At times, comparison in a relationship can go either ways; it could be bad and it could be good. We are all entitled to our own opinions so to me, comparing your ex with your present partner isn’t such a good idea.
Well, I can only speak for myself based on my own understanding on certain issues but what do you think?
In this article, I’ll be giving you some possible reasons why I think you should not compare your ex with your present partner.
You cannot get the ideal person:
One of the reasons why some people make comparisons in their relationships is because they feel one person should be better than the other person.
Most times, if you leave a relationship for another one, it gets to a point in that present relationship when you start thinking back to your former relationship.
At this point, you start comparing some things about your ex with your present partner.
The truth is that nobody is ideal and there is no way you can get the ideal individual.
It is perfectly normal to want to regret some decisions you made but know that every human being has his or her own issues. What issue one person does not have, someone else will definitely have it; this is how life is.
The best thing is to be content with what you have and try to make the best out of your relationship.
It cannot change the situation of things:
Comparing your ex with your present partner will not change the situation of things in your life; it will only make you feel worse than you already are.
Except you decide to quit that relationship, you cannot change the fact that you are already in a relationship with that person.
What do you want to do about it? You are already dating him or her and cannot undo what has already been done.
I therefore see no reason why you should embark on comparison.
Reflect on why you left your ex:
When you start feeling like comparing your ex with your present partner, it is good to try to remember why you left him or her in the first place.
Your reasons for calling the relationship quits can’t be a good one so why not reflect on that so you don’t feel too bad about your present relationship.
You won’t be able to give your all in your present relationship:
Comparing your ex with your present partner will not give you the opportunity to stay focused in your relationship.
If you keep looking back, you will not be able to move forward progressively.
It leads to misunderstandings:
If you keep comparing your ex with your present partner, you will always have misunderstanding with your partner.
This is because you will always find faults in what your partner does and if he or she is not meeting up to your expectation, you might feel disappointed.
You will expect so much from your present partner:
Comparing your ex with your present partner will only lead to your partner feeling insecure and inferior.
This will happen especially if your partner knows about this comparison. He or she will feel like you expect so much from them and when that doesn’t happen it makes them feel bad.
It breaks trust in a relationship:
Comparison in a relationship breaks down trust. How can your partner learn to trust and confide in you if he or she knows you are using your ex as a yard stick to measure them?
You will not be fulfilled:
What is the whole essence of being in a relationship? One of such is for companionship? If you keep comparing your ex with your present partner, you won’t get the total fulfillment you are looking for.
How will you settle down if you can’t be content with whom your present partner is? You will just end up jumping from one relationship to the next in search of “the one.”
These amongst so many other reasons are reasons I feel comparing your ex with your present partner is not such a good idea.
What do you think?