If you are dating a married man or have ever dated one, you will agree with me that it is not the best thing to.
Many ladies do this for so many reasons such as frustration, love of money, loneliness etc.
These reasons are just not enough for a woman to date a married man.
These days ladies see nothing wrong dating married men and even if the society frowns at it, the practise is still on.
Here are some reasons why dating a married man is not ideal for you:
You will get your heart broken:
Dating a married man could be painful at times especially if you really love him.
You will get your heart broken over and over again because you will be in constant competition with his wife.
He may love you but his love will surely be divided.
He won’t give you all his time:
He can spend time with you but he can’t do it all the time. This is because he has to also create time for his wife.
You will long to have him with you all the time but you won’t get what you want.
This is the reality which is painful.
You won’t be completely happy:
When you are in a relationship, you should be happy. But when you are dating a married man, how can you be really happy?
Your mind will always remember that he has a wife at home and that you are not his totally.
These thoughts are enough to make you feel sad and unhappy.
You have no future with him:
You can’t have a good marital future while dating a married man.
Even if you have children for him, you will always be seen as the outside or other woman.
He may include you in his plans but you may not always be with him to accomplish them.
You won’t get all the love you want:
There’s something about love that makes it incomplete.
If you are dating a married man, he will try to show you love but that love will not be 100 percent.
He will definitely give all his love to his wife and reserve just some for you.
This may not be intentional but having expressed his love to her, he may only be able to express some to you.
There will always be a longing in your heart to feel more love from him but you may not get it.
You will always be second to him:
He will always think about his wife before thinking of you.
Before he makes any decision, he will consider her first.
How can you be fulfilled knowing this?
You will always be conscious of yourself:
When dating a married man, will you feel unashamed walking with him in public?
You will always think people are looking at you and talking about you.
It is true that people will talk no matter what but do you want people to always see you in that light?
Do you want to keep living this way?
You may chase potential suitors away:
When people see you regularly with a married man, they will have a notion about you.
Men who may like you will be repelled by this act of yours which will destroy your chances of meeting “the one.”
He may not marry you:
Who really wants to be a second wife? In some cases, the ladies marry them but in some, that is not what happens.
He may not marry you as he may just consider you to be his side attraction or mistress.
So do not get your hopes up thinking he will marry you.
Please think about this:
- Is dating a married man really worth it?
- Is he worth spending all your time, emotion and feelings on?
- Are you ready to spend part of your life or the whole of it as the other woman?