Curtailing The Bed Time Rhythm
Do Parents Really Need To Compel Their Children to Sleeping Early
Bedtime could be a time of frustration for several parents. They wish it might be a charming time to reconnect with their kids to strengthen bonds; however, this is not the case in most cases. Here are some useful tips to help in creating those memorable dreams
Bedroom Time versus Bedtime
The process to bedtime should begin with renaming bedtime itself. Children understand at this point that “bedroom time” is the time to be in their rooms, however not essentially with their eyes closed. Parents should not attempt to manipulate the uncontrollable like, “You get to bed and sleep, now!” this can creates a power tussle between the child and his parents which in most times many parents might not find it easy to control because a skillful kid will keep his parent engaged with the argument for hours.
Low pitch Time
Bedroom time could be a journey in itself. It starts with “low pitch time”. A slowdown procedure is important. Children’s brains function at a high pitch and do not shut off as quickly as those of adult. Parents ought to announce the start of slowdown time about 45 minutes to bedroom time.
Slowdown time includes putting out all stimulating activities such as TV, high pitch music, and family fun games. It is also a great time to offer children choices like:
- “Do you wish to get to bed immediately or in ten minutes?”
- “Do you wish to wash your teeth in your bathroom or in mine?”
- ”Do you wish for a story now or your bath first?”
- “Do you wish for milk in your room or in the living room?”
- “Do you mind if I carry you or you walk on your own?”
- “Do you mind having the light on or off?”
There is magic in having choices. They speak on to the human want for autonomous and may turn out wonderful results. Make sure to offer options you prefer. Never offer one alternative you prefer and one you do not. Allow your kids no more than 12 seconds to making his decision. If they take longer, make the choice for them. Children become fast decision-makers once they grasp that their parents would be making the choice for them if they do not act quickly.
Some children prefer to negotiate within the face of selections. Resist the temptation to argue or reason at this point, use words such as “I love you dearly to argue about this, perhaps you’ll like tomorrow’s selections better”. Repeat this phrase as typical as necessary without anger. Bear in mind there is nothing more discouraging than a yawn. Experiment with yawning and acting sleepy throughout story time. It would be nice and fun to see those drooping eyelids.
Once the children are in bed that is where they should stay. Announce that “kid’s time” is over and it is now “light out”. Persist with your guns on this as children are known to resorting to gimmicks like, “Am scared in here, there are monsters in here”. Simply bear in mind children take their emotional feelings from their parents. The best approach is to retort in a very firm, nonetheless warm way like; “Well, sweetie, my advice is you make friends with them so that they can let you be. See you in the morning. I love you sweetie!” Parents, please let us all try this tips, and join many parents who enjoy peaceful light out with their kids!
In addition, for those of our parent who has not imbibed this attitude of setting bedroom time for their kids! Please let us try to encourage this attitude as it was medically reaffirm in early 2015 after a two-year study by the National Sleep Foundation in the US that children need many hours of sleep on a daily basis in order to develop and function properly. Below are the new revised recommendations.
|Age / Condition||Sleep Hours Needs|
|Newborns (0 -3 Months)||14 – 17 hours per day|
|Infant (4 – 11 Months)||12 – 15 hours per day|
|Toddlers (1 – 2 Years)||11 – 14 hours per day|
|Preschoolers (3 – 5 Years)||10 – 13 hours per day|
|School – age children (6 – 13 Years)||9 – 11 hours per day|
|Teenagers (14 – 17 Years)||8 – 10 hours per day|
|Adults (18 – 64 Years)||7 – 9 hours per day|
|Older Adults (65 years and above)||7 – 8 hours per day|
The research also shows that by the time infants reach the age of 2; their brain size would have reached 90% of an adult – sized brain. This brain growth occurs mostly during the period of life with the highest sleep rate. These hours of sleep, influences their ability to perform cognitive tasks has they would have higher cognitive attainments with easier temperaments than other children would.