How To Use Body Language To Flirt With Women Successfully
In this write up, you’re going to learn how to successfully utilize non-verbal cues to your advantage when dealing with the opposite sex. Majority of effective communication is accomplished without saying a word but through your body language.
Maintaining a strong physical presence is important when flirting, as 90% of communication is accomplished through your actions and demeanour. In short, what you say and what you do are two totally different concepts.
Everything from the look in your eyes to your posture will be honed to insure you’re giving off the best impression possible. Let’s explore those non-verbal cues called body language so as to make use of them when you’re flirting.
How To Use Body Language To Flirt With Women
1. Eye Contact
You can tell a lot about a person simply by the way they look (or don’t look) at you. Your eyes are the most important part of your body language. They never lie.
There is one standard to consider when using your eyes during flirting. When you first make eye contact with a girl, hold it for at least three seconds.
Anything shorter will portray you as unconfident; anything longer will make you look creepy (and we certainly don’t want that!) By holding her gaze for the standard three seconds, you’re showing you’re a dominant male.
This may be hard to do at first, especially if you’re the shy type, but there are exercises you can do to get more comfortable with it.
Try maintaining eye contact with anybody, regardless of whether or not you’re attracted to them. You can also try looking at the bridge of her nose or her eyebrows, instead of directly in her eyes, as she won’t be able to tell the difference.
Areas you must avoid when using eye contact
Girls always complain about guys looking at their chest when talking with them, (and making zero effort to hide it.) Most girls are swarmed by guys checking out their asses, breasts, and other “danger zones.”
Remember, your aim in the game is to appear different from your male competition.
With that said, be careful not to focus in on anything other than her eyes when interacting with her.
A good rule of thumb is to maintain your gaze above the neck, since anything below it is generally off limits (until she gives you the “green light,” of course.) Her eyes, hair, smile – these should be things you focus on.
Another “danger zone” to avoid when hitting on a specific girl is other women. Think about it: If a girl was chatting with you, only to give her attention to every other guy in the room as well, you’d be kind of confused, and that is exactly how it is with the opposite sex.
It has been said that a smile can be interpreted across the world, and this is so true. A smile shows your sincerity, whereas the lack of a smile can turn people off to you.
The bottom line is if you really want flirting success, you’re going to have to show your ‘pearly whites’.
Practice your smile in the mirror, and keep doing it until it looks real. Body language experts have various ways of determining whether or not a smile is genuine.
First off, the person smiling actually shows teeth. Mind boggling, I know; but you’d be surprised at the difference between a closed-mouthed smile, and a big beaming grin.
Another trick used by experts is to examine the eyes of whoever is smiling (didn’t I tell you the eyes were important?) Nine times out of ten, a person who smiles without the corners of their eyes crinkling is faking it, so make sure to crinkle the corner of your eyes when smiling.
Women look for cue as to what you’re really like. Similar to your eyes, your posture tells a lot about how you feel about yourself.
Life’s hard enough as it is; you don’t want depressed, unconfident people consuming your time too. You can use your body to attract the opposite sex simply by standing with your feet apart. It’s no secret that a person whose arms are crossed is very guarded, so make sure to leave your hands by your side (outside of your pockets.) If you’re having difficulty with this, try hooking your thumbs in your belt hoops, pointing your fingers down towards your crotch.
When standing in a group, take up space in a crowded area by maintaining a broad stance. Inferior guys allow others to push them around, so hold your ground by not letting others take up your space.
Walk tall, keep your shoulders back, and hold your head up high. Slow down physical movements, and when speaking, add in pauses between your sentences.
When sitting, lounge back, sling your arm around the back of the chair, and expose your crotch. This shows that you’re at home and completely comfortable in any situation.
Walking and posture very often go hand in hand, but how you move across a room requires a section all to itself. If you’re walking too fast, you may come off as appearing stressed out, anxious, and the like. On the flipside, walking with little to no life in you could very well give your date the blues. You need to find a happy medium between the two extremes.
Walk with purpose, but move a little briskly.
Your walk should command attention. A slower, non-sluggish walk conveys confidence, so try to move in a relaxed, fluid stride. Your movement should make the girl feel comfortable in your presence.
Your goal when first approaching a woman is to gain her trust and break past her initial barriers towards men. You also want her to chase you.
But let’s say you already had your initial meet-and-greet with her, and now you’re taking her out on an actual date. The “red light” on touching has now turned to “yellow,” which (for those of you who failed Driver’s Education) means you should proceed with caution.
Your goal is to express your interest in her, but not in a sexual manner. Don’t touch the stuff that makes you appear too forward. Some good ideas would be to touch her forearm when you’ve thought of an idea, or gently place your hand on the small of her back when holding the door open for her.
Doing so will show her that you’re interested in being more than her friend, but you’re not a pervert eagerly awaiting the chance to get in her pants. [Please read more here; Proven ways to flirt successfully with touching]
Be careful of your voice when flirting with a woman (or anyone around her, for that matter.) Talk slowly and with deliberation – not like you’re hopped up on crack. Relax, and convey the rich texture of your voice by believing firmly in what you’re saying.
A good side point to this topic is to know when to shut up. Only someone truly lacking confidence deems it necessary to speak over everyone else.
Not only that, but people are generally turned off by arrogance.
Your mother was right: It is rude to interrupt, so don’t try to interrupt her when you are talking with her.
Final Thoughts on Your Body Language
You don’t have to have male-model looks to be attractive to women. For that matter, you don’t have to be rich, popular, or any combination of the two either.
If you’re conveying the correct body language, you’ve got all the tools you’ll ever need in both love and life.
Through strong body language, you’re projecting a masculine, confident demeanor.
You’re communicating that you’re interested in a girl, without seeming low status.
Coupled with nice clothing, hair, and other physical features, your body language can give off an aura of sexuality to practically any female.
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