How To Help Your Partner Discover The True You By Sharing Your True Self
I have discovered overtime that many people are not aware of the dream of their partner, their self-identity and what they truly desire has not been shared with their partner. This is not good for any relationship; it can only help anyone’s relationship to grow apart and eventually bite the dust.
I asked a friend of mine Femi, what are your dreams and what are the thing you secretly desire to live a better future? His wife Jenny quickly jumped in and said, he wants to build a duplex near the beach.
However, Jenny was completely stunned by Femi’s response, he said, actually I want to build a charity home to help the needy children around the community.
The expression on Jenny’s face reflected something has gone wrong with both of them, their inmost desire are not truly being shared.
Jenny asked shockingly, how come you did not tell me about this your dream before? Femi told his wife what lots of partners tell each other when question like this comes up; “Because you never ask me about it”
It may be hard to believe this, and something like this does not just happen skeletally but it happens to whole lots of partner out there who has known each other for long but their dreams are not known by the partner. This is not good at all for any relationship.
I understand that people’s personality are set throughout their life, and that’s when someone is extrovert or introvert, the person continue to stay that way for most part of their life. But when it comes to dream and desire in life, they do change over time.
When you harbour unspoken dreams and internal hopes, there’s every tendencies that you’ll gradually grow apart from your partner, you’ll feel disconnected and before you know it, one of you or even both of you will say “we just grew apart”, why this will happen is because, there’s no relationship satisfaction due to lack of understanding of the true nature of your partner.
To help your partner to discover the true you and not waiting for him or her to ask you, just like Femi expected Jenny to ask him about his dream and desire. It is important for you to share your internal hopes, dreams and desire with the one you love with reason and don’t forget to always do this whenever you have a change of mind about your secrets wishes.
You can arrange a date with your partner specifically to talk about your dream, issues like money, work or any other stressful subject should be omitted from your discussion, that will make you truly and willingly to share your secrets wishes with your partner.
You can just take the long walk maybe at the beach and focus on your partner whiles both of your shares your innermost desire as you walk along or you can as well look for a solely place where you can concentrate on issues like this to pour out your innermost desire.
