How You Can Save Your Marriage From Near Divorce
Marriage is an institution where you will be certified before you start it, and when started, it is expected that you’re not going to graduate from the institution. But in so many cases in the world today, many graduated from institution of marriage or I would rather call it, marriage institution drop out. The reasons why all these happen is as a result of one partner not being comfortable with the way the marriage class is going and they decided to call it quit.
Although marriage is not going to be all honeying at all time but it is expected that larger percentage of the years spend in marriage yield many positive fruits.
When your marriage is getting into crisis, what do you do? Where do you run to? How do you intend to put things in order? Who do you consult or seek advice from and many more questions are to be answered when things getting awry in marital life.
There are steps to be taken to ensure that things get normal and the marital bliss continues.
When you begin to fill something is wrong somewhere, it is your responsibility to call your partner and let him or her be aware of what you’re feeling and how you can get better off the situation. Let see some of the issues to be addressed and how you can save your marriage from near divorce.
Share your Feelings: it all started from this point when you refuse to share what you feel about your marriage discomfort heading south, sharing of feelings should be done in such a way to show that you’re ready to learn something and never in a demanding, whiny, or controlling manner. Instead of saying something like this “I feel insecure when you spend so much time with your friends” it would be much more better saying this way “I feel insecure when you spend so much time with your friends. I know this is my issue to deal with, and it would help me if you let me in on why this is so important to you” The first statement there shows the tone of a controlling sharing of feelings while the latter shows you’re ready to learn why thing is in the way.
Learning to stay Calm: There is this popular saying that two wrong cannot make a right, which is very true no matter what. At a point in your marital life there will be confrontation, the ability to stay calm when this circumstances arise will help you in dealing more with marital problem that can lead to divorce. When the other person is angry, if you say anything at all, it has to be absolutely meaningful else don’t say anything because it will aggravate the situation. It is a never a good idea to yell at each other if you want to preserve your marriage because it will destroy your marriage
Always Stay Committed to Your Marriage: Commitment to your marriage will surely make it work; couples who don’t commit often end up going separate way. Commitment is one of the key factors that every couple should place a priority on. If you want to stay out of commitment and looking forward to a crack marriage, think about the consequences on your children and your finances. Remember that it takes two to tango; you can always make it work again by your commitment toward your marriage.
There is no guaranteed that if you put an end to your marriage, you will meet another better person that will fit in into everything you wanted in a life partner. No one is complete, couples are meant to complement one another. Follow these few steps above and see how you can save your marriage from near divorce.