The Perfect Partner

A reporter asked a couple, “How did you manage to stay together for 65 years?” The woman replied, “We were born in a time when if something was broken, we would fix it, not throw it away.”

I didn’t quite believe this quote until I saw a couple at their 90’s—the old woman was blind and the man was helping her with her walking stick. They were strolling past the village and from how they looked like, they were old but happy. Then, I realized that a long and lasting relationship really is possible. They were not the usual couple who were just trying to get by. They were the ones who woke up for a single purpose: To love and cherish each other.

I’m no expert in relationships. I have had a lot of failed ones and if there’s one thing I’ve learned from all of them, it’s that nobody is perfect and to accept that you also have imperfections is to also learn to love the person you found.

Nobody’s Perfect

All of us are sinners, and yes, I am generalizing. Nobody is and will ever be perfect, and one thing that you must learn is to love the person fully—meaning, you have to take the good with the bad. If you see minimal flaws in your partner, do not try to change it unless it already affects you emotionally, spiritually, mentally or physically. Also, you must realize that you are not the only one adjusting. Your partner probably has hundreds of things he/she doesn’t like about you, and since he/she is taking you whole-heartedly, you must also learn to accept him/her fully. Guys, even if she has her mood swings because she has her monthly period, you must understand that it’s just her hormones giving you that silent treatment. Girls, you must give your man space. There are just times that he wants to enjoy with his friends, and that doesn’t mean that he is cheating on you. Love is not the only thing that you need in a relationship. You have to learn to respect, trust and accept each other. [Also Read; Finding the perfect online dating; 6 essential rules you must follow]

Infatuation and Love

Before you settle, you must learn the major difference between being infatuated and loving a person. Infatuation means you can feel butterflies inside your stomach. It is when you get excited every day because you know you will be able to see her. Love, on the other hand, is completely different. It is loving the person against all odds—meaning, even if you are against yourself. Even if there is already familiarity and the mystery isn’t there, you get to love the person completely and without hold-backs. Even if you know she snores and she has all the qualities you find annoying in a person, you still choose to love her. Even if you know there are hundreds out there waiting for you to be single, it’s choosing her over the millions of fish in the sea because you know you can never find anyone like her. Love is not just a feeling, it is a choice.

And once you find this kind of love, never let it go.

Mikhaela D. is a blogger from Bait Ex Back, a blog created to you get your ex back.