Never Treat Babies With Any Of These 3 Things If You Care For Them
Parenting is never an easy stage in the life of everyone who decides to go that route, oftentimes, there’re no manual for you to look into that could have make the task a easy one. You will have to develop your strategies couples with some lay down principles to guide you on how you’re going to apply your manual in raising up your children.
Babies don’t love to be ignored or left alone, they make lots of signs that they don’t like these things. If it were in the case of puppies who hate to be ignored, they can start chewing your furniture and do something destructive that can easily call on your attention. Babies can’t destroy your furniture but their development gets undermined, the parent and the society have to live with their anxious and depressed state.
What 3 treatments you shouldn’t treat babies if you really want to show you care for them?
1. Never ignore your babies
This might sound like something everyone shouldn’t do for their babies but it is not just about ignoring the babies, it actually about you not to overlook the many signs your baby is giving you. Under natural birth condition, a baby love to communicate with the mother, father and the people in his surroundings and loves the feedback he gets from them provided the people are responsive and not feel ignorance of the signs he shows.
In Turnbull research in 1983, he noted that, some mother actually communicate with their baby right there in their womb especially through singing, talking and reading. The mother is responsive for moulding the spirit of the child with this kind of communication as mentioned above, this communication is supposed to be before and after birth.
Babies first 3years of life is the period at which they get to understand how the social world really works and their brain is develop along these lines. If a caring parent that does not ignore the child at this important period, the children under a responsive caring will develop a brain that work well, which help him to stay healthy and socially engaged and the relationship will continue in the rest of the baby’s life.
2. Don’t allow your baby to cry
Every pregnant woman on the day of delivery will want to hear the baby cries, this gives her joy and that her baby is alive. Yes of course, babies love to cry but they do that whenever they are not comfortable with their environment or treatment meted to them by their parents.
Can you imagine being in pain and no one care about your pain, you’re left alone to bear it. You will surely get angry with the people that are supposed to show care. This is what happens to babies when they cry, they feel their needs are not being attended to and they resort to crying to call on their parent attention. For a baby, being left to cry is just like a torture and this shouldn’t be allowed.
From past experiences and ancient wisdom, it is very important to develop a relationship with your babies in such that, you don’t allow him to cry. This is because, nearly all babies find it difficult to stop crying once they start and they may get into such habit knowing fully well that, that’s when you really pay attention to their distress and discomfort. Allowing your baby to cry for too long will distress his brain, this brain is growing rapidly at this stage and anything that disrupt that growth will have an adverse effect on the life of the baby.
What wisdom grandmother does it that, she ensures that she nip the discomfort in the bud by paying special attention to the child nonverbal signals
Whatever babies “practice” in the early months and years creates pathways in the brain that will be used over several times again. So if your option is that you want a disagreeable, uncooperative, aggressive child (and adult), then you can let him cry. Otherwise, you’re your babies happy. Distressing a baby regularly will build a disagreeable child that will distress your community later.
3. Don’t punish babies because you feel aggrieved
It is easy to wanting to punish your baby either by spanking or hitting him whenever you feel really hurt because of what he does. This might be a kind of immediate release of your frustration, but don’t punish him. Punishing young babies have long term negative effects on their life and some of these clearly damaging effects are;
(a) Your bay will likely develop less trust in your love and care for him, thinking that you’re not too save to feel relax around.
(b) Similar to the one above, your baby will trust himself less because, you as his parent has shown him that his desires are not important and this will surely affect his self-determinations (c) If you as a parent or caregivers punish him because he tries to explore his surrounding, this may affect his desire or motivation for learning and this can even affect his school accomplishment later in life.
(c) In term of physiological development, punishment will activate the stress response, which is not good in early life when thresholds and limits for functioning are being set. Such stress can lastingly hyper-activate systems related to stress, undermining your baby wellbeing and intellectual growth, thus making social relations more difficult for the baby.
The truth is that, to get off your baby to a good start, it takes lot of work, care and patient from you. You will have to ensure you never treat your babies with any of these 3 things aforementioned above.
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