re waiting for the right guy that loves you with whom you are.
2011 to 2015 is just 5years plus your age 18yrs as at 2011 is just around 23yrs of age.
I’m not saying you’re too young to get married, but if you don’t have anything at hand that you’re doing, my dear, don’t go into any marriage.
Assuming you have something doing, something that is earning you money that you can even stay independently without the guy assistance, it could have be easier to consider. But with the reality of ground, go get something worthwhile doing before you say I do to anyone.
If I were you, I would stay with the first guy and use the opportunity for him to finish his schooling to go learn something tangible and earn a living from it for at least.
Thnks xo much Mr Anthony, for ur immediate responds. Am xo excited bt pls dnt b offended, here is another thing dat is bothering me: i use to see dis my second date in my dream nearly evry night, firstly we made traditional marriage together, another night, Wedding, another night i saw myself in his house as his wife, sumtymz i wil see him wid my family members and so on……… Bt I’ve never had such dream concerning my first date before. Pls is it dat my first date is nt d right person n he is d right person? Or what? Am really confuse. Sometimes u may say such a questn can b answered by a pastor bt i dnt care if u are a pastor or not. Am nt desperate of getting married bt i need to choose 1 bcos am tired of the combine service. Lol…
Pls help.
It is not about getting tired of combine service but choosing one and remain with the person.
When one is in love to a certain extent, you might dream of the other person at every point in time, but that is never a guarantee that the person is actually ment for you.
You need to understand what is called thought pattern. What you think most often can become your dream, it is a repetition of your thinking especially when you do lots of time.
I’m not a dream intepreter, but I’m talking to you in term of pshychology. I’m sure you love the dream and you woke up thinking about it the following day, that makes it to create some kind of pettern in your head, which will make it seems as if you’re 100% heading in the right direction.
You derive joy from the dream becasue it pushes you toward your benefactor as the ideal man.
Hmnnn, take some step back, and do proper thinking about it, it really worth it.
Choose the one your heart goes with, not because of the material possession or what you have been getting from him which is not that easy to separate your heart from his love, but who you see you have a future with, and then dump the other person without regretting it.
Then at the same time, if you decide to go with the second guy, don’t go into the marriage immediately, still take some month before you give a yes for a marriage proposal.
Men are deceptive and you can remember the bible qoute that says “The heart of men are wicked, but who will understand it” For this reason, becareful with the decision you make at this point.
Thank you.
U are really a great adviser, tnz xo much 4 ur advice. I wil try my best to b faithful to my first date bcos i luv evrytin abt him infact d way he brags abt me even in d mist of his Frnds makes me go crazy for him, he appreciate evrytin abt me an alwaz tellin me hw much he wil care for me wen he has money. He even go extra miles to prove his luv for me by using my pix as his Facebook profile pix wch my second date has neva attempt nor av any of my pix on his fbworld. More grees to ur elbow my dea adviser. Tnz @Mr. Anthony
Hi,i ve a boy frnd who is far older than me both in age,education and in life,he always cal to check on me but am afraid cox he has started taking bout marrying me which i tink am not yet ready for but he will aways tell dat ready.i dnt kno what to do cos am confuse.
If you’re not ready, let him know you’re not ready and don’t force yourself into something you’re not prepare for.
I have a boifriend dat I cherish so much but each time I ask him if he loves me,he would tell me dat he likes and dat loving me will come gradually. to u does it means dat he have any serious thing feelings for me?
I guess he just there to check you out if you’re the type of person he really want before committing his life to you.
Hi mr anthony,av read in ur previous comment of hw u advice singles,,i mst comment ur doin grt,and tnx to u for that,,,,pls my problems goes like dis,i meet d guy on fb,thou he sch abroad,at first was lovin and carin wen he came brk on xmas,i meet is family,,bf he went brk,we talk on chat sometyms or cals,and somtym send money for my schs and to take care of my self,bt one day a lady frm on is frd list added m ,wit d motive she added m i no somtin is goin on btw dem,so i pretend and startd askin d lady questn abt im and she said dey ar both engage,and i ask my man abt it and he said nuttin like dt,dt hes goin to group chat us ,bt lata he sent all d conversation i and d gal had,and said its ova btw us,and stp calin nor chatin wit m,so i beg and beg im,he said he has heard and dt he had nuttin wit d gal,so he start by chatin wit m,bt wount cal,and wen i demand for cal he wil say he doesnt have crdt,,even wil nt ask abt my exams he had beenin sendin m money to write or sendin m money atall .so we continue chatin,till he finely came brk,he came to see m,gv m some money bt i refuse d money dt it wasnt wot i ask im,he got angry,bt leta i beg im ,went to visit im and apologise durin our agrument he wil hit m,and say am isatiable,i complain alot,i allwas lik diggin abt im,,so afterwards,i came brk,bt he dnt nt cal m,and startd chatin wit m on wasap bt i ignore im cux of d way he treatd m,and he cald m wen he saw i wasnt replin is msgs,and apologis dt hes sowie,dt wotever he do to m,i shld forget dt hes my man,dt hes jst doin dt cus wenever i he gvs m money ,i either complain or refuse takin it,and i told im am sowie too,after dt we kip chatin,on wassap, and i lata learnt i dnt av crdt and i beg im to send m crdt he said ok,bt lata cald m and told m he sent it on wassap,and i told im ma phone was bad dt i cnt get it cus am nt online,he said ok,,he wil send it wit his phone,,, til den he stop calin for up to a month nw,even his new apartment he rented he doesnt want m to come visit im,,some days brk he sent m helo on wassap wen he saw m online,dnt even care to no hw i got d phone to b chatin wit im,and i ask im if i have done anytin wrong? He said no,dt he jst gvin m tym to change,dts all he nid frm m,and i ask im hw? By refusin m to come visit im,he said i wil come,i beg im to forgv m, or i wil move on ,he wil say i shld change dts all,dt he love m,yet hasnt cal nor talk to mm,pls am diein dnt no wot to do please help m
First, I don’t like responding to comment written in short form or shorthand, it gives me headache when reading them.
I only try to pick out some words from it and I think, there’s fire on the mountain top.
Another lady has taken over your guy’s mind, I’m sure, he’s just buying time before he say it to your face that, he does not need you anymore. Except something changes at this critical time, you’re almost lost him now.
If he said you have offended him, apologize to him and accept you’ve done wrong, don’t even prove you’re right at this stage because you want to get him back but if you can’t take it anymore from him, it is better you just forget about him and move on with your life.
Life is too precious to be wasted on somebody that does not value it.
my name is blessing an event planner and am in my 3yr in sch,,,I have been in several relationships,infact,my last relationship was 2 lead 2 marriage after our introduction he said whenever he prays abt d relationship he sees me wit som1 else in his dreams and weneva I pray abt it & even in my last relationships I always see them (d guyz)passing me in my dreamz,wen I was 2 go 4 my introduction in my last relationship I prayed and saw myself wit a friend of mine i met in school,we were just casual friends until we started dating weneva I pray concerning dis present relationship I always see d both of us 2geda and being emotionally attached 2 each other (which has Neva happened b4)nw I don’t knw wht God is tellin me if I have a future wit him,I knw he luvs me bt another problem is dat they are 2 many ladies around him,I was in his huz oneday when one came and he boldly told her am his girlfriend and d girl left angryly and he apologized and ask me 2 be patient wit him dat he will soon get dem off his way,,am just confuse,I don’t knw if I should bliv him or move on,,,am just confuse…. Tanx God bless u
Since this is not your first relationship, I believe you should have gather some experience about how some unserious guys behave concerning relationship issues.
Please follow your mind after praying over it.
You can’t be seeing several other guys you’ve been in love with in the past whenever you want to take a closer step to being married. Something has gone wrong somewhere, it might not be spiritual but psychological.
When you’re too attach to someone and suddenly, the relationship just end like that, you might find it difficult to let that person to completely go away from your mind.
This is the reason why I said, you should pray over your decision and follow your heart.
Good evening Mr Tony
Am into a relationship 3 years and 4 month,I really love this guy,like a year ago I sensed he is cheating on me,which I asked him,bt he denied it but since I never caught him red handed I let it go. some months back I read his message with a Lady (love message) I was really mad bt he explained his friend sent those messages to the lady.I really love this guy have tried to break up with him more than five times, he always apologies and I will take him back,I feel he love me bt e doesn’t trust me. please what can I do?
Am sowie,for abbrivating my words,,,,tanx for your respond,,,but have apologise to him,,yet he doesnt care of tryin to see if the relationship comes back,he said i should change thats all he need from me,but wount call,, but only be teasing me on wassap,like saying,,,hello princess,hi and all that,please i do not no what to do,,,cause now am feeling guilty,and finding it difficult,letting go of him.
You should realize this is your life and not his own life, whatever your decision now will tell much about you in the future. If he’s not meeting up to your expectation anymore and you don’t see him change very soon, you may have to give him some break. No communication, no chatting or whatsoever for some time and see if he still loves you.
If he comes pleading, there’s still some element of love for you within him but coming to plead is not a guaranty that he really love.
The bottom line is, if your heart can no longer bear the pain anymore, please get out of the relationship, someone, somewhere might be waiting for you but if you stick to the present guy, you don’t have the chance of meeting another person who might just treat you right.
Don’t allow men to toil with your emotion. Emotional pain is the toughest and most painful of all pain.
Please be safe.
Thanks so much,,i will try and let go,and be my self,,,,i appriciate your advice.keepup the good job.
Hi i nid ur advice
ireally love my boyfriend and he loves mi too
but my stupidity,iwrote for him lets break up as aprank
he took it serious and withdraw al de feeling he had for mi and he is not ready to listen to mi,i text him he ignore it
as 4 now he is away from mi bt he gave achance to mit him
please help me ireally love him.
i hv a b. f. and we have been dating. for two weeks now bt we have already have. sex. bcos he loves sex,i am. jst confuse bcos of his attitude on not calling jst two times in a week and wen eva i ask him abt dat he wil say he is not gud in callin. bt wateva i asked for he provides it toi me. i need help cos i dont no if he really loves me
You fall too cheap to him, you can’t meet someone within two week and have sex with him. You don’t really know him and he too do not really knows you well. Don’t give an excuse that he loves sex is the reason why you gave it to him.
You should have allow him show more commitment before giving him such access if at all you do do it.
I can’t tell if he loves you, it’s like what he wants, he has gotten it from you.
And you might not even be the only one in his life since you said he loves sex.
Just pray and he learn to love you more as you continue in the relationship.
pls I’ve been dating this guy for close to 2yrs now,though it has been a distance relationship, but he was back last month and everything was OK until last week, if I tell him any romantic word he will reply with a hmmmm, he stopped calling or texting saying he has no money, his younger sister told me he was sick, so I went to his place to check how he is faring and to ask what is happening lately, when I asked his about his health he said who told me he sick I didn’t replied, I asked what is really happening and he said nothing, am so confused I don’t know what he is thinking about me.
You don’t need to be panic about him, just be patience with him and try to find out what has gone wrong with the relationship.
It is only when you know what’s wrong that you can be able to proffer solution to it
thanks but I have tried he always says nothing is wrong, but his actions are still the same,wondering if I should stop calling as well
hi Anthony , I’ve been dating my guy for four months now but just a month after we met he started asking for sex and threatening to breakup if I don’t sex him but we’ve settled because I told him to wait till I’m ready for it and that will take a long time. now my problem is that he has never ask me out, he only wants me to see him at his place and he shows little care. I’m afraid he is using me as his side chick
I think he’s particularly interested in having an affair with you and until he does that, he may not really show you much care as he used to be when you first met.
He’s probably going to end the relationship if he cannot find his way around you and he’s able to have sex with other ladies he will meet when you will not be around.
so is it something to worry Abt or to beware of? I think he’s started pressurizing me again
Something to be aware of
I met a guy I love d guy so much and he love me 2 but the problem is dat he is far away from me we do communicat much but he cal me one day and told me about one girl he say he love d girl befor we meat but d girl d nt love him now dat he cam back d girl has lov him and ask me to give him an advice of wat to do I tel him to go ahead and he say he lov me mor dan her am scard bcs dey ar livin together wit dat girl while am alon her some few days he stop calling me and if I cal him he wil say he is buzy dat he wil cal me leter and he wil nt cal me bt wen I go to his town we’re he live he show me he love me and n
ow am back frm der side he as started showin me lov bt I dnt no may b he truly lov me pls I nid ur help
my boy friend tel me he has another girl dat he is datin how d I no if he stil love me
If that’s true, it shows no love between both of you anymore.
Even though you may be feeling it’s there, but within him, the love is no more there and that’s why he went for another girl.
i met my bf last yr dec and since then he has bn gud to me…by helping me in skul stuff …..he told me that he want to marry and that he will never betray me buh sometimes the way he talk to me in front of his frnds is bad ….secondly ….he call gals on phone and also making me to cry…. the third one is have not seen his pple buh he said i will follow him to his village on dec…..want to know if he truly going to marry me
I’m not sure if he’s going to marry you.
