Who Has The Actual Power In A Relationship

The question of who has the actual power in a relationship has nothing to do with whether you’re woman in the house or the man in the house, it is not because you pay the bill or you’re the one sitting at home doing the entire house chore, it has nothing to do with whether your spouse need you more than you need your spouse. It is just only one person that is in control of any working relationship.

You feel surprise huh? I want to make it known to you today, that what you just read above is nothing but the fact. That person has the power to make relationship and marriage work or go the opposite way. But one funny thing about this is that, the person never gets to know of how much power he or she possess until sometimes too late.

So, who has the actual power in a relationship? That person is actually “YOU” Find out why by reading the rest of this post below and you’ll see why the person paying the bill or not is not the person that has the real power in a relationship and that can make the marriage work.

You possess the power and also you have the choice to either react to circumstances you find yourself in your relationship, (usually by complaining about your marriage, allowing yourself to be bogged by negative emotions, or feeling out of control), or to take responsibility and choose your actions. No one can hurt you without your consent, a factual statement made by Eleanor Roosevelt.

Believe it or not, you can choose how you response to issues in your relationship even if you can’t change your partner’s ways of behaving. You can internalize the blame, the hurt, and the criticism, or you can take responsibility for your own feelings and choose to act the way you want to feel. [Must Read: Top 4 causes of divorce and how to avoid them]

The power is in your hand, act the way you want to feel toward your spouse. If you want to feel more loving toward your partner, act more loving. If you desire a happier and healthy marriage, act it out with more smile and expression of gratitude for the greater things your marriage has brought into your life.

It’s a psychological part of human nature, the more you act in the way you want your relationship to be, the more of that result you’ll be seeing. If you decide to act thankfully, peacefully, lovingly, affectionately and so on towards your marriage, you marriage will be experiencing those good virtues and attributes.

Few people realize this. When a marriage begins to crumble, their first instinct is to act out their emotions. They feel hurt, so they lash out. They feel criticized, so they become defensive. They feel vulnerable, so they close up. These are reactions, not actions. Your feelings should NOT make you act in ways that you don’t want to.

You have the power to transform your marriage, even if your partner doesn’t want to. That’s because your behavior has a massive influence on your spouse, to the point that married people actually grow alike over time. This is the very reason why married people look alike after sometime in the marital life. We can’t help but pick up our partner’s moods, preferences, ways of doing certain things and even the way we talk.

I have no doubt in me right now; that you have agreed with me that only you have the power to make your relationship a successful one.

Truly, if you can transform yourself, your attitude, your manners, your ways of communication in your marriage, and how often you show love and affection to your spouse, your partner got no choice and in fact, he or she will be incapable of resisting you.

A happy, fulfilling relationship begins with you, so make use of the power positively and make your relationship and marriage a yardstick for others to measure up. Like what you just read now, please give us a Facebook fan page like right now. Thank you.