Dating After Being Alone for a Long Time

Dating After Being Alone for a Long Time

The notion of owning a license to do everything you desire, at whatever time you feel the need, and living up to your own, set standards since you’re spouseless is from time to time a breathe-easy feeling.  Waking up at noon, living off of fast food, and presuming that housework and order are voluntary, are just a handful of the many advantages along with the several downfalls of being single.  It’s important to remember the fundamentals of existing as human beings.  We must accept that all creatures require companionship, and once solitude or boredom strikes us, daily routines become repetitive.  Be that as it may, in some circumstances, a bachelor or bachelorette might find it quite difficult to get out of this “rut” and shake off the initial fear of getting back out there.  Nevertheless, we must acknowledge that our chance to redeem a lasting relationship is not ancient history, but rather the start of a new beginning.

Escaping Life’s Biological Clock:  Re-invent Yourself

Come what may, your former relationships, extensive or short-lived, all cause us to experience a state of shock at first.  As victims, we must realize that it is like a head-on attack for our self-esteem because the breakup might have happened for something you were, physically or charismatically-speaking.  Generally, time does indeed take its course, and ultimately “heals.”  However, sometimes it feels almost inconceivable to ask a potential date for their phone number or to gather the courage to go out for a typical dinner and a movie date.  This does not mean that you’re a deadbeat or a failure, but rather that your body requires some healing time to reassess past relationships, why they’ve failed, and how they could be more successful in the future.

Pointers for a New you

Consequently, the best technique to have an effective first date is by quote-on-quote “re-inventing” yourself.  Treat yourself to a few self-esteem-booster activities like getting an new haircut, buying an up-to-date wardrobe, financing a fancy gadget that you’ve wanted for a long time but you couldn’t because it wasn’t in the monthly budget, learning a few different tricks for the bedroom, and most importantly, releasing your positivity and common sense from its dark closet.  Contemplate what you’ve done before to get dates and give these old methods a new twist.

Know What Your Opposite Sex is looking for

Girls will be girls and guys just the same, but even though it may not give the impression of being promising, both genders look for similar qualities to build an effective, long-term relationship.  Some of the main ones to keep in mind would be trust, respect, fidelity, spontaneity, consistency and communication.  In addition, it is assumed that not all individuals are identical, and that every person is entitled to perceive and desire however they want to when it comes to possible relationships.  Each person should compose a list of pros and cons (literally or mentally) once the possible candidates for a relationship turn up and before getting back to the dating world.  Then, you must take into account that as soon as Mr. or Mrs. Right bangs on your hypothetical door, you will realize that it’s finally time to grab the key and allow them to cross the threshold into your world.

Author Byline: I’m the Co-Founder and Webmaster of several dating sites including Chicks for Dating website (http://www.chicksfordating.com). I started in the dating area in 2005, writing articles and press releases as freelancer and helping in the envisioning and development of international dating websites (most of them from Latin-America  and Europe), believing that technology can help soul-mates to find real love and long-term relationships. I enjoy my free time reading technology articles, walking and hearing music dreaming in new dating projects.

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