From all what you have said here, can you cope with a man who does all these thing you mention?
If your answer is no, then put an end to the relationship.
You have to value yourself first before other people see you as a value person.
hello Anthony,my situation here is different from your article,just want to know if you can be of help.I am just like every other girl who needs to be loved but pple do say am d kinda “independent lady”.Although I try to convince them and let them und am a free girl,most say am a melancholic but am not,m just d kind of girl who is afraid to love,don’t really like sharing my mind with pple,I once had a bf but I think he doesn’t und me,he wants me to love him and be romantic but I find these things difficult,he believed am a dream chaser and am only concentrated on my goals,I am a lady and secretly admire to be love,d question is am I different or being too much?my social life is nothing to write home about.
You need to improve on your social life to start with. Interact more with people everywhere you go, it might look difficult initially but over time, you’ll get used to people and engaging them with talks will not be a difficult thing to do anymore.
You can start with people who are much younger than you and interact more with them and from there, you can start to establish rapport with people and engage them with discussion.
In trying to do this, don’t talk more about yourself but about the other person if you’re able to notice something about them.
In no time, people will see you that, you’re not what they thought you were but someone who can easily relationship with them.
I want to know if my boy friend love me again, after the daet of the mother he don’t communicate with me again like before.
Hi,my boyfriend I had a little misunderstanding and he told me he doesn’t like stress and I asked him if am a stress to he said yes,later he gave me money to eat I refuse to collect d money than he asked me to live his house before he comes back from work.am confused I don’t know if he really loves me and also should I live his house without talking to him? Pls advice me on what to do.thanjs
I guess he’s indirectly telling you that, he no longer needs you in his life.
Do you pester him alot?
Just give him some space for some time and see how he react.
If he love you, he won’t be able to bear it and he will change his words.
But if not, he will not bother to reach you for anything whatsoever. If this happens, just let him be and don’t try to force yourself on him.
Put yourself together for other guys who will like you and develop some form of love before every other things come into space.
I have a bf who have a Gf sumwere but he said he love me .but one day he called Nd told me he can’t Lev his Gf for me. few days back he call me Nd was begging me. pls tell me what to do I truly love him
Please try and put your love for him on hold for now, because he might eventually dump you for the other girlfriend.
Don’t be confused with his coming back to you for forgiveness. You can only be sure if you have found out that, he’s no longer dating the other girls.
As fas as he still has the other girl in his life, it is a difficult thing to think, he’s sincere by coming back to beg you.
Please be wise and don’t allow him drive away other possible guys who might be interested in you.
hi my bf called me one day nd told me he want a child i was happi about it oooo but the problem is dat am just 18,o’level grl i don’t want to end like dat i want to contiune but he promised me dat after the child i will contiune my education,we re 4rm diffrent religion is a christian nd i am muslim i did nt think if my parent will accpet him but he said the only he can marry me dat my parent we let us be is 4him to get me pregnant nd i am also thinking of wat pipo we say look at this samll gal oooo nd we both love each other i don’t no wat to do pls help me
Ola please get wise up.
Don’t! Don’t!! Don’t!!!
Your boyfriend don’t know what he’s talking about, you’re definitely going to end your education at the O’level if you accept his wishes.
A word is enough for the wise.
he told me dat after the child i will continue my education dat he want to carry his child he always keeps to is promise nd we both love each other but my problem is my parent we re 4rm differnt reigion ooooo i don’t no may be he should get me pregante before he com nd ask my hand in marrage
I have said what I need to say in my previous comment and that remains my stand.
The life is yours, you can decide to do whatever you like with it.
I have been dating my boyfriend for 5months ,I have met 2of his brothers but he never introduce them to me. but each time I meet his brothers and greet them they ignore me and the know that I am a friend to their brother they have seen us together severally and that attitude made me feel really bad then I called him and told him what his brothers do and I also told him that they don’t have regards for him for if they do they always answer me when I greet and say hello to me when we meet. ever since I told him this he said very little about it and hasn’t called me since then this is 4 days already , I tried to call and he didn’t pick and finally he called and told me we needed to talk I didn’t agree initially because at that time I wanted to go to school but i decided to text him and I told that I will be free and that he should call me but he hasn’t. what should I do, please I need to know if I have offended him
You have not done anything wrong here, I think there are other things you’re not aware of and your boyfriend is keeping it away from you.
It is possible his brothers don’t like you, maybe since you’ve met their brother, they are not getting it good with their brother OR Their brother has another girlfriend which they prefer to you.
Get your boyfriend talking and question him about it, no need to shy here because it’s all about your life. Don’t allow your time to be wasted.
It is better the relationship is put on hold and possibly end it than the emotional trauma you’ll be experiencing while still hanging in the relationship.
Someone love me alot bt im very confused to accept his praposal ..
I am confused about i lv him or not
my guy and I have a quarrel dat I told him am no more interested but after some month we settle.
he nw have new galfriend,Bt he said he luv me,when ever I ask him for airtime hc refused sending t and tell me he don’t have money…plz sir help me out
It’s obvious he no longer loves you as he used to be and since another girl is in his life altogether, it will be good you let him be.
On a more serious note, stop presenting yourself as being needy before guys, you will be advantage of. You shouldn’t be asking your boyfriend airtime and base on the fact that he said, he has no money and you use that to judge if he loves you or not.
I nd my guy has bin in a relationship for a year nd 3mth now,i luv him nd i tinks he luvs me too cos he is loving nd caring but he do keep my identity has his gurlfwnd from his female friends.m confused abt dis act dunno if he loves me or not
All these signs are sure and correct….. Thank you very much
they’s this guy i met some years back, he’s a friend to my elder step-brother and i and my step-ones are not really friendly with each other, the guy always tells me that he loves me , we have never had sex and we don’t stay in the same state, i have known this guy for over five years now but the problem is that of late he hardly call or chat me up unlike before, when i told him his attitude has changed he said he has been running around for so many things. my problem is he’s financially buoyant now and i don’t want to spend time waiting for him and after every he will now disappoint me, but i love him, am so confuse i don’t really know what to do.
You need to make up your mind if you want to wait for him or let him go since you’re living a different state. It is difficult to say he’s waiting for at the other side.
I will advice you to give him a break and think about your life, if you other guy that you’re interested in, and having done your assignment about the guy, if he’s ok, just go ahead and start a proper relationship with.
Waiting for someone that seem too busy to even remember you’re somewhere, is a sign of out of sight is out of mind, and someone might have already taken your place with him.
Please follow your heart and decide in line with what I have just said above.
Goodluck!
hi!! im in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years. my 3 years with him was a long distance relation which went off very well. now v are in d same city. Changes started to appear from the time he got into a job. all attention, importance love , concern that i used to get has stopped. from last june onwards we have been having a lot of fights b/w each other. i hv tried my level best to maintain dis relation i hv gone to the extent of completely changing myself for him. Be it understanding him changing myself for him adjusting .. i hv done it to save my relation. he nvr cares if im crying coz of him or if im hurt. evn if i want discuss anything i hv to use my anger dat is wen i get a chance to speak. he tells he hates discussions evn sumthing is goin wrong he just wants to ignore it.. he tells me to the same. i cant ignore i have to spk up. from the past 4 years in this relation i hv only been blamed im d one whos wrong in dis relation. my bf nvr accepts his mistake. he nvr says sorry to me. he nvr has accepted his fault. i hv tried to breakup. bt he has nvr ended dis relation. he wants this relation all the time. wenevr i stop talking to him he patches up with me. evn if i ignore hm for 15 days then also he come back. according to him he always feels he is right and im wrong. i love him a lot but i hv nvr been appreciated by him.. he nvr expreses his love to me. he always tells me if i hd to leave u i wud hv done it long back… i hv expressed my love a lot to him. !!! i dont know wht to do… coz of all this we have been having a lot of fights. i hv lost all my trust though he comes back to me.. im always depressed coz i dont get that love from him . can you tell me what is wrong. who is at fault!! please help!!
This issue is a serious issue.
For you to be in a particular relationship for 4 good years, I think, it is enough for you to understudy him to some extent.
Fine, you’re in a long distance relationship for the first 3 years, and that cover lots of things, that you could have known about him long ago.
Investing in a relationship a long time like this, is not just easy to let go of him but, it not a mission impossible.
If all you said here is nothing but the truth, I will suggest you give your relationship with him a break for like 2-3 months.
I will advice you to go right now to read this article of mine, it can help you to determine what next to do is situation like this
CLICK Here to read the article or follow this link; https://iloverelationship.com/let-go-partner-relationship/
I wish you well!
My bf just stopped calling me all of a sudden even if I call him he Dnt pick my calls.we neva quarrelled bcux i asked him wat d problem is BT he keeps saying nothing even if I get angry at him for nt calling he will start apologizing and begging BT still he kips acting DAT same way. if I call him wit anoda number and he answers he will tell me am busy lemme call u back BT he won’t even if I try calling back he will nt answer.I dnt just understand.could it b dat he dnt wantd relationship anymore or wat.shud i move on?dnt jst knw wat to do pls advice me on wat to do.
My guess is that, he’s tired of the relationship.
If all effort to get him talking and see how you both can come together once more to start enjoying the relationship, then I think you should let him go.
It will do you no good if you continue to hurt yourself over him, when he’s not even thinking of you.
Please move on or tell him to give you a break and think over it.
Thanks and do take care of your decision.
My boyfriend dose not call or text but we can talk all day on whatsapp n he calls on whatsapp I don’t know if he truly loves
Pls sir my boyfrnd and i hv been dating for 2yrs n 5months nw and he loves me so much thou his nt workin nw cos he jst finish learning work, and my aunty am living wit is nt happy dat am dating d guy. When ever am out to see him my aunty wil hv prblms wit me pls help me cos i love him so much
Well, it is about your life and not that of your aunty’s life.
But your sister might knows something you don’t have an idea about, have you sit her down and ask why, she did not want to see you with the guy?
Good afternoon sir, I met this guy at my work place, we re just friends we share common views about life and he have not said any thing concern friendship or relationship. A mouth later he ask me “HOW OLD AM I, ALSO ASK ABOUT MY FAMILY ” but I have not given him any answer yet, should I open up or I should be like that ????
Any information you’re not comfortable giving out, please hold on to it.
Don’t just give him the information he’s seeking for, but ensure you know the reason why he want to know about those information from you.
Hmmm.
I’ve a girl am madly in love with and she’s also in line with the loving.
We’ve been dating since september 2015.after december,in january wen i came back from home.she told me tha she’s told her parents about me,that she have a freind,and thats d person she wud like to wed.
Am not in lagos now i travelled,and since den we’ve been keeping to d distance relationship.
The problem now is dat she livs wit ha aunt. So she’s d one that do flash me nd i’ll call,thats wen she’s convinient,
now do i have to trust her that she wud not cheating on me either.
Don’t allow fear of commitment take away the lady from you.
If you don’t have anything against her, I don’t see why you can’t give her some trust.
At least, the relationship is not that long, you’re still getting to know more about each other.
Just forget all about that fear, and move ahead with your relationship with her.
Its okay.
Thanks Man.
my boyfriend loves me i knw that for sure, i can vouch for that but he doesnt have some qualities, what do you think, im i jst imagining the love or what,
My guy loves me alot …he ’ s much
than u mentioned above.he cares for me more than my parents and I cherish him so much but my problem is that sometimes he lies to me just to please me but I’m not pleased although I don’t show it, I’m a kind of confused here because I need someone that will always tell me the truth no matter what.plz I need your advise……
The best approach you could do is to confront him whenever he lies to you. Don’t do the confrontation with annoyance or any kind of heart that will infuriate him.
Just make it known to him that you love to always hear the truth from him. Let him know that, branding any lies will not help the relationship.
You should also know that, if it has become part of his life, it will takes time before he stop lying to you.
Every one lie, but not to the detriment of your relationship.
There is this guy I used to date but I broke up with him because he wanted to have sex with me and I refuse, but he told me to forgive him and give him a chance and I said no, but he always look for my problems and lyk touching me wherever he see me please what should I do I need your advice.
If you don’t want him in your life anymore, tell him so and warn him never to touch you again, else you will slap him.
I know some guys don’t like a lady to talk to them like that, they may want to dare you but, you can still tell him anyway.
Tell him you will report him to his parents if you know his parent or anyone you know, that can warn him not to touch your anymore.
If you have brother or big sister, you can even report him and tell him or her to warn him.
Me and my fiancee av bin datin for four years now but i always cheated on him to d extend i do av sex wit anoda man but he dont for once cheat on me all he do is to forgive me but d one i did last almost break our relationship but i still beg him and he still forgive me but wat i want to bring out is did he still love me as he do bfor or wat can i still do apart frm me not goin bak to my past watelse can i still do to make him love lyk he do bfor?
Of course he may still loves you, but he can’t be as before.
The reason is that, he can’t really trust you as when he has not discovered that you cheated on him.
