Having a threesome is an erotic adventure that almost all men and women dream of. It can add diversity to ones sex life and strengthen relationships where the sex has become stale.
Swedish vs. Russian threesomes
The Swedish threesome and the Russian threesome are terms commonly used for a sexual practice involving three people.
- Swedish threesome – sex of one woman with two men
- Russian threesome – sex of one man with two women
Threesomes have been around since the first ancient civilizations, sexual orgies belonged to everyday life and pastimes. The name of the Russian threesome is said to be derived from an atypical Russian horse trio. In contrast, the name Swedish threesome allegedly comes from medieval Europe, when Swedish invaders massively raped continental women.
For men, the Russian threesome is generally a much more attractive idea, although on the other hand, in this group, the man theoretically has much more work to do to satisfy both women. The Swedish threesome involves two men and one woman.
Threesomes – the sexual experience that everyone dreams of
A recent long-term Canadian study, the “What People Want study”, which involved more than 4,000 people, provided interesting information about sexual fantasies.
- 96 percent of people have secret sexual fantasies.
- Most people dream of threesomes- as many as 89% of respondents.
- Women enjoy the idea of intercourse with another woman the most.
- Women dream twice as much as men about having sex with a person of the same sex.
- Both sexes like the idea of watching their partner while having sex with someone else.
- The most common age group dreaming about threesomes is 40 to 50.
Most people never decide to materialize their sexual fantasies. In general, however, it can be said that young people and those aged 40 and over are involved more in sexual experimentation, including threesomes. It is known that sex can become stale after 40.
Inviting another sexual partner, male or female, can be a pleasant erotic diversion. But you need to be extremely careful, because this act can kick your relationship in the wrong direction as well as completely destroy it.
How and who to invite to your bed?
Experimenting in the bedroom is certainly great, but in this case you can’t just think for yourself. It is absolutely essential to communicate with your partner when planning a threesome. If one of you has a doubt then you should talk and find an alternative that suits you both.
Jealousy is one of the key things you need to discuss with your partner in advance. If you know that your partner is jealous of everything that flickers around you, then a threesome is probably not a good idea. You should not do anything that could jeopardize your relationship.
If you have already made it clear that you both want to try it, then the only thing you lack is the third person. Agree in advance if it should be someone you know or a complete stranger. Often, choosing someone you know is easier and safer for you and your friendship.
Who to invite into the threesome?
- A friend
- A classmate or colleague from work
- An unknown person, which you will find through an advertisement / dating site or someone you like (saleswoman, waitress, fitness boy, etc.)
- A professional paid partner
- A sex doll – the ideal way to try a Russian or Swedish threesome cleanly, safely and without worries
3 rules for a successful threesome
For most men, it is almost inconceivable that they should be in bed with another man and share a partner with him. Much more often, couples have threesomes in the presence of another woman.
It is generally more acceptable for women to cuddle with a friend than with a stranger. So if you are going to take another woman under the duvet, she should have at least a little lesbian appetite so that she can loosen up with both the man and the woman.
As for men, they prefer to invite someone they know well to play. They share a partner better with a loved one. On the other hand, women prefer to look outside their friend circle because they can’t imagine how they would look their acquaintances in the eye. What about you? Do you know with whom you would like to have a threesome with? Before you start implementing it, think about the potential risks.
Pros and cons of the third in bed
Your fantasies can turn into a very unpleasant reality. In the same way, if you follow the above rules, you have a chance to enjoy a truly extraordinary erotic experience. Consider the possible pros and cons of fulfilling your sexual fantasies:
– feelings of jealousy, contempt, danger, separation
– silent household
– loss of partner trust
– relationship breakdown
– loss of intimacy in a relationship
+ strengthening the relationship
+ shifting sexual boundaries
+ exploring one’s own sexuality
+ shared experiences
+ confidence building
A threesome is just a bit like Russian roulette. Exciting and dangerous.
Movie tips
Swedish threesome, 1994
Young Alex comes to college to spend the next few years of her life. But there is a small misunderstanding. Thanks to her name, Alex considers the school computer a man and assigns her a common room with two students. The computer is never wrong and Alex is powerless against his decision. They come to terms with their destiny and soon complex relationships begin to develop between the three roommates. Stuart longs for Alex, Alex longs for Eddy and Eddy – he’s not sure yet what his sexual orientation is.
Swedish threesome, 2006
Try to introduce your wife to your mistress. You will have a lot of fun. Maybe. Julian is a handsome and successful college professor who is happily married to Chalice. But a beautiful student from Spain, Elena, gets involved in their lives. Julian falls madly in love with her and cheats on his wife, though he doesn’t like it. He therefore decides to carry out a crazy plan and convinces his wife that they could try a threesome. Of course, the third person is Elena. Chalice agrees, but things are not going as Julian had originally expected. He starts to feel like he is the fifth wheel of the car.
