These days it can be difficult to mash up schedules enough to find a particular time to get together and reconnect with your family. Families are spending less and less time together as a result of this, and it seems that if nothing is done, this gap will just continue to grow. One way you can reclaim this connection is through family meal times.
As History Goes
It should not be hard to remember growing up, even if you have children that are about to be adults. For many people, their childhood held one thing in common, a family meal. This was a designated time every single evening where the entire family got together around the table and shared the events of their day over dinner. However, over the years this practice seems to happen less and less. In fact, many modern families operate on numerous different schedules that rarely find themselves matching up meal times at all.
Reclaiming The Time
The first thing that you are going to have to do in order to change this unfortunate circumstance would be to take everyone’s schedule into account for what it is right now. If you have teenagers or even some younger children than this, appreciate that they might also have important things happening. Extra curricular activities are a good example of this. Find a reasonable time among these collective schedules that the family meal could happen and let everyone know that it will be.
Hold Your Ground
Since it might not be an established routine, it might be difficult for teenagers and even some of the adults to take the meal seriously. However, whoever is initiating this process, hold your ground. Do not accept excuses and let people out of it. The more steady this schedule and routine is, the less and less likely it will be for anyone to try and get out of it happening.
Flexibility is Key
You can learn very quickly that if you have active children and a busy life yourself, that the consistent time for the family dinner might not be the same every day. While this set time will work well for certain families, it does not have to be set in stone. Flexibility will ensure that no one gets left out. So when there is a practice for soccer that is running later than usual, or a play rehearsal that is last minute, go with the flow. Adjust the plan, and get everyone together at a new time that evening.
You will find that there are more benefits to this getting together than just seeing one another once a day. This is an excellent opportunity to hear about the days of the entire family. This is where you can give helpful advice for problems someone might be having, laugh together over a funny story, and just reconnect. There should be no cell phones, no handheld gaming systems, and no computers.
Essentially, if you want family meals to happen in your home, you will have to initiate them. This might not be an entirely easy thing to do, and might take a bit of planning. However, with a little bit of dedication and preparation, you should have a routine rolling in no time at all.
Karli VanWinkle writes about family, finance & more
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