As for what you can do to make him love you, just like before?
I want you to know that, it is not easy to build trust on someone who has cheated on his or her partner.
And so, it will take some time before he can love you, just like the way he has before your undoing.
This will only happen if you do not cheat on him again and no incriminating or something that will make him
doubt you again, is found on you.
I mean things like, text messages from another man, phone calls that looks suspicious and other suspicious activities
that can easily makes him to completely lost trust in you.
Am in a relationship with a dude, we’ve known eachoda for more dan 6 yrz nd we started dating abt 4 months ago. He’s nt in Lag, though he do call me steady buh he’s way too far from romance. I know he loves me in his own way buh he’s kinda annoying sometimes.. He is holding so many things back bcos of wat his ex did to him. He do tell me his secrets nd his past too. sometyms my heart waver cos i dont know HIS REAL BEING. I really do love him.
Yes, the past do hurt, no doubt about it.
But you can make him easily forget about his ex and focus on you.
If he’s not being romantic enough according to your own level, don’t be shy to let him know and tell him how you want it.
Sometimes, one of the partner may not be as romantic as the other, it is the responsibility of the more romantic partner to
teach the less romantic ones, so that both of them can be on the same level and enjoy their romantic relationship.
If you don’t teach him, someone might teaches him outside and before you know, he’s out of your hand.
Pls help me, av been dating dis guy close to 3yrs now, he has all dis qualities u wrote but d issue is dat we are not from d same tribe, which I knw well dat my family will not support us to be married! I av told him many times ddat it might not work out but he will not want to hear daat tellling me God will do it. I love him as he does, pls wats ur candid advice to me?
Well, tribe doesn’t matter as a matter of fact.
None of you is marrying each other’s tribe, you’re marrying one another and not your tribe.
So, if you really love him, it should not be difficult to convince your people.
He’s the one you love, not necessary his people.
It will only going to be your marriage and whatever that happens in your house, it should be personal to both of you.
So, if you’re not scared of anything about his tribe or your tribe, pray to God to soften the heart of your people if you find your guy worthy of your precious heart.
Hi,I really enjoyed reading this.Erhmmm,when I just started dating my boyfriend(going to 2years now),he always contacted me…But later on,he didn’t call me like he always did then and each time I send him a message,he doesn’t always reply.Sometimes,when I ask him if he wanted me out of his life cos I felt like I was disturbing him,he would say no,that I shouldn’t be vexed with him,he’s always so busy and all that…….and am really thinking about calling off the relationship because I can’t continue like this……So,my question is,do u think I should move on or I should still give him time?
You might probably need to move on if he continues to act like this to you, maybe after a month.
It is very much possible, he has another babe somewhere and that might be the problem, why he has not been really responding well, as the way every other serious guy could be doing when really love with a lady.
I met a guy den d next day he said he is already in love with me dat he wants 2 marry him, so I asked about him den hw is good!he is very jealous he dnt even want me 2 v a male friends, which I less! But he always forced me 2 bed den after dat I cried, 3 days ago I visited him den I plead wid him not 2 v sex wid me, he didn’t listen, den we fought 4 an hour den he eventually did den I cried I told him not 2 call me again den I left his house, later he called I didn’t pick, d next day he sent me message on WhatsApp dat am very crazy, I went out on returning home he saw den he shout my name den he said in a public am very stupid. Right now am confused bcos I still love him but plz wat should I do? Bcos my mum knows him
The truth is, he does not love you and the best you could do for yourself is to end your relationship with him.
He only wants you as his sex object and nothing more.
Just tell him you don’t want him in your life again.
If you don’t, I can assure, he will eventually dump you when you don’t even expect it.
good mornin,my name is chioma am 16 and i have been datin a guy who is a year oldes than me my problem is just that: eva since we started datin ova 4 months he has stopped callinor even textin me so wen i complained about it he apologised to me after few days he stopped callin me wen i called him he would either cutted d call or he would say an disturbin him or it late and i should sleep tho he has introduced me to his sister and his friends i know he is busy lately because of his exam (waec) am confused do he still loves me and he does not complain about sex or 4 me to kiss him do he still loves me.
pls am dating a guy in d same university where I am although he is far older dan me nd he cares for my need any time I ask him , but wot happen is dat he saw me with anoda guy which is my course mate so he tot we re dating nd am trying to explain to him he insulted me , over a week now he is neglecting my call pls wot should I do? cus I don’t wnt to loose d guy
Just keep your calm if you’re sure you’ve done nothing wrong.
Continue trying to have access to him, when you get his attention, even for a minute, tell him you have important words to discuss with him and he should please grant you the audience whenever he feels convenience for him.
Let him understand that, you have nothing with the guy and if he can allow you to bring the guy to come tell him, he’s just your course-mate and nothing is between you both.
I think he will listen to you.
Goodluck.
I ur help sir.. I av a girlfriend and we av been into relationship for one and half yr, and she got angry when av our first kiss… plz wat can i do to get her to understand i love
Plz sir,i ve a guy dat cares for me nd even promisin me dat he wil marry me wen his ready buh d problem nw is dat hez older dan me as in 7years different…suld i still move on with him?
7 years is not too much in my own opinion.
I’m 6 years older than my own wife.
If you’re satisfied with his kind of person, you can go ahead.
Age is just a number.
Hi
I read through your article and its really nice..
something bothers me, I am dating this guy for couple of months now, he loves me according to him. but I feel insecure with him secondly I found out that I am two years older than him. though he has proposed to me
meanwhile there is this other guy, he rarely gives me attention he to proposed too but he has no attributes you mentioned above. secondly he is 20 years older than me, and ever since I know him till we lack communication, no caring, and hardly call to check up on me. although we share some things in common. am confuse what shall I do?
Please try and clear your confusion.
First, does age matter to you when we talk in term of relationship?
If yes, then let the two of them go and wait for someone else, that will possess the ability I have highlighted in the article.
No, here’s another question concerning the first guy.
Do you too love him as he claims to love?
According to you, you’re not that really interested in him and you will find your way if a better suitor comes along.
So, if age is a barrier to you and you’ve find out from him too, that he doesn’t mind your age, then both of you can work it out.
does Age really matters in a relationship leading to marriage..? .. is it absurd for a Lady to marry a guy she senior with 3years?… or is it permissible.
It’s an individual thing.
To many, if the love is genuine, age does not matter but the different don’t have to be much, in the area where the lady is older than the guy.
For guy older than the lady, it gap can be much, again, it depends on the lady choice.
Hi have been dating for d past seven yrs, my guy and i luv each other so much along d line people start telling me dat d guy is married with a kid, and anytime i confort him we wil deny it. So after three yrs of d relationship d sister open up to me dat d boy have a child, so i ask wat happen to d relationship he said d family background of d lady is not gud, dat dey are not together anymore. But dey are still communicating and d lady is still single. But den we always have issue, always have missundersding and we resolve it. But now dis guy do hit me anytime we have missundersding in d public and in d presence of all his friends, and i wil tel him d luv i have for him is reducing, but he wil tel me dat if d luv is real in d first place dat know matter wat happen it wil still be intact. But dis guy i promise him marriage, he is very nice, caring. Anytime we have issue he always invite third party into it , he talks like a woman, as a woman am suppose to talk more but he does d taking, he wil starting bringing up things dat have happen a longtime, he wil starting reporting me. I tried changing him, but know changes, can he change, becos wat i fel for him is dieing. And dis guy his desperate for marriage, and am still schooling, we are not from d same place. He is older Dan me with 11 yrs and his son his nine yrs, and he said he want to marry dis yrs. I need ur advice am afraid hope he wil not turn me into another thing ta home pls and pls advice me
Hi Franca,
Let me be sincere with you.
I don’t think that man is really ready for marriage, though age is not maturity, if what you wrote here is anything to go by, he has not mature enough. Man need to learn to talk less, and not bringing issues that have long gone back to the memory again.
No, a man like that will hardly have a successful relationship with any woman.
Yes of course, women are known for talking much (apology for saying that), but what will it look like, if both husband and wife are talking too much in a house, that house is going to be on fire always.
7 years for dating, that’s very long years, I just hope and pray for you that, the years will not be wasted years. Your man still needs to learn more about how relationship can work, and which can actually lead to marriage.
Fien, no relationship is free of conflict, but with such attitude like bringing back what had happened in the past, that hurt the relationship is never the best way to go.
I don’t really have issues with the kid, it’s a matter of individual differences and if you like it, you don’t have to be worried about it but if otherwise, take your time to think about it.
Always remember this Franca; A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
I’m not saying you should break up with him, but think twice before you commit to that marriage.
You’re still going to see far more worst thing when you get married to him. So, if you can’t tolerate what’s happening now, then you don’t need to go further from here.
That’s just my advice for you.
Just take good care of yourself and don’t be deceived with promises of I’ll change once we get married. If he can’t change now, he will never change.
Pls Advice me… I started dating this guy 3 month ago. He luvs me so much. & i luv him too. But I’m a year older than him. Pls is there anything wrong with this?
There’s nothing wrong with it, provided the two of you are comfortable with it.
Hello.. My name is prince, i am in love with a girl, and i love her so much, but she travel for almost two months for her waec and neco, and am in love with another girl which she loves me so much because am her first lover…but the one that travel didnt miss out a day without calling me, so right now am confused where should i stand pls i need advice
Hi, my name is bolarin oluwatoyin I saw ur post I just want 2 know am in love with this lady but later on I discover dat she told me dat she is in a relationship with a guy and dat hurt me a lot but I love this lady a lot I just don’t know wat 2 do again
Go look for another lady, she’s been taken already.
Stop causing yourself unnecessary pain.
hi. i met my bf on facbook,he has doz 12 qualities listd above,we luv eachoda so much.he lovs me more.and does anytin for me,he alwz mak me hapi,we hav been datn for long evn witot seein but we plan seeing by nxt month,,pls i need ur advc bcos evn though i luv hm vry much and he do,.dnt wnt us to start indulgn in sex for now cos the lov is there cos i av already made up my mind not to but am worried bcos i dnt knw if he wil tink dat i dont luv hm geniun if i shud nt hav sex wt him sinc we see onc in a while and we ar vry far,pls advic me
Make your stand known to him, that you will not indulge in sex at least for now.
If you’re going and not sure of how the guy will behave, you can go with your friend, younger sister or brother.
Or ensure you meet only in the open and not inside any room alone.
ok,tnx dear.pls how can i get updates.cos i want to be follown up..u r doin a gud job here,God bless
i lov my bf nd he also lov me buh d problem is dat he is a christian nd am a muslim cn we continue or we shud stop pls advice me wot i cn do
It depend on the agreement between both of you, I have seen couple that of different faith and they still live together for very long time now.
You need to seat and discuss about it.
Will you family allow it or will his family allows?
What happen to your children when you start having them?
Would they be Muslim or Christian?
These are many more questions, you need to discuss seriously with your guy.
If everything can be worked out and you believe it, then you can go ahead with the relationship and continue to pray to the Most High to bless your relationship, even though you’re of different faith but serving the same God.
Pls Can You Explain Beta To Me
I love my boyfriend and he love me also, but he start having another relationship outside that led to our break up. Without saying a word to each other. So after 3 month no communication so he later call and say hi to me telling me we are not enemy’s, but from my heart I sill love him, I don’t know what to do e did not apologize
You’ll need to move on.
Since you said, he has started another relationship, don’t let the emotional pain continue to weigh you down. Try as much as you can to forget about him. He did not love you in the first place and I don’t see reason why you’ll want to love someone who has his heart with another lady.
Just forget about him and move on.
hi,my bf nd i started dating abt 2mnths ago nd we are deeply in love…earlier,he neva goes a day without calling me,nt until i refused havin sex with him becos i want 2 remain a virgin till my wedding nyt….bt he still calls me nd wil always say his reason 4 nt communicating regularly z cos anytym he tinks of me he feels hurt nd dat he cant hav sex wif sumone hu he doesnt luv wen he still has me….he doesnt bliv am a virgin,he thinks my reason z dat i am scared he wld dump me afta everything nd is always assuring me it wont happen dat way cos he luvs me.Sometyms wen alone, he stares at me nd wen i catch him staring ,he jst cums over nd hugs me.im confused,i dunno if he is dere 4 d sex or he jst has dat mindset of showing u truly luv sumone by having sex with d person. i rily nid help
If you have made up your mind not to have sex with anyone until your wedding day’s night, please keep to that decision.
If he loves you, he will wait for you but, sometimes, it’s not that easy with guys.
You’ve got to encourage him and let him understand your reason why you don’t want to have sex with any guy until when you’re married.
If he’s there for the sex, time will tell in six months time.
sometime i we call my boy friend he would not pick my call.and if he see my miss call he will not call me back, later i we be the one to call he. but he always tee me he love me. is that true love
It’s probably not true love.
If he loves you, he will show more concern for you.
