Wedding is serious stage in your life, and going into it blindly is not the best idea. The less information you have about marriage, marital relationship and your partner, the more likely you are to face challenges and make a lot of marriage mistakes. Those who have walked this road before would tell you better. My advice is “Do not try to learn things the hard way. This may leave you with hard to heal emotional wounds and indelible scars.
The majority of women learn about relationship and marriage the hard way. They walk down the aisle and marital life worn out with emotional scars, broken hearts, abuse, confusion, anger and sleepless nights. You can learn about relationships and marriage the hard way, but the majority of women who have tread that path will tell you that it is such a great price to pay and the consequences plus the long time effects are very excruciating! Smart women recognize this undeniable truth. To avoid these marriage mistakes, you must learn from the mistake of others.
Even though the search for lasting love can be draining, exasperating, and disheartening; many have successfully found true love, lived or are living happily. You too can be part of the winning side of the game but making smart decisions before entering into marriage is a huge part of this picture. In order to help you make smart and correct decision about the man to walk down the aisles with, we have provided for you 17 mistakes women often make while entering into marriage and things you could do to circumvent them.
It is a fallacy to think that all men are the same. There are two types of men: Dishonorable men and honorable men. You should never date or marry a man till you have discovered which category he belongs. You will always live to thank God if you do. A reputable man would always do reputable things while a disreputable man will always indulge in disreputable things. By their fruits, you will know them. A bad tree would always bear bad fruits while a good tree always bear good fruit. You can’t expect to pick a fruit from among thorns and thistles. Expecting a dishonorable man to do the honorable thing is like expecting piranhas not to devour you if you mistakenly dive into their water.
A dishonorable man will toil with your emotions, use you like a piece of rag and dump you. He won’t care about your person. Neither will he value your womanhood. All he is after is your flesh, your money or security. He only wants to pounce on you like a predator devouring its prey. He doesn’t care about your future or your happiness. There is no amount of good you do to such a man that makes them change. After all, a bad tree would always produce bad fruit. Although he would flatter you are present but at your back, he would plan against you. He would leave you pregnant and drop you off on the streets not caring what you feel, your safety or the safety of the baby in your womb. He would turn you into a punching bag and the amount of abuse you would experience with such a man is enormous.
The majority of men know the difference and the faster you learn thattruth the better for you. If you fall short of that or care less to understand this glaring truth, you are definitely heading for relationship or marital break down and flame. If you happen to have sex with any man who is not meant to be your husband, a man who has no semblance of love for you but only interested in carnal relation he would deny that he ever know you let alone coming close to you or seeing your underpants. Make no mistake about it. If still do not understand ask any virtuous woman you know or an honorable man.
Remember your soul as a woman is very fragile. Disreputable men care less about this simple truth. They play with your emotions without any love, concern or sympathy. Therefore, you should be on your guard against these cold-hearted men meticulously.
You must be ready to ask your partner some crucial questions regarding your relationship and future life. It is very essential to avoid making marriage mistakes. The majority of women who neglect and ignore them eventually found out that they were necessary but then it is already too late. It may feel uncomfortable to ask your partner a group of questions but it is better you do it, because if you intend to spend your entire life with him, you’d better live with somebody you know very well rather than settle down with the superficial.
You don’t have to ask your man all these questions at a go or you would be scaring and sending him away. Instead, take your time and ask the questions as the situation presents itself and endeavor to go through all of them during your courtship before marriage. When you have successfully covered the following questions, you would have gathered enough information to enable you avoid most common mistakes women make.
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