All unhappy families are unhappy in their own way, but, as a rule, it’s based on internal conflicts that occur between close people. Let’s figure out how to overcome all the contradictions.
Respect Each Other’s Choices
Remember: You should never try to change someone. You must understand and accept any decision your loved one makes. It’s his/her private life and no one else has the right to decide how he/she should live. Be tolerant not only of your friends and acquaintances but also of your family. So if your loved one enjoys betting at the best betting site in Nigeria or goes to bed at 2 am, you should never tell them that it’s wrong.
Respect Each Other’s Personal Space
If someone came home in a bad mood and preferred to communicate in a closed room, it isn’t a reason to find out about the relationship. We all need to be alone sometimes and take a break from those around us and from loved ones in particular. The best thing to do here is to understand and forgive, and when the person is ready for a dialogue, clarify if they are okay and offer help.
Learn to Understand Each Other
We often say hurtful things to loved ones, insulting and humiliating them. There is usually concern and anxiety behind it. At such times, it’s important to pull yourself together and not give free rein to feelings – you can undermine their credibility, to settle in a person a number of complexes and simply become angry. It’s important to replace negative emotions with positive ones – instead of condemning, giving support, tell them that everything will be okay, or give advice.
Don’t Give Unsolicited Advice
This is a delicate point. You have to be more careful with advice. In some situations, it’s better not to get involved. If you can’t just leave it at that, ask if your help is needed, and try to talk, following the wording “Don’t you think…?” The best support is a willingness to listen; remind yourself of it more often.
Don’t Be Bossy or Manipulative
We like to shift our responsibility to others, such as our parents. Who among us hasn’t parried, “I didn’t ask for the light!” or “You’re my mother, you owe me!” But parents also don’t fail to put their child in their place by pointing out financial dependence or age. Both sides are wrong. The main thing to remember is respect. You’re not competing, you’re not in a subservient relationship, you’re a family, and family members should take care of each other, take care of each other and be able to establish a dialogue.
Many families have an attention deficit problem. We come in tired from work or university, close ourselves off and pay no attention to anyone, while our relatives may need advice, need to talk, or just need our support. “How’s it going?” – is a simple question that will let the person know they are being thought of and cared for.