Or is he that broke that he can’t call you back?
plz I hav a guy that I so much lov nd we hav dated for two years now.but he don’t lik talkin wit me on phone dat much.for few days now, he has being in prayer he don’t lik picking my calls sumtimes although he told dat he wouldn’t be talkin wit me on phone as we use to talk.nd now my mind is tellin me that d guy didt love me.plz help me out on dis issue.
I av a bf am dating presently for a year and 6month.. I love him very much and I know he also does.. but lately things hasn’t being going too well as before. he gets angry easily, swing mood. dis minute we are good,next we not.. pls wat do u think
It’s all part of the knowing each other better.
It can’t be good all through, through things like this, you’ll get to understand each other better as the relationship progresses.
hi Mr Anthony, pls am in relationship wf one guy.. we started our relationship not more Dan a year now.. but it has bn a distance one, we av fought so many times abt it.. but d truth z dat am a very busy person, I told him to understand me.. he said no problem.. but anytime I av d change of going to his place, if I should get there d way he behaves wasn’t to talk abt.. he talk to me anyhow, frowning his face all d tym wen am wf him. but d truth z dat if I should ask him wat really happened he will claimed dat because of wat he z facing abt d employment stuffs dat z not making him happy.. any time we discussed he discussed so much of d future wf me.. my question z dat does he truly luv me d way he z behaving?
I think he’s not sincere with his love for you.
What’s he thinking about and looking depress every time you visit?
Is that how’s living all his life because he has not been employed?
I think that’s a flimsy excuse.
He should be happy seeing you around, after all, you’re not always with him.
Forget about his talking about the future now, who you’re seeing now is still going to be
the same person you’ll live your life with if you marry him.
The same treatment will be meted out to you. It is even easier to pretend you love
someone and hid everything you really don’t the person to know when you’re in relationship
than when you get married.
Let him understand that, you come to visit him to enjoy your
relationship with happy mood, you can’t continue to live with someone who
does talk to you anyhow, that shows no respect.
If all of these things he’s showing you now is what you cannot
tolerate with anyone, please end the relationship with him.
I mean it.
But you can cope with it, you can continue the relationship.
You must be ready to live with such characters even when
he actually get a job and that’s if he still stick with you.
hmmmm. I love d guy am dating, and he also say he love me 2. But am nt sure cuz he said is nt ready for marriage dat if I see a guy who love me I shld go wit him so dat he wil nt delay me. and I love my guy so much, I can’t do without him. pls hw can I won is dat
He’s already telling you that, he does not want you.
You’re just being taken as an option.
So, why should you continue to stay with him?
Please move on and find someone who will ready to have a fulfilling
relationship with you, that will lead to marriage.
hello Mr Anthony,l am in a one month relationship wt my boyfriend but he reside in Benin while l lived in warri.he is running his phd in benin.l travel to see him weekends and travel back to warri that same day but at a time l felt if l continue like that,l won’t be able to get to know him properly so just last weekend,l decided to spend d night though no sex but we had foreplay and its like he infected me in d cause of it,sent him a message and he hasn’t replied all day,l really luv this guy but his attitude isn’t helping things, l guess he will deny it.Am so confused,should l let him go?
It’s possible he has not made up his mind about the relationship. One is just too short to judge him now.
If you really love him, stay with him for months and see how he changes his attitude.
You still need more time to actualy get to him well enough before you make your decision to stay or to leave.
Don’t just put so much love into it for now, as times go bye, the love will grow in both of you and you’ll get to understand each other better.
gud nun sir plz i nid ur enlightenment can a guy loves you and always tel u he hs always busy to kal youeven for a seconds
I don’t see any love in that.
He’s not in ove with you for sure. If he really loves you, he will create time to always get acroos to you.
I have been dating my boyfriend for seven month and lately things have not been going well … I keep seeing love message in his phone ; both the ones he sent and the ones they sent …I confronted him but he said they are old message but the date says otherwise. He doesn’t do any of the 12 things you mentioned and he hardly says I love you but he is always their for me when I need him the most …I think he is dating someone but am scared of breaking up because I feel like am going to lose part of myself ….pls sir I need your advice
Hi, av been dating my boyfriend for 5 months nw nd we love each other so much, av meet his family nd friends bt d issue is dat he as never for once by something like gift 4 me talkless of given me a dime nd am d type dat don’t know hw to ask 4 dat bt to tell d truth he loves me so much, pls should i continue or quit
Dammy, you’ve got to continue and try to educate him about giving a gift.
Even though little, but it can go a long way.
my name is success l have been dating a guy whom l love for a year now he hardly call me on phone, he is a student each time l went to His house he will demand for sex which l refuse when am going he will not bother to give me tp fare he always complain of no money but he have introduced me to some of his friends so l don’t know whether he loves me or not or is it bcus l haven’t given sex. pls l need ur advice
I hv been dating this guy for 7months , but I can’t tell if he will marry me and he get jealous whenever I answer calls or chats. this was one occasion I told him my lecturera asked me out but he told me I should tell him am married but .I ddnt do so. another problem is that he don’t let his brother see me or some of his friend. and the other guy is all opposite of him. he calls, took me to his mom give me whatever I want and even ready to come to my mum.but deep inside me is the first one I want to be with but his attitude and not calling or call in interval of two day is not encouraging. so am confuse if I should tell him I want to marry and ask him if I should wait for him. he is 30 and working
So, what keep you to the first one?
There’s something the first one has that the second one don’t have, and it’s that thing, that make you keep loving the first one, even with the care and readiness the second one has shown.
I will say follow your mind, if you’ve found something special in the first and the second person doesn’t have it.
…but let him understand, you don’t like his attitude, no calls for two days interval.
He also need to feel less jealous because, doing that, it shows that he’s insecure and an insecure kind of guy, can’t make a good relationship flourish.
How long is the second person be with you?
I hav been dating dis guy for 5 months now,,before we started dating he told me he has a yourba galfriend,,I accept Becos I love him Nd he also love me too,,we both leave in delta why de yourba gal leave in ekiti,,,de guy family has already know dis gal has his galfriend,,,dis guy is ready to do anything dat wil make me happy,,,he change my life style,,,,but I dnt know his people,,,,wen we are together and de yourba gal call he won’t pick or wil pick Nd say normal how far I wil call you Leta dat wil be de end of de call for dat day,,,,now he said we want to marry dat i should Jst play my path very well Nd win his heart Nd leave de rest to God,,,,,am so confuse I dnt know what to do please advice me
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Hi am dating a guy for 8 month now and have known him like 1 yr before dating him,the sacrifice a lot for me I have been to his family place and likewise him, but we became to have issue to de extent he quit the relationship but he still care for me and my family, he hardly replies my chat and now we are together again but am confuse he want me to be pregnant for him, I don’t know what to do pls advice me on this
Pregy what?
Please don’t make such mistake.
Let him do the necessary thing first, if he wants pregnancy and besides, are you ready to get pregnant?
Do you have something you can bring to the table to support the family?
It’s not about being pregnancy my dear, it’s much more than that.
If you’re ready, tell him to pay his due to your family first.
My bf possess the listed character but he said he would neva have sex until he is
married, please i want to know if that can save our relationship and if he truly hav that deep love.
No having sex before marriage is not a parameter to save your relationship. That one is just a personal decision that you’ve got to accept if you want the relationship to get to marriage.
But if that does not go well with you, you’re, it will actually affect the relationship because your need is not being met sexually.
Both of you need to come to agreement on how to go about it.
The decision shouldn’t be solely be on just one of the partner involve in the relationship.
My boyfriend does more than the aforementioned signs above. He’s always praying for more time whenever he is with. We communicate alot without limit. But his family doesn’t want me because of my tribe and the religion I belong to which was not my concern at all. So he left to engage a girl just two days of our break up.
I met a girl on Facebook 2015, i fell inlove with this girl even though I have not seen her life, i kept on chatting her but she never replies till 2016 about 2months ago she started replying my chat, so I was like pls can I have your contact so add you on whatsapp. She asked why I said to her I mean No Harm just want to be her friend and chat her on whatsapp since she hardly replies me on Facebook. On whatsapp same thing kept on happening I will always be the one to say hi sometimes she will reply sometimes she won’t but I swallow all the acts I get from her because I am really love with her but shenever knew. So one afternoon I try to open a conversation with her to see if I could get closer to her, so I asked her how she is she said not fine,,,, I got worried she said not fine so I asked her why are you not fine….she replied me she is broke plus school stress…right there I promised her to send her money from Abroad because I based Abroad and finally I did like I promised. She appreciate and it was that same day that she told me on phone that she love me when I called her on phone. I took it to be a joke because she never showed care to me. So I became very anxious to know her serious she is but only what she said was she mean it and that I should believe her. And I said ok I believe you because already inside my heart I’m in love with her.But yet she never calls nor text or even flash my mobile, and whenever i create time to call her despite how busy i used to be she will end up telling me please canyou call me back I’m cooking or I’m inside bus or I’m inside lecture hall etc. I always feel weak each time this happens because I want her attention because I am very emotional and I hav told her about this at least to always give me her 75% of her attention that I don’t want 100% just 75% will be ok for me and she Ok but yet nothing changed. Sometimes I will ask her why she dont call me nor flash me she will reply me that Abroad is very expensive to call….but when I now call from Abroad she will ask me to call back later. Right now i feel very weak about the whole thing but I still love her and I hav promised her to come back in 2months time to see her plus getting her new mobile because she requested for new mobile. Please advice me on what to do
Please let the girl be.
I’m sure, she has no feelings for and she’s probaby in love with someone else.
The best you can do is to forget about her and hook up with other lady that can give you the attention you need.
Hi..thanks..just want to know why my guy would allow me do abortion twice wif d notion dat me keeping d baby is not how he planned d life for us..saying he cant do anythung concerning marriage dis year till nxt year. .his he making any sense at all? Cos I dont see y some one who claims he loves me wil allow me pass tru pain d second tym..
Abortion twice???
That’s cruel.
Tell him no more sex until when he’s ready to father a chid, I mean unti after your marriage.
Dont’s allow yourself to be used as a sex tool.
At most, if both of you cannot hold yourbody, then tell him to use protectives.
I HV a boyfriend we HV known each oda for years but we got into a real relationship few months ago,it has not being like wen we wia just friends, he no longer calls,always claim to be busy with work and home issues, I am really confused now
Hi Anthony , I have gone through ur advices so far n they r really,
pls I need ur help cus at moment am confuse,
I have a guy I met on facebook yrs back, we chated for a long time pricesly 8 months, den I wz in delta while him in Enugu, he offerd to come see me in delta state wch I refused, he keeps intouch wif me contantly, we spend close to a hour on phone wen ever he calls me , he wz loveing, careing n romantic to me , he dosent fail to call 4 times or even more Dan dat daily, I must it wz realy lovely been wif him , Nt until we met , we spent a night together, den he stoped keeping intouch , he only call back wen I flash him n sometimez he dosent , n wen I complain he claims to be busy, @ a time I gave n stoped complaining den I moved on , months after I moved on he started calling me , begging to come, becus I loved him I accpted him back , n again he stoped calling n I never bortherd him again , n nw he is back again , Wat I Dnt no is if dis guy througly loves me , he admites to ve girlxfriend bt he said am d one he loves , bt stil he dosent call @ all, wen I asked him why he said dosent ve credit n dat am Nt d only one complaining abt his inability to keep in touch, sayin dat even his own family are saying d same, talking abt money to recharg, he has it bt y he dont call is Wat I Dnt no , is Jst unlike him wen we started,
Hi Anthony, I love what you have been doing and I hope you keep it up. Well my own case is that there is this particular girl who keeps hanging around my man for the past months now, I eventually found out that they have something together. When I found out I decided to take a bow but he kept apologizing and sending a lot of people to beg on his behalf but this is not the first or second time it is happening. Please I really need your help and advice. Thanks
If he really loves you, he won’t be cheating on you.
I think something is missing in your relationship with him, he can’t continue to cheat on you and later begging you to forgive him.
For how long will that be?
I will advice you to take enough time break and let him feel your absence.
Whoever comes to you to beg on his behalf, tell them you’ve heard them.
But right now, you need some break.
Av been dating my bf since one year nd d half nw buf wen we met is not up to four months I got pregnant den I told him he said I suld go nd terminate it den few week I got a message from my p dat I shuld not terminate any pregnancy den I told him since den he stop calling me he didn’t even allow me to come to his place since den doing gave birth to a baby boy den I later called him since den I observed he’s hiding me so I post he’s pixmix my pics wit his baby own togeder dem he stop talking to me Infact he didn’t ask of his baby anymore plssss I need ur advice
Pls my bf do care for me bt wenever I ask him dat did he loves me he will nt say anyting. Am nw tinking maybe he does nt love me
It’s possible he has not made up his mind.
I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for close to 2yrz now.he sayed he wona open up to me.the told me,he has been seeing anoda girl for a month now and he loves her and loves me too dat I am his best love but I should not put my mind on marriage between us dat we shud just be dating until som1 comes to ask for my hand in marriage.I love him alot.tho he still calls and chart me up but I don’t know what to do and what step to take.
