Nowadays, people carve stable and healthy relationships yet very few people are actually willing to make an effort to create such a relationship, to begin with. You may find a match on Tinder but there are slim chances that you’ll actually find relationship material there.
Therefore, it’s not only okay to pick and choose, it’s also necessary. Yes, relationships can be short-lived but they can also last a lifetime. It all depends on which partner you choose. Of course, relationships are a two-way street.
In other words, you must give to get but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be looking for qualities in your partner that will make the entire process more seamless. With that in mind, here are a few of the most important qualities your partner should have.
1. Passion
A passionate partner is basically a must have. It’s true that people start caring less as time goes by but that doesn’t mean that the passion is gone. Passionate people will and can reignite the spark no matter how much time has passed or what the circumstances are.
Therefore, look for a partner who will show genuine interest in you, especially when you propose to introduce some BDSM as a way to spice up the relationship. That being said, passion can slumber, sometimes for quite a while but it should never be extinguished.
2. Honesty
An honest partner is something everyone is searching for. People who can openly speak up about their problems, desires and ambitions, among other things, are, indeed ,rare but also valuable. Lies and deceptions create more problems than anyone is willing to tolerate in the relationship.
Honesty, on the other hand, is a foundation of a healthy and long-lived relationship that can flourish into something even greater. People need to realize that it’s them and their partner who need to tackle problems together, not battle each other while the problems fester.
3. Flexibility
Opposites attract, or so the saying goes. No matter how similar people may be, we’re all individuals with our unique mindset and views of the world. Your partner needs to have the flexibility that will allow them to understand your point of view. Whether or not you agree or disagree on some matter is irrelevant.
However, understanding each other and respecting each other’s choices and wishes is of vital importance. Flexible people are not afraid to get out of their comfort zone and try out new things, especially when their partner asks them to. They are willing to, at least give something a shot so that they can better understand and connect with their partner.
4. Attentiveness
We all have our good days and bad days. It goes without question that during difficult times, we don’t want to bother our partners with our issues. But that’s a mistake. A partner should always be willing to, at least listen to what you have to say. You’re well aware of the fact that you have to vent and get things out of your system one way or another.
Your partner should always be willing to lend you an ear when such things happen. In good or bad, listening is a sign that your partner has you undivided attention no matter what. They don’t have to say anything or provide any feedback. Just listening is often more than enough to resolve everything.
5. Common grounds
As mentioned before, opposites do attract but such relationships tend to be quite fiery and will dwindle pretty soon. If you want a stable and reliable relationship that will withstand the testament of time, you should look for a partner who has something in common with you.
Whether it’s a common taste in music, food or anything as such, having a common ground gives you something to build upon. People usually disagree on many a things but the things they have in common keeps them together. The rest is pretty much down to compromises. It’s easier to make a compromise when you have things in common than the other way around.
Closing Words
Finding an ideal partner is, in fact, challenging. However, that doesn’t mean that it’s impossible. Every time you hit and miss will discourage you from trying again but without effort, you won’t see any viable results. Therefore, be picky and to look for qualities in your partner that will ensure your relationship has both quality and quantity.
