What Stops You On The Way To Happy Relationship: Learn How To Enjoy Simple Everyday Things
You can’t find a couple or a family who didn’t have any problems (at least once in their life). Yes, some of them give up, but others overcome their problems and find happiness in simple things.
Psychologists from the PsychologyToday.com think that the easiest way to save your relationship is to start from the very beginning. The time when you still crazy in love with your partner is the best for it.
Unfortunately, we usually think about problems when we are too deep in them. Although you should remember that there is always a chance for your family, if both of you want to save it.
Some simple secrets of happiness:
Secret №1. Talk!
It happens very often that couples almost don’t communicate. There are many reasons for that, but the result is always the same – loneliness, misunderstandings and failed marriage. When you talk you become closer to each other, you understand each other better. If you don’t know what to talk about, start from some stupid things such as dinner, weather, your favorite movie, the new song you heard on the radio, everything you can imagine will be good. Remind yourself how it was when you just met.
Secret №2. Listen!
Sometimes, it is very hard to listen to your partner and it is even harder to understand what he or she is saying. Remember that when you stop listening to your ego, you start hearing your dearest person. It is very easy to notice when your mate is angry, sad or happy. React to what you see. When it is necessary you should say something to hearten him or her, when it is not, you can just hug your partner and let him or her feel your love. When your partner says that you do something wrong, listen to him/her, analyze the information and try to become a better person in your own eyes.
Secret №3. Ask for help.
Don’t be ashamed to ask for help. If you don’t like that only you cook, or clean or walk with a dog, or cut your grass lawn, ask for help. You can use sweet words, you can smile, you even can tickle your partner if it helps. Your mate can’t guess when you need help and when you don’t. So, telling about your needs is the necessary thing.
Secret №4. Don’t blame.
Stop for a minute and think of how many times per day you blame your partner. He didn’t wash the dishes last night and you think that he is lazy. She didn’t prepare the supper today and you think she doesn’t care about you. Such thoughts are wrong. You can’t know the reasons why your partner did or didn’t do something. Before blaming try to understand your mate, try to find excuses for his or her actions. Blaming is a bad thing, because when you blame someone every day, you forget about those good things you like about him or her.
Secret №5. Be together
When you understand that your relationship has problems, it is time to do something. Stop waiting that your mate will come to you first. If you really want to save your family then it is the right time for real actions. Read the list below and find those you like.
- Kiss each other any time you can.
- Eat together any time it is possible.
- Go to bed together.
- Wish something pleasant for a night.
- Make small surprises.
- Go for a walk.
- Clean together.
- Brush your teeth together
- Exercise together.
This list can be endless because everything depends on you. The only rule you should follow is that you need to do almost everything together. It can be hard at the beginning. Probably, you won’t have a desire for this. Yet, you just need to force yourself right now, to do it easily later.
If you have just started your relationships, use these tips to develop them in a right way. If you have years of your marriage, use them to improve your life. If you have problems in your relationship, use these secrets to fix it. Happiness is possible if you want it.
Stacey Marone is a graduate of Social Sciences and freelance writer for https://essays.scholaradvisor.com/. She likes exploring new cultures, languages and gathering interesting facts. In her free time, she also does volunteer work and organizes some activities for children. You can follow her on twitter.