What are you waiting for?
I beg, end the relationship as soon as possible.
He has told you the truth.
It may be painful now, but you’ll be better later, that I can assure you.
Don’t make someone a priority while the person makes you an option.
Am dating a guy, he sometimes beat me when he sees me wit anoda guy or wit ma ex date talking, nd when I see him wit his ex date talking nd get jealous he will also beat me up nd lata apologies for hiz reactions BT I luv him, one day he told me when we were dating he didn’t luv me BT nw he does, wat do I do
Don’t fool yourself that you ove him and continue to endure the beating.
If man loves you, he dare not raise his hand against you.
Pls i need ur advice, i dated a guy for like 5 months, he tells me every thing going on in his life but at time i noticed that he doesn’t communicate as usual, so i left him along the line out of my ignorance but he later came back and told me while he changed, but i didn’t welcom him back blcs i have started dating another guy, but continued to me. Now i have lost the second guy but the ist continued in calling me to come back to him, and now am ready to go back and invited to AbJ, pls i need ur advice. Thank you
Dear sir,I have 3 men in my life my ex,the one am dating and the one I just met.I broke up with my ex 3 years ago but he lack those sign and I hv been single since then on January I meet this guy he asked me to date him but I wasnt taking him serious he keep on complaining abt that till I eventually thought he was serious I fell in love with him but he keep on gettin jealous and takes every little tin I said serious to and extent that I narrowed how I talk whenever am with him but for sometimes now he don’t call unless after 3 days but I call he will pick. the 3rd one I just meet is not near and busy but he most call at nyt he gives me anytin I want he is even ready to meet my parent but the one am dating don’t even want some of his friends to see me or his brother when I asked him y he said he is just respecting his brother. just 3 days ago my ex chats me on Fb telling me marriage in his mind that he want to see him urgently .but the one u truly love is the one am dating but don’t if he is serious . should I go and see my ex? and am confuse abt the 3rd guy
What does happened three years ago, that led to the breakup?
If you’re considering meeting him, do you know what he has been up to in e last three years after you left him?
Please think twice about your ex.
The new guy you just met, you don’t know much about him and I won’t advice you to dump every other person and run aft him.
You need to carry more out assignment about him and test him in all possible way to actually find out if he mean what’s he’s talking about.
But the relationship has not even started now, so it’s difficult to make any meaningful conclusions.
As per the current guy, I think he’s a little bit immature.
Am about to get married to a man I met 6months ago and av bin kipin deaf ears to ppl comment esp some of my family members don’t like where he is from,despite all I stil want him as my life partner,my littl discomfort wit him which I nid advise is dat he complains over evrifin I do which makes me feel tensed nd sumtims I feel like I can’t continue wit dis nags
You need not to rush into that marriage so that you will not rush out when the heat of marriage comes in.
It is good he complaint now and that’s a very good opportunity to weigh your option.
If you cannot live with a man that complaints a lot,I will advice you to quits the relationship or at worst, elongate the time of the relationships and during this period, let him understand that, you’re not comfortable with the way he complaints about things.
If both of you can understand one another this way,then where he comes from does not matter.
hi mr tony there is a guy i luv so much and we ave been dating for 4months and i did wat made him end the relationship i purposely refuse calling him just for the relationship to end but since then my feelings towards him increased and am scared to let hi
There is this guy I meet this year and I love him and he is the first guy that I ever went to his hux to cook for him if he ask me. the problem I hv is that he said that he always busy but he call at least once a day but now I Just finished my 300level final exam and went home, he don’t even call atall for complete 5 days but if I call he will pick or call me bk his reason been that his nieces and his brothers wife are in town and he has been busy with the kids. I try so much not to let him no I always feel bad that he dont call but we talk normal when I call..am confuse abt him In the sense if I should be with him cus I once asked him his biggest fear he said that is marriage, I ask again so if I see anyone that is serious should I go ahead he said I should stop talking like that I should face my education that was on April.now I hv some that is serious more caring than him but I still prefer him cus he is intelligent and can speak well.bit my parents have seen the other said he is OK and responsible but the other one that I love hv not come to my huz .should I tell him abt the guy or should I ask him if he sees his future with so I can wait for him whenever he is ready…. am so confuse hv not love someone to this extent of bothering that he doesnt call
My dear, don’t wait for him if he’s not ready and someone is ready, he has even met your parent, though that’s not enough to say, you should go ahead with the new guy, but you can give him a trial and see if he actually good enough for you to spend the rest of your life with.
As for your first guy, I think he’s not being truthful.
Even if his father and mother go everywhere with him, he will always find a way to give you a call or communicate with you.
You should ask him, why does he pick up your calls and the kids are not disturbing him by then?
Pls sir i need ur advice, i dated a guy for like 5 months, he tells me every thing going on in his life but at a time i noticed that he doesn’t communicate as usual again, so i lost interest in the relationship, and start dating another guy, so he realised dat am no longer there he started looking for me but i refuse to give him the chance, now the guy i left him for is not showing any interest in marriage but the ist guy is still pleading me to come back to him. Now i have turned him down so much, both his invitations and gifts,he told to come and see him At Abuja by Sept for a very important discussion. Pls should i go back to him? Advice me pls
Tell him that, if he’s really serious, he should come down to where you live and discuss with you and thereafter, you will visit him in Abuja for much more better discussion.
sir,av been dating this guy for abt 2yrs n plus almst 3 yrs,he possess those 12 signs u mention bt the problem is we had misunderstandin on the issue of sex i tried tellin him am nt ready,he doesnt want to understand me at al,he said i dnt love him truly al because i refuse to give him sex,the funniest things that he still keep sayin he loves me,that do i think he will dump me like all other guys n yet he doesnt want to understand dat am nt ready.
It’s good you made him understand that you’re not ready for sex and want a sexless relationship.
If you have been doing this for the 3yrs, then it should be a big issue, though I understand the part of the guy.
If he really want sex, then he should go ahead and do the needful.
..but I hope you too is not hiding something from him in the name of sexless relationship.
I know lots of ladies who are poor in term of sexual health and try to cover up with no sex.
You’ve got to educate yourself more about sex, so that you will not fumble on the day both of you will agree to have one, maybe on your wedding’s day night.
Good evening sir..pls i urgently need ur advise..I met a guy on 2go abt 3yrs ago so we lost contact n i stop using 2go..on my way to school i met dis guy n we exchanged pleasantries we exchanged no n dat was how we got talking he will call me for hours n cm visit me in sch..at dat time was having issues with my boyfriend we became close and i c myself kissing and doing romance don’t even know if did guy truly loves me ve met with his mother n some family members..he us just a yr older dan me..just observe he doesn’t call as before..just don’t know if he truly loves me or is after romance he has never told me he loves me physically except on whatsapp..pls advise or throw more light thanks
I have been dating a guy for 2yrs nw and he posses d above qualitie, we graduated together and he hasn’t assisted me financially he keeps saying he doesn’t hv money.. I dunno if he’s stingy or he doesn’t just care about my welfare or if actually he doesn’t have?
Thanks alot for your wonderful pieces of advice you render to people. Please, my question is: I have a guy I have been dating for 10months now that loves me so much but I’m 4months pregnant for another guy that just graduated without serious job doing but he loved me so much before until he got me pregnant and ran away. Am a final year student in University, still writing my project. Should I still hope on him to come back to me or should I move on with my life and tell the other guy that loves me about my present condition.
Have you tried to contact the guy that run away as a result of the pregnancy?
I’m not too sure if the other guy will accept you after getting pregnant for another guy.
Do you by any mean know any of his family (I mean the guy that run away)?
If you don’t, then you’ve got to face your condition, praying and hoping the guy comes back, even if
he does not have any job for now, his presence will makes life easy on you.
My bf doesn’t really spend on me but i rather spend on him, is dat really good?
It’s good but not the best.
Your boyfriend should spend more on you and not the other way round.
My bf doesn’t have any of this qualities you mentioned… our relationship is up to 3yrs now! he claim to love me tho buh am kind of confuse here
If your boyfriend don’t have any these, then, there’s problem somewhere and you still stay with him for 3yrs, you must be super hero.
I bed, take your time and see things differently, if it doesn’t worth it, take your leave.
I av a bf we’ve been for 2yrs I knw his family and he has everytin mention above bt is d type dat has hot temper anytin his angry he cn do and undo talk 2 me call me names use my past 2 talk 2 me and even send me home bt later wen his OK he beg me and tell me 2 prayer 4 him against dat spirit
We do check oda fones he tell me his pattern in his fine and I tell him mine BT later he change it and and I change mine tootoo without telling each oda d pattern unfortunately 4 him he doesn’t knw I knw d pattern already I check his fone without his presence bt noting I luv him so much and he do bt I need u 2 advice me on dis
I think he needs to works on his temper and learn to control it.
Not every lady can accept it.
If you know both of you can work it out, fine stay with him as see how it goes.
But if you know, you’ve been stretched to the limit, and you can no longer accept his outburst anymore.
Then, I will ask you to reconsider your option about the relationship.
You didn’t reply me-pls i need ur advice—I have been dating a guy for 2yrs nw and he posses d above qualitie, we graduated together and he hasn’t assisted me financially he keeps saying he doesn’t hv money.. I dunno if he’s stingy or he doesn’t just care about my welfare or if actually he doesn’t have?
You do not tell us if he’s already working and receiving enough pay to take care of himself and others.
If both of you graduated together and you don’t really have a good job now, it’s possible the same situation is affecting him too.
If he has the money and does not care about your welfare, that’s stinginess and such guy don’t worth your time.
My guy iz my mr right i c all diz in him he has a brighter future 4 us 2geda nd i luv him. I will alwayz luv u Emmanuel John
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Hi I have been dating a guy for 2yrs now but since I travel to lag he total change he don’t call me frequent again not to talk of SMS and if I try to complain he will tell me his just busy. Please advice me cause I do not want to separate with him.
Are you sure you don’t have any issue with him before you travel to Lagos?
I don’t know what you’ve come to Lagos to do, I hope he’s aware of where you’re going and why you’re travelling down to Lagos.
…all the same, you need to find all the necessary mean to reach him. Since you’ve been dating for 2yrs now, you should know his work schedule and the time he should be free, if it has not been long you travel.
Make use of those time when you know he will be free and if he still talk about being busy, tell him to tell you when he will not be busy, so that you both can talk and let him understand, you’re not being happy with the way things are going since you travel.
Maybe, just maybe, he’s missing you, you can arrange with him, how you can meet if you’re not travelling back soon.
My boyfrd don’t call me except i send him airtime but I luv him and he always shout on me sometimes i call him he will tell me he is busy in the office that he will call back later he wonder ‘ call but if u call back he will shout that can’t u hear he is busy through out that day u won’ t hear from him but the next day if u don’t call he will say u don’t care about him that is why u don’t call and hear from him. Is that luv,
That’s not love my dear sister.
I bed of you, to let him, he’s immature and a time waster.
my boyfriend does almost all what’s mentioned above but the issue am having with him is that he doesn’t call me as expected.
I have complained about it but it seems things aren’t changing bcos he is an engineer and he is always busy with his work.I don’t know what to do with his attitude towards calling.
Every good relationship need better communication.
If he’s not communicating with you well, it then mean, something is wrong in the relationship.
It is either he has another woman in his life or he’s not that much into the relationship with you.
Please find out and take the necessary step.
Hello Anthony
U seem to be a very gud relationship advisor. I need one advice or kinda help from u
This is about my gf. We r in a relationship for about a month n i know she loves me a lot but before me she used to date someone else n now when we r together she does not wanna dump dat guy coz she thinks dat might hurt him
I m really confused what to do!!!
I mean i know she loves me but how to convince her to dump dat guy
Plz plz help me out over hear
I have this closest FRD of mine we love ourselves very much, we kiss and romance we have been close going to 2years now to be frank with u he has 11 signs mentioned above.i know him very well but he said he is not interested in relationship now I have done all I could but he never want to accept relationship but anytime I talked about disappearing from his life that as he doesn’t want relationship that they is no need for us to be together he doesn’t agree to that he would keep on pleading with me, giving me so many reasons we should stay together.he makes me very happy and I too make him very happy and since I have been with him I don’t have the courage to accept any man in my life he doesn’t even ask me for sex because I told him not to. Please I need advice on what to do
You may have to move on Perpetual, he already told you he doesn’t want relationship for now, he just want to be your friend.
If you remain with him even for five years, and he later says, you can leave.
Do you know he has not done you any bad?
The reason is because, he has already told you, he doesn’t want relationship.
So, be his friend but don’t turn off potential boyfriend down.
More grease to ur elbow sir.
Hello sir u didn’t reply my massage
What was your message about?
hi.I nd ma bf have bin dating for more Dan a yr nw.bt he has dis huge appetite for sex,which of course he cheats on me I knw dat.wat do I do,cus I love him a lot.
