Using the Power of Self Talk to Enhance Your Relationship
It is always a good idea to talk to yourself but it is bad when you start answering yourself back. Talking to yourself is quite useful and very important in living a good life; use the power of self talk to enhance your relationship. It doesn’t matter if you’ve married or you’re still single and searching. The important of self talk cut across all statuses.
Now before I move forward, it is a good idea for you to know what is this self-talk I’m talking about here, if you don’t have a clear picture of what really is self talk.
So, what is self-talk?
In a clear term, self talk is speaking to oneself, it may either be positively or negatively, that’s depends on you. In a more elaborate term, self-talk is the continual flow of unsaid words or thought that keep running through your head every day. Some of your self-talk comes from logic and reason. Other self-talk may arise from misconceptions that you create because of lack of information.
Now that you understand what self talk is all about, let us now move on to see how the power of self talk can be used to improve your relationship.
It is not enough to have several self talk every day without swinging to action, the old proverb which said “to know and not to act is not to know at all” when you do talk to yourself of what you need, you must take action on that which you find necessary to help you achieve something.
The power of self talk lies in the way it changes your pattern of behaviour. Correcting the way of your internal programming will help you improve your mode, emotion and feeling but it will not do the main job if you don’t step out to take the necessary action.
So now, how do you relate self talk to relationship enhancement?
This example will give you a better picture of how that can be done; say for instance, your self talk tells you something like “I can’t break up this relationship because I can’t stand being alone, even though the relationship is harmful to me,” the possibility is that, you will remain in that unhealthy and unhappy relationship locked down. To improve this kind of situation, use the power of self talk to put it more accurate in this way “I feel worried about breaking up and facing the idea that I might be alone for awhile. But if I really want to give myself a chance for the kind of relationship that is healthy and will make me happy, I must let go of this my present relationship.”
To make the power of your self-talk activated, it is important at this point to self talk to yourself about your new inner messages which will help you in your situation. In the cited example above, you’ll need to put an end to the present relationship, and with the help of additional encouraging and supportive self-talk, get back into social situations where you can meet new people and begin forming new relationships.
Very important! Don’t erroneously misuse the power of self talk and miss the real messages of what your relationship life pattern should follow. If your self talk is flawed, it will lead you into what you’ll latter regret. Negative self talk can present itself as being positive, it is your duty to differentiate between the two of them.
Another example here for you, when what is happening to you does not correlate with what you expected or predicted, it may be the cause of a flaw self talk. Think of a woman that just divorced, goes to parties and expecting men to approach or toast her, with no effort on her side to get these men attracted. When that expectation is not met, she will feels confuse, insecure and depressed.
If she has taken her time to scrutinize her self-talk before the party, she would have noticed that her idea is no more useful in the present days, “thinking that nice women don’t start conversations with strangers, so I should wait for people to come to me”.
It might have been more helpful had her self-talk been more along the lines of “I’m an intelligent, attractive woman. I have plenty of interesting things to talk about. I’ll look for chances to start conversations with the people I meet.”
Use the power of your self talk today to improve your relationship in any area of your life. I will love to hear from you, have you ever use the power of self talk to improve any area of your life? Feel free to let me know, use the comment box below to share your experience with not just only me but also every other readers of my blog. And again don’t forget to share it and or like our facebook fan page. I will be waiting to hear from you.