When is the Right Age to Get Married
The question that comes to mind of young adult is when is the right age to get married and at what time marriage beckon to an individual that it’s time to get into me. The average age to get married varied from country to country and even culture to culture, some get married at very tender age while in some culture your elder sister must marry as female before you can get married.
Knowing the right age to get married shouldn’t be the best question to ask yourself but how prepare are you for marriage since marriage can be done at any age. If you’re feeling too young to get married or you’re looking at yourself to have been somebody’s father but you’re still not marry has nothing to do with the right time to get married. As I said above, your readiness should be your determining factor for your marriage age and not your real age because looking at your age without your readiness for up and down of marriage may hurt your physical and emotional life which may lead to regret thereafter.
I want you to analyze these three questions which will help you to determine when is the right age to get married. If you cannot probably answer them well, then it means you’re still not ready to go the altar.
1. You and your partner are you guys emotionally matured?
Emotional maturity has a lot to play when it comes to marriage issues. You’ve been living all alone and try to control the way your emotionally response to issues around you and you’re not getting into someone’s nerve in your emotional reaction. But in marriage, your emotional reaction can be altered by someone else which is your partner. Do you have the ability to cope with that without raising issues with him or her. Both of you have to be emotionally mature before you can go into marriage at your age.
2. Are you financially capable?
Getting into marriage is not a child play, but I will tell you it’s an adult play and what that means is that it’s a serious matter that need your utmost attention. So being financially capable will put you in an easier position to get married when your right age come, an age that no one will determine for you but your financial capabilities can be your determinant. Your father is not going to give you pocket money anymore so also your mother will not do so, you must have a reasonable level of income on your own before deciding on your marriageable age. Marriage comes with lots of financial responsibilities you must ready to bear. When you’re financially capable, then going into marriage will even afford you to prepare to save for your family future purposes.
3. Can you compromise and accept your partner’s shortcomings
Going into marriage mean you will have to compromise in your marital relationship without which marriages fail. Your ability to compromise in your marriage is an added advantage to the marriageable age. Both of you are coming from different background with probably different culture even similar culture to do have some differences. When your partner will need something in place of your own want, can you give up your want for her need?
You surely know that you’re not perfect, so also your partner is not expected to be perfect either, there are shortcomings that will be coming from your partner that ordinarily you can’t take it from anybody when you’ve not married. Can you accept such shortcomings like your partner snoring at night, or someone that easily forget himself or herself, or perhaps someone who don’t love to be disturbed at all when he/she is sleeping, it might be someone who love to wake up in the middle of the night looking for what to eat. These are shortcomings that could arise in your marriage; can you be able to cope with any of these?
If you can answer the three questions with affirmative answer, then you’re at the right age for your marriage. Then your question of when is the right age for marriage has been answered by you yourself.
Do you think there is something you want us to talk in term of marriage age that we don’t talk about here, please feel free to let us know or perhaps you have some contributions to make in addition to what we’ve just shared above, please share it with us, we value all contributions here.