I had a boy friend who has a girl friend,before coming to me he told me he had a girl friend but he love me so much and want me to have a relationship wit him,which I did because I also love him. and now I want him to leave that other lady and date me alone his refusing and if I ask him whether is me he loves or the other girl he will say the both of us.that he loves d both of us. So now I don’t know wat to do,should I leave him or I should try my best to have him and leave the other lady don’t know am confused
In my opinion, you will need to leave him, he has told you at the onset, that, he has another girlfriend. It won’t be ideal for me to advice you on how to take him completely from the other lady.
My relationship will b 5yrs in October but about 4months ago I noticed some changes in my partner…ranging from him condemning every act of mine to cursing me on phone anytime I complain and he was also avoiding me too both physically n phone communication…I reached d conclusion dt he no longer wants me…it was a really hard time for me n I tried everything possible to make things work dt I had to make my mum talk to him n I also spoke to his mum though he keeps telling me he wants to marry me dt I should not disturb myself n just move on with my normal life but m convinced within me he just doesn’t want to say it with his mouth dt its over…About a month ago, dr is ds male friend of mine dt I av known for 7yrs now n we r very close to some extent n he started asking me out though he did not know what’s happening with my relationship but he said he cnt keep it in him again dt he’s got love for ,I could see his sincerity den I started developing feelings, at first I was trying to b careful cos I had to b sure if m not just needing someone to fill d void in my heart but den I agreed n we r dating now but d problem am having now is no matter how hard I try I still cnt get my other boyfriend out of my head n its really causing a lot of pain for me…pls advise a part of me still long for him which I really need to stop but don’t know how to
First, you have not made up your mind to end the relationship with him.
You need to do something about that first, before you can begin to talk about moving on with another guy.
But a relationship that lasted for five good years, shouldn’t just end like that without any reasonable evident that either of you has done something terribly wrong and the other person can’t just take it.
Yes, I know that, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
But I still believe both of you can sort things out and get back your relationship on the right track.
It’s not easy to forget about something you’ve been nurturing for the past five years in a little month, when you know there’s nothing tangible that can just end the relationship abruptly.
Please your guy friends to talk to him, you’ve already involved his mother, you can still get others involve too, like the sisters or brothers that can help you talk to him.
If he’s not interested, he should just come out clean about it.
Hello pls I need to talk with u personally because my issue is complex. I don’t mind having ur contact or personal e-mail not to be published. Pls no interior motive its because its personal to me not worth sharing. Pls can u attend to me? I beg u thank u God bless u am a married woman so don’t think otherwise
Omotola, it’s not about thinking otherwise, though I didn’t see your comment early.
You can send me a personal message or email to [email protected]
You can also go to my facebook page and send me messages, don’t send the message as a general one, just send it as an inbox, I will receive it and get back at you.
I don’t normally like to share my phone number here.
When you send the mail, or facebook message, I will reply you with my phone number.
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Here is my qstn,a guy woo me for the past 2yrs,den i told him i cant date anybody until i gain admsn into university……….now,av ben offered admsn,and he askin for my love…..now does the guy love me at all?and can i date him eventho i dont knw his character?
You can date him or just be his friend in other to study him.
But one thing is sure here, when you finally enter the University, you’re surely going to meet other wonderful guys out there.
So, my advice for you now, is to wait and first finish with your admission, settle down with your schooling and then think about it and several other potential suitors that will come your way.
Have met my boyriend 2013 and we fought then and depart two month after for issues I explain to him about a guy but we later fought and separate then, but now we are back last year august he so caring he help me with everything when he came to my house watch cloth with me plates sometimes and if we figght either me or he will come and beg each other we never fight for 2days and I don’t know. Maybe becoz of what I normally do for him when he is broke maybe that is why he pretend to love me or what but when we met then in 2013 he is not broke then he spend for me did he truly love me
please sir I hv been I relationship with this guy for 1 yr. he claim he loves me but the truth is that I don’t think he does 1 he dont call always even for 5 days even if he’s online on whatsap he don’t chat though he told me b4 he don’t like chatting but reading news on his phone. The recent one he did last two days was that he travelled to lagos but ddnt tell me till he was there already when he called, I didn’t react I said OK hope is for good and I even called next day to no if he did come bk cus he told me he will go bk that day. but b4 he that we ddnt talk for 7DAYS or even chat he just entered online and said he just need understanding that he need to make money.tht statement got me confuse .
I don’t think your guy is ready for a real relationship.
If he want to makes money, he should have bother to get you into the relationship and started creating confusion for you here and there;
I want to say here that, he’s not ready for a serious relationship.
So, don’t waste your time with him except if you still have much time and ready to continue the endurance.
Mine is that my am into a distance relatioship of about 2years now. We have been all good i go to visit him but he has never gottn to introduce me very well to any of his friends i keep on seen different faces and when i asked him he said he doesnt trust his friends so he doesnt want me to be aquiented with any of them only for him to recently tell me that he has a bestie but its a girl that he knew before we meet and they have so close and now besties. But my fear is that this too besties are Ibgos and am Calabar this girl is closer to his family members but i am not so am confuse
He’s probably using you as a cover up, and I may be right, if I says he loves the other girl he caller his bestie more than you.
Tell him to tell you the truth, that you’re tired of being in relationship with someone who’s afraid of showing to his friend.
He’s surely hiding something from you.
I dnt knw if my guy really loves me,am afraid. he has sme of d signs there. He has many gals cntact nd pix in his phne,he goes out in d morning nd cum bck at nyt then wen he is bck,he wil hv time for his game or chat on watsapp nd its very hard be4 he tels me dat he love me bt he does dat to other gals. Am pregnant for him nd he askd me nt to abort his child nd rather i shld keep it dat he wil go nd c my family,his family knws nd lyk me,even his frnds bt am afraid. I need ur advice Sir does he really luv me? Advice pls
I guess the game caught up with me.
Now that you’re pregnant for him, and he’s interested in the baby, at least for now, he will show some love but after the delivery and nursing of the baby, I cannot guaranty he will still loves you.
You man is a gamer, and it can be very difficult for guy like that, to takes off his eyes from other ladies outside.
I just pray that he comes to his senses, and realised he’s about to become a family love and show you the much needed love you deserve.
Pls sir, My bf looks at oda ladies especially dos with backsides any time they pass. Though he shows let me say 8 out of the 12 signs above. I’m confused.
If he’s looking at the other ladies with backside when he’s in your present, then, he’s probably going to cheat on you and that also shows, he does not respect you nor the relationship.
Hello Anthony, I’m in love with my boyfriend and we’ve been together for 2years now ,but I’m not sure if he still loves me, our time together is always awesome but he hardly keeps contact or calls. But if we are together, it’s always the best of times. I’m seriously confused about how he feels about me
Hi Brownsugar,
Does your boyfriend keep contact when you both just get into the relationship for at least 6months to a year?
If the response is yes, these possible reasons might be why he hardly calls for now.
1. If you get to clingy with him, he will look for ways to give you some distance even though, he’s still in the relationship.
2. If you’re too demanding and can’t possibly stand on your own for some simple things, he might distance himself from you through calls.
3. He’s probably seeing another babe and the new girl might be taking much of his attention for now.
4. He just feel bore with the relationship and want to take some time out, which is not the best option for any serious guy.
Get him talking and let him understand, you’re not feeling comfortable with his inability to always keeps contact with the person he profess he loves.
Pls sir,am in a relationship with a girl for over 2yr,she is older than me wit 1yr…we meet at college…ever since she told she into anoda relationship mistakenly,i wasn’t comfortable wit dat nd each time i think of tellin her it over btw us,the memory of our love click back into my heart…coz i dnt think i love her again(i breakup wit her some mnth ago bt our frnd got us back)
Hi, am into a relationship for about 2yrs plus and we promised to get married but i found out some days ago that he does not have my number saved on his phone, does it mean that he does not love me anymore?
It’s hard to say, he does not love you anymore.
Does he calls you regularly?
If yes, it’s possible he knows your number off hand.
On the other side of it, he might be hiding your number for possibly other babe he’s going out with.
The best you can do is to ask him, why he doesn’t save your number on his phone.
Demand that, you want to see you number on his phone, if he refuses to do just that, then there’s something else he doesn’t wants you to know about.
Its already 3moths since av ben datin dis guy.we r nt sayin close bt only c at church regularly.he loves me and do care for me bt hardly do he av wat to say wen we meet coz he has tld me all abt hiself and doesnt go out lyk dat.i dnt knw wat to do and i do bring topic most times to discuss on bt i dnt lyk it dat way,wat shld i do
Sir, av been datin dis guy 4 almost 3yrs but i can’t still judge if he 2ruly love me. He calls me regularly bt at dsame time he knows ao 2 scold me anytime i do d slightest thing to d xtent dat i’ll b crying, wen he see me cryin he ask me wot’s wrng, wen i say my mind, if he realizes his fault he’ll strt beggin me & he’ll also b cryin bt wen he dosnt he will jst cont scoldin me. He love 2 shower me wif many gifts but agn he dosnt take wot i dnt like criously until i nagg. He does somethns lyk cookin & cleanin d house, if i ask him y, he will say bcos his dad has tght dem dat. It’s so cofusin. Bt thre is dis guy we’ve been frnds 4 d past 5mnts, he 2ruly love me & i knw, infact he has been evrythn, bt i dnt av feelinz 4 him. Am not sure abt d 1 i 2ruly luv & i dnt luv d 1 am sure of.
Hmnnnnn!
You can’t claim the new guy really loves you.
If the one you’ve been dating for 3yrs is still giving you confusion.
I’m sure, the new guy has his own fault too, but for now, you may not notice it.
You should understand that, no guy is perfect just as you too is not perfect.
Try to understand his imperfection, if it’s something you thing you can live with, and over time, he will understand your part.
Anthony if your man says he is not available to answer calls at certain times like after hours what should I think of?I love guy a lot but to me his action is very strange.Yet he calls me anytime but as for me I can’t .But I know for a fact dat he is not married.Please help
I don’t think any serious guy will ever tells someone he truly loves not to call him for certain hours.
If there’s going to be anything like that, he needs to explain it to you and you must see reason why, he need that time
to stay off your call.
Though, I don’t even believe it.
Are you sure, he’s not having another woman in his life and he doesn’t want you to call in during the time, he’s with her.
I av a boyfrnd nd we av been dating close 2 8 months. He really loves me and shows it but before we me he was a sex pervert and even enjoy free sex from people he was not dating. His ex break up wit him when she was admitted into poly wit claims that she cant date one who is not as learned as she is caus he had sch sat then.
Now am a virgin and cant give him sx now after months he starts having girlfrnds for fun, but he tels me, name every girl and even show me some. He already introduce me to his relative. The problem now is that he is pron 2 anger and he kiss,hug those girls in my present this get on my nerves when we go out 2gether nd we meet any of those girls he wil ask me to go home alone nd meet me later. Lastly he reference his frnd more than me . Am really confused al this girls knws me as his sister
He’s shown you that, he has no real love for you.
Since he’s unable to get sex from you, which is what he’s after.
So, I will advice you to just end the relationship with him and be free from the emotional trauma he’s causing you right now.
I have a bf,we’ve dating for a yr and 6month. I realise he is dating another gal which I confronted him but he later broke up with the lady but few weeks later he went buy to d lady. I noticed again and he broke up again. To cut d story short and time he find out I know abt d he always break up. D oda lady add me on whatsapp nd ww because friends but till now he find it hard to leave either me or d gal. Have break up with him thrice but he beg bk. He later introduced me to his big sister ND he also declared me as his asset in church. But m very confused m doubting mayb he loves me or nt.
am in love with a guy we start dating jst about two month ago he was calling me texting me all this time but about two weeks ago he hardly call me or text me and one day i was going through his pictures and i saw a ring on fighter indicating marriage so when i ask if he is married but he said no and he told me dat he used that to protect himself y he was in becus he hold a big position in SUG bt ever since dat day am confuse nd don’t kn wat to do
Well, having ring on his finger in one his picture does not necessary mean he’s married, if he does not put on the ring often.
Using the ring for protection is what I can’t say much about, but is the ring golden or silver plated ring?
He’s in the best position to tell you what actually he use the ring for and you should ask him, why he’s not wearing it every time and you have never seen it in his hand for real, except the one in the picture.
I have been i a relationship with this guy fr a year nd few months and we both love each other so much. Even his siblings that i hv seen loves me too nd my brother likes his kind of person.
He told me that if it is God’s wish, we will end up together but he is not promising to marry me nd he won’t promise me anything cos change is constant. But atimes i get worried about this his statement of not promising me anything. Is it proper to be in a relationship without any promise of any kind?
it’s promise (commitment), trust and love that keeps relationship going, when one of them is missing, then, there is problem somewhere which you have not been able to identified.
I guess he wants to be real with you because, his mind is actually not set on you.
This mean, you’re not the only lady in his radar.
