How Not To Ruin Your New Relationship
It can be so overwhelming when you just got into a new relationship. It is just like everything else you so much desire, it can take almost all your time trying to make the best of it. I have seen it happening with those that just bought a car, those that have just bought a house, those that have just got a new lucrative job and the list goes on and on. All these things will almost take all your time and getting into a new relationship is not exempted in this kind of scenario.
In other for you not to ruin your new relationship, there are some certain thing you need not doing, just because she agreed to be in a relationship with you doesn’t mean everything will turn our right. You need to know and avoid those unhealthy attitudes that can ruin your newly found love.
These tips will help you not to ruin your new relationship if you follow the advice.
I have seen many people changes especially when they just newly get into a relation but instead of that helping their relationship to grow; it started affecting their relationship negatively. You need to be yourself and not trying to be someone else in other to please your partner.
Don’t allow the fact that loving someone new will make you wanting to be around her every now and then makes you lose your concentration in other important area of your life. If you give too much time for the love, you may suffer in other area of your life that keep your life going before meeting your new love. Be yourself and don’t go overboard because you want your new relationship to flourish, it will not work that way, you’d need to allow it grow in its own pace.
Don’t be too obsessive
It is easy to want be around her, want to be the next person she sees when she wake in the morning even when you have not married her, you just want to be everything and all thing around her. Doing all of these every time shows that you’re obsessed about your newly found relationship, and you know what obsession does? It makes you lose control over yourself, get jealous of her and hold on to little misunderstanding that may arise in the shortest time possible.
Relationships, of all kinds, are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold on to some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact, but held too positively, and the relationship slips away and is lost
Learn to give personal space
When you cling too much to your partner all in the name of love, or because you’re so sure that you head over heels in love with her and you want to occupy her space to fill up all what she want. You will be wrong doing all of that, wanting to be around her at all the time. There is need for a personal space and until you begin to cherish this period, you may not have the best of your love. You should remember that she has a life, just as you too have yours before meeting you and agreeing to be in relationship with you. Respect her personal space; give her that breathing space for freshness life and she can learn other necessary things that will make the relationship grow.
The bottom line here is that, you should build yourself independently in the relationship and then you have something to share when you come together. If you spend too much time together you have nothing new to share with one another.
If you follow these few pointers and apply it into your new relationship, you can be sure that you will not ruin your new relationship. They may all look simple but you will be surprise by the greater positive effect they are going to have in your new relationship. Your woman too will respect you because; it shows that you’re adult that can handle your relationship very well. You know what it take to keep your new relationship going.