A lot of people may say that age is a state of mind, that a person is only as old as they feel. That is an upbeat and optimistic approach to aging; however the question is if that applies when it comes to relationships? The romantic in me wants to say no. If the two of you love each other, then go for it; love will conquer all. But the pragmatist in me says differently.
It has quite often been acceptable for a male to be the older person in a relationship. Some issues can arise if the opposite happens; that is, a younger man going out or dating an older woman
Women who mainly date much younger men are labeled as “sugar Mummy.” A young woman in a relationship with an older man may be labeled either as “aristo” or a “gold digger”. Much meaning may not be attributed to a male being much older because if the male is many years older than the female, it is possible to have a secure and loving relationship in which there is an age difference, if both people involved understand certain issues that may arise and they can work together to resolve them. Although men can father children well into old age, but how will your child feel about having a dad as old as his friend’s grandparents?
Whether you find yourself to be the younger or the older person in a relationship, take into account whether your maturity levels match. You may find in life that a fifty year old and a thirty year old can be very similar in regard to their maturity level. This all depends on their life experiences, personal outlooks and goals. If you’re mature enough, you should be able to communicate effectively and talk things over.
Another aspect to consider is if the age difference will interfere with your own personal goals. Whether you want to concentrate on your career, have children or spend your free time travelling; ask yourself if your partner’s age difference agrees with your way of life. Discuss the future, not just the present situation. Some topics to consider are finances, children, retirement goals and career choices. You may find it very useful to choose a time to sit down and seriously talk about how the age difference may affect your lives one year, five years and possibly twenty years down the road.[Read Basic things you much know before rushing into relationship]
I’m not sure if age matters but maturity plays a bigger role. If you are both at the same level and want the same things out of your relationship, then I say go for it. Most things that are worthwhile come with a challenge and age barrier relationship is no different.
The Bottom line is that, It’s not the age that’s the problem; it’s the maturity of both parties. And there are also loads of other factors that affect a relationship. You can’t really classify people based on their age, on one hand there are some people who never grow up and on the other there are teenagers who are mature beyond their years. Even a couple with a large age gap could be compatible with each other; it all comes down to their personality.
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