Even if the promise will fail, he just need to make it for now, to keep you and the relationship going
Please ask him, what he mean by the statement, he can’t promise you anything….
Tell him to be opened about it and you can’t stay in a relationship where there’s no direction.
my boyfrnd does not have all that u have mentioned but I can feel it that he loves me so much but the problem am having with him is jealousy, he get angry each time my course mates (male)calls me on phone.and he will sumtimes live the house for me and that makes me think he doesn’t love me,and sometimes he chart with this particular girl and when i ask him,he will say she was her class mate back then.am confused
Since you’re aware of his jealous attitude, then try to avoid situation that will lead to him being over-jealous.
He goes out because he can’t take it and that should be a sign to you, that he does not like it.
You should try and sit him down and explain to him, that it’s your course mate and you should be mindful of the kind of conversation you have your course mate.
You can even make him proud of you by telling your male course mate that you’re with your boyfriend, the guy you’re going to get married to.
my bf askd me out 4 mre dan 4yrs b4 i answered him. we’ve nw been datin 4 6mths. wen we strted, he intrdcd me 2 evry1(families & frnds) & tells me evrythn, includin other grls askin him out, he was indeed showin all d twlve attributes of 2ru love. lata afta 3 mnths of our rel, i had a gr8 mood swing dat made me brke up (jst tryin 2 be alone & thnk). 2ruout d brk up, he neva chnged his bhavr or stop lovin till we lata settld it afta 2wks. afta den i really really fell inlove wif him & we were api. wen we came bck, he tld me evrythn dat has appened & dat 1 of dose grls askin him out den was d 1 dat kept his compny a li2 anytme he wants 2 thnk abt our sepratn durin d brkup & we closed dos chapters. evrythn was fyn until afta a mnth i strted noticin some chnges abt him(he care less & shw less concern abt me), i askd him & he sed it’s nothn. bt i srted 2 notice dat d closness btwn him & dat particular girl is now gr8, chckin 2ru his calls, he now call d grl dan me, dey now xchnge gifts & he now delete her chats on watsap. i questnd him & he keep sayin i shldnt give myslf useless headache dat d girl has only turd 2 his best frnd & nothn mre, dat av i 4grtten dat he has introducd me 2 her as his wife 2 be & dat i shld knw dat nothn can chnge dat, dat even d girl knws dat. but they keep gettin more & more closa, dey spend time 2geda even dan he does wif me & he neva leave their chats undeleted. i really dnt knw what 2 do sir.
I just started seeing this guy actually he’s my ex’s friend, he says he loves me and all, but I’m scared I. dont know if I should trust him, I’m second guessing him because of he’s relationship with my ex, I feel he’s just out to get me and not be serious but he. keeps assuring me he’s real, what do I do?
I love relationship
I met my boyfrnd last year july nd i accept his proposal by september last year.we started the relationship but since when he has gotten admission into university everything changed.no callin,mesagin but fortunately he came home lastweek and a friend of his called him and ask of his girlfrnd but not me!he even said he must marry the girl but that day i went home sad not asking him who the girl is.suprising i taged my picture with him on facebook but he delete it,PLS ADVICE ME
just keep in watching him.Den i wil tel u d next steps to take
the truth is my bf has all d above qualities bit the problem is he has a girl whom he hide from me till she came back from youth service now ever since she arrived from past 4month she has been staying with him,he never breakup with me,he still had the above mentioned,he keeps telling he loves me that I should be patience till things unfold……my question is does he really love me?
there was a guy I met two months ago he always buy me things phone, clothes etc he have not have sex with me, he always give me money and he used to say he loves me and at the same time saying he don’t want to marry a Nigeria woman. so am confused
Hi….I’ve been into a relationship with my boyfriend for some weeks nw, we’ll b a month by next week…he loves me, he tells me dat n shows me too, we chat quite often…buh in a way I’m still very confused…as in, I still doubt his love for me….Before I decided to give him a chance, I considered somethings… he chats with me very often, always make an excuse even d stupid ones (excuses) just for us to see each other n spend time together, he offers to help even wen I dnt ask for, he’s unpredictable I.e takes me by surprise always, steals glances at me even wen he tinks I’m nt observing, loves to call my attention anytime we see nt minding d environment, he always noticed wen my mood got changed etc…I tried pushing him away from me buh he kept coming….I really felt like exploding cos he wasn’t even giving me a break… buh I observed dat in as much I pushed him away, fate always had a way of bringing us back…In my school, of all our 6 chapels, we wia posted to d same chapel and wen everyone was assigned to dia permanent chapels, we wia posted to d same chapel tho different from d first we stayed in…how I fell for him, was how I didn’t kw hw it started, buh I can remember dat I started showing interest, I showed him care wen he was sick which left him imagining if I was actually d one doing dat(he told me abt dis wen we started dating, ie he’s imagination)….with all dese, I really need to confide in you….do u really think dat he’s truly in love with me….I’m asking dis because most guys may still go dis far with a girl dey re nt serious with n I dnt want any heartbreaks especially nw dat I feel more for him each passing day….if possible, re dey some love tests u could suggest for me to actually kw his stand with me.. thanks
I have been into this guy for like 8 years love him so much,he does all u said above,he talk on marriage and children with me want to no my parent but the thing is that I have feelings for one else but am madly into him dnt no what to do
After being into someone for 8yrs and you’re now having feeling for someone else.
What’s wrong with the first guy, you’ve been with for 8yrs?
This is why I like lady being in a relationship with guy for longer period like this.
You can flirt around with guys, but you’ve just have to get committed to the actual guys you really feel worth your bill.
I guess you’re not ready to settle down, maybe you still like to go with another guy for 8yrs again, that’s my thought anyway!
The devil you know, they say, is better than the angel you don’t know.
How can I make my boyfriend realise that I love him more than my life. But he doesn’t understand
Hi I love the way u respond to issues. I was married but separated 4 4years now cos of husband’s people and d guys behaviour is a long story that almost too my life even wen I tried so hard to make it work. I already made up my mind to return d diary which is in process before I met d guy. Nd since then i have not had any relationship.This year I met dis single guy not yet married but advance in age, the first day he met me he asked me if I’m single or married I told him the truth cos I look so much like someone that has not given birth before, I have 4 children. My first daughter is 11, he didnt believe it. He’s has been dieing for me he has even offered to return d diary he has not told me anything yet, nd I m still studying him. Bcos I don’t want what happened to me to repeat itself. Is it possible for a single guy to marry me cos I haven’t seen it before. He cares, love nd respect me. But I am still watching him. Recntly he told me about a lady that got married nd left with 2 kids that he was dating nd eventually turned her down nd he said he wants a matured lady
like I am DAT I am matured, Pls what do u have to say about dis? Expecting ur reply.
Hello BB,
It is really painful to go through experience like this and when you try to make everything works, yet you can’t seem to make headway.
Sorry to hear you went through such pain.
In this regards, proper things must be done before you move into another man’s house.
The question now is that…
How do you both get married?
Church, Mosque, Traditional or Court Marriage.
Whichever, you need to follow due process to nullify the vow you’ve made with each other and set your self free from marital vow.
The only thing that will join both of you together will only be the children and you must discuss who should be in the custody of these children.
Now, moving into another man’s house.
First, you need to study this person more and ask critical questions, ask questions about things you’ve seen in the other marriage that’s caused the whole trouble, use the experience of your previous marriage to ask as many questions to really satisfy your conscience.
Don’t also forget to ask question concerning your children with the new man you’re getting involve with.
Ask about if your children will be staying with you, will he accept it?
Ask about if your children can visit you, spend sometimes or come for holidaying with you.
Just ask questions about your children and please take notice of how he responds to all your questions.
If you’re not satisfy with any of his responds, please ask for clarification and be sure you get his response very clear.
I know, many single men, will not want to accept the children staying with you and if this happen in your present situation, but you still want to go ahead and marry him, then before anything else, if those children will be in your possession, look for another alternatives, where they can stay, to live their lives and as their mother, visit, love and show great care for them.
Those are what you have, if everything else fails, your children will remain and the Grace of God, I wish you well.
Thanks
Am 22of age I just got into a new relationship and we are just 3weeks gone.I like him cos he my type of person he does not have any of those quality you mentioned above . he does not call if he want to call maybe like once in d evening time if we are to go out if I don’t make d arrangement of d outing he won’t but if I want us to out he will accept and take me to wherever I want but If i don’t call to ask him how far it means there is no outing. it makes me looks ask if am forcing myself on him .I just want the relationship to end well for us cos I really like him . what do you think should forget about him or give it sometime .
My b.f. did’nt more communication with me,and he have tensation of his family and carrar but he always says me i really love you.But i can’t know his opeanion. plz reaply me.
Hi, I have a boyfriend we have been dating for almost 2 years now, but I just don’t feel totally good on one side,he doesn’t really check up, and then when we have little issues he hypes it and if I’m like do what you want he’s never gonna talk about breakup, whenever we have issues he says worst things, like really bad and when we settle it, he reverses it, and at times when we have issues it’s always me trying to pull things back together, it really bothers me, even when we r at peace I think of these things.. I don’t know what to do
The reality is that, no relationship is perfect, you will have to work along and create that perfection or tolerance you want from the relationship.
But if it turns to something you don’t really like and you’ve tried all you can but no head way. I’ll advice you to quit the relationship.
Here’s something you need to consider whether you want to stay or quit the relationship.
Relationship is a learning process about things to come later in your companionship. You’ll learn to understand how things can work out for you as well as test your acceptability of the other person’s error, insofar it does not harm you.
I have being dating a guy for the past months,n anytime I ask him if he had a gal before we started dating he tells me to focus on him
i have a guy ve been with 4 17 months now he says he wants to marry me .he keeps tellng me story each time i ask wen he is coming i think he is lieng to me
i av been dating for past month ,he told me he as a galfrnd ,bt i knw he love me bt he still communicate with her,should i continue with him?
You to confirm it and not assume it’s true.
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My ex as i see him loves me so much but i don’t love him tho he still thinks we’re dating i’ve made it clear to him that i don’t love him any more but tends not to realise that, he has all these 12 characteristics and more pls what do i do cause i love some one else, i need your advice please???
Hi, am Merit, am 18. I’ve been in a relationship with this guy 7 months now, though he has almost all the characters listed above, he’s caring but he easily get angry. When we newly knew each other, he calls and text me everyday, but now it seems things has being changing. Though we stay far from each other, and we hardly see each other. We met online, and since we’ve being dating, we only saw each other twice. But there is something i want to understand, most times when he’s online, he hardly reply my chat, and am worried. Also, there is this girl that always comment romantic words on his post, and he also add this same girl to his story sometimes. I want to know, do he really love me or he’s just pretending. Cus each time i ask him if he truly love me or he is just pretending and if he is cheating on me, most times he gets angry. And i really love him. Do he love me.
Hi Merit,
I understand how you’re feeling and it’s normal to feel that way.
You see, sometimes guys are like that, especially at the youthful age in their twenties.
Let me ask you this question.
Has he ever added you to his story on Facebook?
If no, but he’s done that with other guy and not hiding it.
My assumption is that, he is not really into you as much as you’re into him.
You can ask him the question of if he’s in love with as often as you like but don’t ask him if he’s pretending as if he really loves you.
I can see from your narration that, he get angry easily when you ask him the obvious question (cheating on you and pretension).
My take is, don’t give him everything, reserve the precious, don’t be too emotionally attached to him. Just as he met you online, he actually met other ladies too online and all I can say is that, he has not made up his mind yet, he just want to test around.
Devote your emotional energy to something that gives you joy and if you met another person, that you like, don’t hesitate to give the person a chance too.
I hope this help.
Good afternoon, I have a boyfriend and we love each other,we start dating last year. Am confuse because we have issue last night and he said that he don’t want our relationship again. But this morning he was the first person to wake me up and start coming me sweet names and asking me about my night. I want to know if he is real or not
Whether he’s real or not I cannot categorically say for now, but I can say is that, he still loves you.
When temper is high, lots of thing can be said, which actually are not coming deep down from the heart.
You both had issue last night and this morning all is well again.
Even in marriage, everything cannot go on smoothly.
At some point, there will be disagreement and later it will be settled and the love will ever remain as solid as ever.
So, focus on working together to get your dating and relationship going.
Selah!
Hi am mirah
I have dis boyfriend we ave been dating for 3yrs nw… I love him he loves me but d problem is he ask for sex anytime we are together, tho am always complaining is too much… But is nt every time we are together… So any time I refused he will start begging for it and later got angry.. so now he told dat anytime I refused he gets stomach upset, kinda funny… So I don’t knw if dat is actually possible to get stomach upset cos I refused him… And also i don’t knw if he’s attracted to me or is jst lust he has for me after all dis years.. Help pls
Mirah, stomach upset has nothing to do with refusing him sex.
It’s just a pretense to coaxes you into giving in and let him have his way.
Having sex with a guy every time you’re together is not a guarantee that he’s truly in love with you.
This may not be true but in my own opinion, he’s still handing around because of the sex.
If you can hold yourself, refuse giving him sex for your next 3 visit, the outcome with determine if he’s there for the sex or otherwise.
I will love to have the book. Thank you in advance
Sure, you’ll get.
There is this guy I’m dating
I feel he is dating me for sex
Whenever we are in a conversation he always brings sex matters. I feel he is so obsessed with my ass. He doesn’t want to show me to his friends and whenever we are together
He always finds his way to hug and kiss me and even ask for
There is this guy I’m dating I feel he is dating me for sex and he always bring up sex matters whenever we are in a conversation. He doesn’t want to show me to his friends
He hasn’t spend any money on me yet. Whenever we are together he always find a way to get intimate with me though I do shove him off
He is fond of asking not only me but girls around him nudes, twerk videos e.t.c
Buh he is being honest with me and tells me his secret, he loves having a conversation with me. He calls whenever am offline
He seems to care about in a bit but also seems to be interested in having sex with me
So am confused
I don’t really know if he truly loves me or he only want sex from me
Your guess is as good as mine.
He’s there for the sex only.
I’ll advice you to stop dating him if all he cares about most is in having sex with you.
If a guy is not proud of you, he will not want his friends to know there’s something between you both.
What he’s indirectly telling you is that, you’re not good enough for him other than sex.
Start denying him sex whenever he ask for it for at least 3months if you can hold yourself.
Within this period, watch him closely and you’ll see what you consider as being honest with you, is just a ploy for you to continue staying around for the sex.
Am in this relationship for more than six months now, whenever am with him I see every reason to believe he loves me, but my doubt is during our chats on the phone he doesn’t say I love u, even on call he hardly says I love u too me,my room mates said he does not love me,bcus most of the time when I tell him I love him his response would be love you too, like am so confused pls what do I do?
Hey Princess, don’t be confused.
There are some set people that don’t easily tell you “I love you” just for you to believe you’re being loved.
Some cherish that 3-words and they hardly say it to someone who they are not 100% sure of their love.
There are certain people too, that are shy away from telling you I love you and they never consider it as anything.
I understand that women generally love to hear their love ones tell them “I Love You” often and often because it make them feel better and being loved, even if their men saying it are actually not saying it deep down their heart.
Never follow what your room-mate is telling you in this regard, just ignore her and see how you can tell your guy, you notice he has never said “I Love You” since you’ve started dating.
Besides, when you tell him I love you and he responded “Love You Too”
He has actually said “I Love You”
If you’re not really feeling good about his response, tell him, next time how you want him to respond.
Maybe something like “I Love You Too”
Anyway, whether he tells you I love you or not, that will not determine if he actually love you. There are other details you need to pay attention to.
Build good friendship with him so that you can ask him all sort of questions that will not piss him off and you can use that good rapport to tell him what you like and what you don’t cherish.
I hope this help you Princess Miebaka.
Hello sir please i need your advice, i meet a man who is in bible College, very soon he will become a pastor, he is married since 2011 without having a child and his wife is older than him, he has been disturbing me that he wants to marry me, since the day i met him i’ve been having several dreams how we got married, leave together happily with our children but am always confused , and am really scared since all my dreams always come to pass but this actual dream is making me to be confused since the man is already married And he has all the character you listed above. He told me all his secret apart from how he married his present wife, which he said: (the secret is personal for now) and has promise not to have sex with me untill we get married. Plz advice me
He will soon becomes a pastor but pastor are not allow to marry two wives.
Therefore, forget about him and let another per has the opportunity to meet you.
Pls I need advise
I just dated him not to long ago and I think it making two weeks and this is the first time have ever dated
Tho the guy is poor financially,I don’t have problem with that
My problem is that he is not romantic at all, I don’t know Weda he is shy or what
Every hard b4 he calls me
Does he love me
Tho whenever I call him he say he loves me
My girl loves me so much, she support me and help me to stand back when i had nothing, and i promise that i can’t let her go, but since i told her i want to marry her, she never answered me, i have talked to her many times but she never reply till today what should i do? We have been 2geda for 4ys
Hey Dan, there many things you can do but first of all, tell her you have something very important to ask her and you’ll be very happy to hear from her.
Now get her seated and ask her…
What exactly she want from the relationship you both have been having for the past 4yrs/
Her response will determine your next line of action.
Ensure you’re both seated facing one another, in a happy mood, hold her too hands and never angrily ask her such question.
Just show your sincerity that you really want to step the relationship further.
I hope this help you Dan.
Good morning I have a boyfriend we have been dating for a month he tries to see me everyday because I work close to his house but whenever he’s away he doesn’t call except I call and he’ll always give an excuse that he doesn’t have airtime, but he’s almost always online but he would never chat me up.Am still a virgin but I don’t think he values it
And he doesn’t want his family members to know about I overheard him telling his cousin that he doesn’t have a girlfriend and lastly he has nude pictures on his phone which he use as wallpaper even on WhatsApp.He even has a girl’s contact saved as my spec and he also saved some girls’ contact with emoji that signifies that there’s more to them like….😘😋😋 I don’t even know what to think about please help me
I met my boyfriend 2years ago….he’s a broke guy and I understand that…so am always sending him money whenever he needs my help…sometimes if I offer to help he will reject it…buh the issue is that when I tell him that babe someone ask me out or I told him anything abt me…or anything that is happening to me he does nt respond to what I say…all he will be saying is that what shld I say and it getting too much of him…if we are chatting am always d one bringing topic…iffa don’t ave anything to say…then the chat will end… So I don’t really know whether he loves me….sometimes he will behave like a sweet guys…sometimes he will behave Like he doesn’t love me….am just so scared…so he won’t leave me for anoda woman.
Dear Omotoyosi,
From what you’ve narrated here, the evidence that he does not really into you is there.
Something else is taking much of his time and this can be another woman.
In my opinion, give him some space and watch from afar, how he behaves.
If he’s really into you, you can tell from his behaviour when you pretend as if you don’t care anymore.
If a guy loves you, he will not keep to himself until you bring up something to be discuss.
He will always has gist for you whether from his place of work, home, church or school.
The evidence is there anyway, that he care less about you.
You’re not his priority as at now.
Thanks
My guy has been avoiding my calls for past a month now, and he claims that he loves me and also tell my mum his true feelings for me, please I am really scared and I don’t know if he was real about the whole thing
I have a bf.He doesn’t show commitment,he is not caring and he only calls at night.He always asked me to come to his house.He never asked about my life and he doesn’t care about his..He hates it whenever I tell him the truth.Tho he is not the one I loved but since he claimed he loved me I tried to developed feelings for him but he is not helping
Hey Lizzy, if all of what you wrote here is true, then, you don’t need to force yourself into such relationship. Move on and make yourself available for another potential boyfriend to find you.
I hope this help your situation.
Thanks
Wow! What an interesting book. I love it so much.
How do you really know that your boyfreind is serious with you?
Hello sir am susana a have a boyfriend and we have been dating fo a month now . actually this guy has been crushing on me the first time he saws me when i was in shs 2 till when i completed shs we having being dating for a month now am really confuse .he told me he already has a girlfriend but he really really likes me although he knows the truth will hurt.And he always has this feeling that whatever i do he gets to know .I even ask him why and he told me it is normal .he ask me not to leave him after finding out he has a girlfriend although is a long distance relationship he hardly sees the girl twice in a year and sometimes once in a year .he is very caring ,he is really open to me , he told me everthing that happend in his past relationship .he also told me every secret of his .and whenever he is horny he always call for me and when am not able to have sex with him he will just allow me to go secof he does not want to disturb me with sex.we have also spend a whole time together before . and he is the shy type to. And he aslo calls me sweet names anytime he sees me and whenever we talk on the phone.he always tells me am beautiful whenever we meet.and he also told me he has no reason for loving me.so sir please i want to be sure if this guy really loves me or just playing with my feelings.
If he really loves you, he has to let his other girlfriend go. He can’t keep both of you in the relationship, there will be serious trouble ahead.
Tell him, if he truly loves you, he has to choose between both of you as you cannot be sharing the same guy with another person. It is never proper even though people do it, there problem associated with it is much bigger.
Hi
Am Efia
My boyfriend has been cheating on me of late but sometimes call when i don’t call him for days
I sent him message that if he doesnt change his attitude i Will break up with him but he didn’t reply to my message
And i later called him several sometimes but he didn’t pick my calls and he sent me an angry voice note that why can’t i see that he is doing something while he is not picking my calls and keeps on calling him
Please i dont understand that statement and why he didn’t answer the message i sent him and does he love me at all?
If this is true, then the love between both of you is already sour and needs urgent attention. You should try your best and have a good discussion about your relationship with him
If he avoids discussing it with you, then, he didn’t love you anymore, he’s just there to waste your time if he doesn’t want to end the relationship.
I hope he listen to you when you call for the discussion.
Whenever i disscus it with him, he tells me he has been busy nowadays that’s yy he has not been checking up on me n promises to change,he changes for a while and repeat his bad attitude again,we have been dating for a year,he was not like dat but since he got work to do his behaviour changes always because i have heard he is cheating on me with a worker Who works at the restaurant he manages it but doesnt tell me whenever i ask him.whenever he calls he advices me to learn for my upcoming exams because am a student and always sends me when i need money.when i sent him the msg to change else our relationship will be breaking up,he has now changed his behaviour but i know he will repeat it.Am confused whether this guy still loves me or not cos he used to hide me from his friends but he has now stopped dat.my big problem is he doesnt check up on me often unless i stops chating or calling him for a while before he calls to ask whether am fine or not.
Your relationship is just a year and he put up this kind of attitude, it’s obvious, he’s not really in love with you anymore. I think his heart is somewhere else and he only comes for you whenever he remembers he has not ended the relationship with you.
If a guy really loves you, no matter his kind of works, he will surely get in touch with you within 24hrs. When the love is no more there, he tends to forget about you and check on you when he likes.
Here’s my advice for you Rita, take your mind off him, protect your heart so that it will not get broken unexpected. Just do as if he’s not there for you anymore and be opened for a new relationship.
Oh kk
Thank you 😊
I still can’t forget him
Why?
Pls help me find my way out from this relationship or i should also cheat?
I’m sure you didn’t wake up one day and completely fall in love with him. It takes time and your love grows day by day for him. So also, it will take time to let him off your mind completely.
Think about the disgusting things he has done for you that made you angry about him. Things like cheating on you, not showing care anymore, etc
Can you live with or go ahead and marry a cheating guy?
Of course no!
Can you stay in a relationship with no more care as it used to be in the beginning?
Of course no!
Go and mingle with other available guys who are out there waiting for you. You don’t have to start dating anyone now, you just need their friendship and in no time, you’ll forget about him.
He changes his attitude for a while whenever I discuss it with him and repeat his bad attitude,am a student so anytime I calls him or he calls he tells to learn hard to pass my upcoming Exams and also sends me when am in need of money.he used to deny me as his girlfriend in front of his friends but now he has stopped doing that and also I learnt he is cheating but doesn’t tells me the truth when I ask him
I don’t know what to do now am confused because he sometimes shows care and sometimes too ignore me
My dear he doesn’t love you, that’s the sign
I asked him last three days whether he truly loves me and he said Yes he does n why did i asked that question,n i told him abt the lady n he didn’t say anything abt it
Thank u for ur good views
I started dating a guy a couple of weeks ago ,it was like we had known each other for a long time communication everything was on point. Then he asked for sex which I told him I wasn’t ready we should take our time to know each other, from then he keeps complaining I don’t love him as much as he does he keeps telling me I’m not doing my part of the relationship right. I seriously don’t know what to do right now, I do like him alot but I don’t understand what he is trying to say and he won’t give me a clue because he tells me I know what I’m doing which I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. What should I do
My guy posted a lady picture on his WhatsApp status and also make it his profile picture, tho he told me he has a girlfriend who is far from him. And yet he says he loves me , he calls me almost everyday but am scared if it’s from his heart . His family knows about the girl cos she stays close to them. Please sis I need your advice.
Just run from him.
He’s keeping you as an alternative if the other ones do not work out. I’m sure, this is not what you want.
So, kindly take a walk before your heart is broken.
I have a guy in my life although we talk al most a year before we started dating we have been two months now he his not a talking type when we sit out with friends self he don’t like talking he don’t call me like that but he show Conners whenever I have a problem he like advising me he help when never he know am in need he even tell me they way he want me to be dressing but my my problem is this guy has never for once tell me he love me even before we started dating he never for once told me he like me i only notice through his action n way he show Conners about my issues is he very boring when phone talk chat but he make me feel free n good when we are together what I don’t understand is does he really love me?
Well, since he’s reserve kind of a guy, it’s difficult to read what’s going on inside of him now.
The relationship is just two months, I will advise you to give him more time maybe like 2-3 months more and you should also tell him what you feel about how the relationship is going.
Let him know that, he has to assure you of his love not only by his action alone but by professing it from his mouth, that he loves you.
I hope his help.